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mhstennis100
09-23-2007, 02:07 PM
I'm a sophmore in HS and I'm asking this girl I like to homecoming. I know she likes me too so I was gonna ask her, but then I was informed that you have to make it "special" or something. So I was thinking about getting her a build a bear to ask her. For those who don't know, you go to the store, stuff the bear and name it and crap.. She plays tennis so I was gonna give it the tennis clothes and name it Ace. Only problem is this is 30 bucks, then I have to pay for dinner for 2 homecomings (we go to different schools), so this will be very expensive. Would it be better to buy her some roses and just ask her, or would this not be special enough? By the way, I know she's going to say yes so it's not a concern.

Fedace
09-23-2007, 02:13 PM
You can just send her a electronic email with teddybear, and it wouldn't cost you anything.

ShcMad
09-23-2007, 02:20 PM
I'm sorry to differ with Fedace, but i wouldn't suggest asking her out via electronic methods (AIM, e-mail, etc). Whatever you decide to do, do it in person. It's just a little bit more personal, and girls like that.

Lakoste
09-23-2007, 02:33 PM
I wouldn't go with the teddy bear idea, it doesn't show much effort on your part. Definitely don't ask her online, very dumb. I would make some suggestions, but I don't know anything about her, or what she likes. Your rose idea is a solid one though, but just don't go up to her in front of all her friends and hand it to her and be like "You wanna?".

BTW If money is tight, I'd suggest you pay for her ticket at your homecoming, and she pays for your ticket at her homecoming.

xtremerunnerars
09-23-2007, 03:20 PM
I don't know about where you live, but around here it doesn't have to be ANYTHING like what you said OP.

If you can get some alone time with her then just ask her in person. Doing all of that other stuff sets a precedent and you'll have to top that every time. Also, that might seem cheesy for a homecoming date (it does to me.)

Fee
09-23-2007, 03:20 PM
Roses are a cliche. Do you know what month she was born? Each month has a flower, so you could give her the flower of her birth month, or the flower for the month of the Homecoming dance. You could also go to the florist and look at all the different flowers there, speak to someone about what makes each once different, and then give her whatever flower you like with a little bit of a 'spray' to make it look nice. You can probably do that for less than $20 and it says a lot more than going to the nearest grocery store to pick up a rose.

Personally, I think this whole thing of asking someone to a dance in a 'special' way is a bad side effect of the 'Laguna Beach' series, but no boy in high school should ever go broke because of a girl.

TokyopunK
09-23-2007, 03:54 PM
One of my buddys spelled out "HOMECOMING?" in tennis balls on the tennis court. Just an idea.

Mastermind
09-23-2007, 03:57 PM
You don't have to make it really special or anything. Homecoming isn't exactly the biggest event of the year in high school. Just do it in person, and if you're sure that she likes you, then you don't have a whole lot to worry about. Whatever you decide to do, you'll be fine. Good luck.

jinsol
09-23-2007, 04:27 PM
hey what school do you go to mhstennis100?

mhstennis100
09-23-2007, 04:54 PM
memorial high school. I was planning on just asking her and maybe a flower but everyone at my school goes over the top. And yea I don't want to set a high standard because then after that things will not live up to her idea of what I do. It's just a dance which is why I don't want to go all expensive but everybody pressures everyone else to.

jinsol
09-23-2007, 04:56 PM
eh nvm thought it was my high school

Topaz
09-23-2007, 05:09 PM
One of my buddys spelled out "HOMECOMING?" in tennis balls on the tennis court. Just an idea.

Lol...love this idea!

And I second Shcmad's 'don't ask her electronically', but the phone is ok; and with Fee's 'don't go broke' ideas.

Or you could just keep it simple...ask her to go play, and afterward say 'Would you like to go to homecoming with me?'.

J-man
09-23-2007, 05:09 PM
Just ask her out, no big glitz or anything. Save your money and take her out or something like that.

Hot Sauce
09-23-2007, 05:20 PM
I'm sorry to differ with Fedace, but i wouldn't suggest asking her out via electronic methods (AIM, e-mail, etc). Whatever you decide to do, do it in person. It's just a little bit more personal, and girls like that.

Agreed.

You could ask her to play a game of horse in tennis with the letters HOMECOMING. Hah, but really, don't do that. I kind of like Fee's idea with the birth flowers.

StealthGnome
09-23-2007, 05:33 PM
Do something silly.
Write "homecoming?" on your chest with a marker. But make it upside down so you can read it when you look down on your chest.

Why not go out first? A small date. You know she likes you so you'll have a ball. When you're at her doorstep, ask her. So the whole day will be special and not that one moment.

Fee
09-23-2007, 05:46 PM
memorial high school. I was planning on just asking her and maybe a flower but everyone at my school goes over the top. And yea I don't want to set a high standard because then after that things will not live up to her idea of what I do. It's just a dance which is why I don't want to go all expensive but everybody pressures everyone else to.

Well, don't be 'everyone'. Now is a good time to do what works for you. I understand that this is a VERY hard thing to do in high school, but it can be very liberating to say 'I did it the way I wanted to, not the way you all expected me to.' If your date can't appreciate a sincere no-frills invitation, then she could be in for a lifetime of disappointment.

xtremerunnerars
09-23-2007, 07:16 PM
That tennis ball idea is pure pwnage. Tell your friend I'm stealing it some time.

Strawberry
09-23-2007, 08:29 PM
This is what I might be doing. I'm going to get a whole bunch of tennis balls and fill her locker with them, then when she opens it they all roll out and there's a note that says, "I finally got the balls to ask you to Homecoming."
:) It would work great since she plays tennis too.

Fedace
09-23-2007, 08:33 PM
This is what I might be doing. I'm going to get a whole bunch of tennis balls and fill her locker with them, then when she opens it they all roll out and there's a note that says, "I finally got the balls to ask you to Homecoming."
:) It would work great since she plays tennis too.

Yea but it would make a mess and it might cause injury. she may slip on a ball and fall flat on her face. Why don't you make a big sign that is kind of cute looking, go to the Kinkos or Sigh O rama place and make it fit on the tennis court net. Get it all ready and ask her if she want to play tennis and take her to the court and surprise her.;)

Strawberry
09-23-2007, 08:37 PM
No the lockers at my school are tiny, I hardly doubt it could hurt anyone, lol. When
I say fill it with balls, I can maybe fit 8 or 9 balls in it.

ShooterMcMarco
09-23-2007, 08:41 PM
This is what I did:

me: hey, you wanna go to homecoming with me?
her: yeah, sure
me: ok, what color are you wearing?
her: navy blue
me: ok cool, we'll make dinner arrangements later on
her: ok

Feņa14
09-23-2007, 08:42 PM
This is what I might be doing. I'm going to get a whole bunch of tennis balls and fill her locker with them, then when she opens it they all roll out and there's a note that says, "I finally got the balls to ask you to Homecoming."
:) It would work great since she plays tennis too.

Haha that's quite good! Ladies seem to like corny/cheesy. How could she refuse?

Strawberry
09-23-2007, 08:48 PM
Haha that's quite good! Ladies seem to like corny/cheesy. How could she refuse?

Exactly. ;)

Fee
09-23-2007, 08:49 PM
If anybody ever broke into my HS locker and screwed around with my stuff, I would have hurt him. BAD IDEA.

I was quite happy to get notes shoved through the vents though.

BkK_b0y14
09-23-2007, 09:20 PM
heres what i did (it worked beautifully):

1. take 11 tennis balls. on each ball write a letter spelling out h-o-m-e-c-o-m-i-n-g-?-.
2. put all the balls in a bag (shopping bag preferred), and put a bunch of old balls in there and mix them up. make sure that all the balls with the letters on them are face down and cannot be seen.
3. put a note saying, "Look carefully, theres a surprise inside" - (initials here or name, wtv floats your boat).
4. Find a way of giving the bag to her, like through a friend or something. But you can even do it yourself, it might work out better.

result: the girl will have thoughts like "WTF is this, its just balls". but then when she looks through she'll be like "oh, homecoming and tennis balls, how fun!"

westside
09-23-2007, 09:36 PM
How about....

Ask her for a hit, and when you go to the courts give her a tin of balls and write something like "Wanna - Go - With - Me?" on the 4 balls and while she's reading it, pull some flowers out of your bag or something.

Fedace
09-23-2007, 10:00 PM
Lets see some pictures of this would be girlfriend.

Swissv2
09-23-2007, 10:58 PM
I'm a sophmore in HS and I'm asking this girl I like to homecoming. I know she likes me too so I was gonna ask her, but then I was informed that you have to make it "special" or something. So I was thinking about getting her a build a bear to ask her. For those who don't know, you go to the store, stuff the bear and name it and crap.. She plays tennis so I was gonna give it the tennis clothes and name it Ace. Only problem is this is 30 bucks, then I have to pay for dinner for 2 homecomings (we go to different schools), so this will be very expensive. Would it be better to buy her some roses and just ask her, or would this not be special enough? By the way, I know she's going to say yes so it's not a concern.

Make the request personal...don't bother too much about spending your 30 bucks and, if you know she is going to say yes already then you needn't worry about the particulars so much.



Good grief...you set yourself up for a disaster if something small goes wrong and you spent all this money - AND you are worried about the money. Don't make it a money thing otherwise your head will be wrapped around that logic for a long time to come.

Dedans Penthouse
09-24-2007, 08:01 AM
Roses are a cliche. Do you know what month she was born? Each month has a.....
"the month"

Excellent "monthly" hint by Fee: buy her a box of Kotex ......

because with Kotex--forget about homecoming--you can go water-skiing, bicycling, dancing, hiking, swimming, jogging, kayaking, play tennis, etc. (talk about "bang-for-your-buck!"), and that's bloody well better than having to blow your 'wad' on roses and the like.

Senator Jay Bullworth
09-24-2007, 08:03 AM
"the month"

Excellent "monthly" hint by Fee: buy her a box of Kotex ......

because with Kotex--forget about homecoming--you can go water-skiing, bicycling, dancing, hiking, swimming, jogging, kayaking, play tennis, etc. (talk about "bang-for-your-buck!"), and that's bloody well better than having to blow your 'wad' on roses and the like.
Seek professional help. :neutral:

Tchocky
09-24-2007, 12:58 PM
If you really like her, then you'll spend the money. If you score later that evening, then it will be money well spent.

Fee
09-24-2007, 01:17 PM
Money can't buy love, and it is not an indication of affection either. It doesn't buy you sex either, except from a prostitute.

Keep your money. Like I said, no high school boy should go broke for a girl.

ShooterMcMarco
09-24-2007, 01:41 PM
Keep your money. Like I said, no high school boy should go broke for a girl.

Yeah exactly.

Attract her with your personality, you don't need to do anything fancy.

nhstennis
09-24-2007, 01:53 PM
go to her house and spell out homecoming? in hershey kisses...thats wut u did

on her bed of course

StealthGnome
09-24-2007, 04:50 PM
go to her house and spell out homecoming? in hershey kisses...thats wut u did

on her bed of course

Don't let them melt or it'll be Dumb and Dumberer.

dennis10is
09-24-2007, 04:57 PM
You should do what most people at TW do. You tell her that she's clearly a 2.0 as a person and that you are a gifted 5.0 as a person. Because you are so charitable, you will take her to homecoming, be her boyfriend, tell her how to improve herself so that by the time she graduates she'll be a 4.0-4.5 person.

You will video tape her, and show her all of her defects.

If she turns you down, you will tell her that she is stubborn and that she's missing out on all of the wisdom that you could impart to her.

tennismx
09-24-2007, 05:37 PM
Haha this is sweet.

From a girl's point of view I don't think the bear is too cheesy since you both play tennis. It's thoughtful. Def don't ask over the phone or computer though. Do it in person!

What's funny is my mom made me a Build-a-bear and named it Ace, too lol. It wears the tennis outfit haha. It's something your friend can keep for a long time unlike flowers or candy (though flowers are nice too and relatively cheap).

I don't have any advice on the price. If I were bringing a guy along from another school and if we weren't officially dating, I'd expect we'd each pay for our own ticket.

Good luck!

Bodacious DVT
09-24-2007, 06:00 PM
ooooo give her the bear, then rip out its little red heart infront of her and give it to her, and be all like "wanna go to homecoming?"

second thought, bad idea...

mhstennis100
09-24-2007, 06:44 PM
I'm going to get her some flowers and just go to her house and ask her. She's liked me for a while so I'll just ask her out at homecoming. Maybe I'll catch her in the right mood and we can go somewhere else.

jmsx521
09-24-2007, 08:00 PM
I'm a sophmore in HS and I'm asking this girl I like to homecoming. I know she likes me too so I was gonna ask her, but then I was informed that you have to make it "special" or something. So I was thinking about getting her a build a bear to ask her. For those who don't know, you go to the store, stuff the bear and name it and crap.. She plays tennis so I was gonna give it the tennis clothes and name it Ace. Only problem is this is 30 bucks, then I have to pay for dinner for 2 homecomings (we go to different schools), so this will be very expensive. Would it be better to buy her some roses and just ask her, or would this not be special enough? By the way, I know she's going to say yes so it's not a concern.If you "know" that she likes you, why hasen't she asked you yet?

Strawberry
09-24-2007, 08:05 PM
If you "know" that she likes you, why hasen't she asked you yet?

At the HS I go to, girls aren't supposed to ask the guys.

jmsx521
09-24-2007, 08:08 PM
At the HS I go to, girls aren't supposed to ask the guys.Are you in Iran by any chance?

Strawberry
09-24-2007, 08:14 PM
Are you in Iran by any chance?

Perhaps...

Deuce
09-25-2007, 12:56 AM
At the HS I go to, girls aren't supposed to ask the guys.

Are you in Iran by any chance?

Perhaps...

I was thinking San Francisco...

drhopz
09-25-2007, 01:44 AM
My girlfriend asked me out...
We've been going out for 1.5 years.

I love her to death though, she plays varsity tennis too :]
Jackpot eh?

mhstennis100
09-25-2007, 04:55 AM
If you "know" that she likes you, why hasen't she asked you yet? Because girls never ask the guys out. Only one girl has ever asked a guy I know out, and it was pretty weird.

jmsx521
09-25-2007, 07:26 AM
Because girls never ask the guys out. Only one girl has ever asked a guy I know out, and it was pretty weird.I can see you're under 20s or so. Men around that age think they are respecting women by treating them like princesses... talking and treating them in special ways. Women around that age also enjoy being spoiled and treated like dolls. It would be a virtue to find a teenage girl who can restrict her desires to be pampered like a princess, and talk with clear communication, not her cute, girly body-gestures.

Clear communication between the teenage boys and girls, to express opinions, ideas and emotions is vital to develop a mutual and healthy friendships and relationships.

Instead, it's a pity they learn to communicate in some artificial cultural ways... "a girl shouldn't ask a boy"... "a girl should wait to be asked"... "a girl is not supposed to..."

Remember, you are not in Iran, and your mouth is not duct-taped... right teenage girls and boys?

Dedans Penthouse
09-25-2007, 08:47 AM
I was thinking San Francisco...
Good one. As Ray Davies would say: "Girls will be boys and boys will be girls, it's mixed-up, muddled-up, shook-up world."

Because girls never ask the guys out. Only one girl has ever asked a guy I know out and it was pretty weird.For Homecoming, yes, girls definitely don't ask the guy out, but does your school have "Sadie Hawkins" dances (i.e. dances where the girls pick the guy)? Before I dropped out of high school (two weeks into my freshman year), I remember our school having an annual "Sadie Hawkins" dance and even during those "other" dances held throughout the course of the school year (including Homecoming), there were always certain songs that were announced as "ladies choice" (it was usually a 'slo-o-ow' dance number)"....oh Claudia, please don't make the mistake of 'accidentally' brushing your thigh against mine.....uh-oh, now you've done it!.....er, five times seven is thirty-five, six times eight is forty-eight, twelve times nine is...uh.....omg, what's the use?........"

That said, in your first post you said that you know "she's going to say yes, so it's not a concern".....well, since that's the case, it sounds like a no-risk slam dunk for you. So instead of "impressing" her with a "money" gift, why not give her something with a PERSONALIZED touch; something just for her? An example: a (joke) "Application-For-a-Date" form to her to fill out. It's happened to me and aside from the flattery, I thought it somewhat novel. Anyway, if you go that route, just make sure to PERSONALIZE IT JUST FOR HER when addressing the envelope--make it obvious that it could have only been intended for HER; address the envelope with something along the lines of: "to the girl with...." (and then include a complementary "particular" that would pertain only to her). For example, imagine if she sent one for you to fill out:

"Application For a Date"

Name: mhstennis100
Class: Absolutely NONE WHATSOEVER :razz:
Etc. ______
Etc. ______
blah-blah-blah (make up your own categories/questions)

(please check one below):
___ Yes, I'd would like to attend Homecoming with you
___ Yes, I'd would enjoy attending Homecoming with you

(never include a "NO" option :-) )


The above may be a lame example, but my point is, you don't have to "pay-your-way" to her heart. Instead, by showing her that YOU took the time to make something original just for HER will put you in good steed; she'll appreciate it (and you) all the more.

And besides, you're a sophomore. You shouldn't have to completely blow your 15-year-old wad on the full monty; again, money alone won't make or break a good time. Enjoying each other's company is first on the list; then you can decide what other "trinket" you can afford to possibly sweeten the pot with. Good luck and have fun.

hgb765
09-25-2007, 04:33 PM
Because girls never ask the guys out. Only one girl has ever asked a guy I know out, and it was pretty weird.

... yeah that is kinda weird
i would never ask a guy out...

anyways
some kid in our school asked a girl at lunch with a jewelry box and a piece of lettuce. he told her to open it and said "Let us (lettuce) go to the dance together" it was kinda dorky, but cute

or you can make one of those fortune teller things
and write "homecomming?" inside

but those are kinda lame
if you really can't think of anything creative the flower idea will still work :D

Mastermind
09-25-2007, 07:41 PM
I've got to start thinking about homecoming now too, so I'm going to ask a girl tomorrow, just real casual because we flirt occasionally and joke around a lot. Won't kill me if she says no because personally, I'm fine with going stag.

Little Joker
09-25-2007, 08:07 PM
50 posts? What is the issue? Just ask her already.

StealthGnome
09-25-2007, 08:55 PM
I was thinking San Francisco...

I live in San Francisco.

Thank you.

slice bh compliment
09-26-2007, 01:27 AM
Yes, to echo some smart, experienced and tasteful posters above: use
effort, creativity and thought...not money. Come to think of it, that advice will come in handy later in life, too.

Plus, Build-a-Bear not only weak, it is also a scam. Come on, man. Judging by your sig, you've got good taste.

I liked the custom direct mail piece. And the tennis ball thing.

What about buying a cool old wooden frame from Goodwill ($5 or so) or off 3bay or something? Engrave or inscribe a few words asking her to Homecoming on the SHAFT. Of the racquet. Maybe a handpicked flower (something that will look good later when it dries out) and some vines 'growing' out of the strings....presenting it to her right before tennis one afternoon. Something she might even put up on a wall in her room....if she is enough of a tennisgeek.

EDIT: I've got a cracked old Dunlop Maxply Fort if you want it.

mhstennis100
09-26-2007, 07:31 PM
She's not that enough of a tennis geek. I just got her a boquet of roses and went to her house. She said yes of course. I plan to ask her out Sunday if we play tennis or next time we go somewhere.

ShooterMcMarco
09-26-2007, 08:53 PM
Cool man, congrats.

phoony
10-02-2007, 09:20 AM
Try this way, it may work ;)

http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p222/kasia1992/208602026_928f68a7da_b.jpg

masha4ever#1
10-02-2007, 09:39 AM
Try this way, it may work ;)

http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p222/kasia1992/208602026_928f68a7da_b.jpg

haha that's nice!!!:D

phoony
10-02-2007, 09:53 AM
haha that's nice!!!:D

When she comes to Linz, you could do the samething too. It may work haha.

masha4ever#1
10-02-2007, 10:05 AM
When she comes to Linz, you could do the samething too. It may work haha.

I hope so..hehe!!! But nobody knows if she is gonna play in Linz next year!!! hope she will:D

phoony
10-02-2007, 10:24 AM
I hope so..hehe!!! But nobody knows if she is gonna play in Linz next year!!! hope she will:D

Don't forget to bring her home to your room to your bed ;).

MTChong
10-02-2007, 01:59 PM
...

For Homecoming, yes, girls definitely don't ask the guy out, but does your school have "Sadie Hawkins" dances (i.e. dances where the girls pick the guy)? Before I dropped out of high school (two weeks into my freshman year),

...

(please check one below):
___ Yes, I'd would like to attend Homecoming with you
___ Yes, I'd would enjoy attending Homecoming with you
...


;)

Sorry, but I had to do it!

nhstennis
10-02-2007, 03:10 PM
I'm going to get her some flowers and just go to her house and ask her. She's liked me for a while so I'll just ask her out at homecoming. Maybe I'll catch her in the right mood and we can go somewhere else.

good business!!! sounds clean and gutsy

masha4ever#1
10-03-2007, 12:23 PM
Don't forget to bring her home to your room to your bed ;).

Of course I won't...but I don't want her just for my bed....wanna keep her forever!!!:D

oscar_2424
10-03-2007, 12:29 PM
Try this way, it may work ;)

http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p222/kasia1992/208602026_928f68a7da_b.jpg

hahahah good one

oscar_2424
10-03-2007, 12:35 PM
wow great job with the pictures guys, i guess u don't need my help anymore:)

TENNIS_IS_FUN
10-05-2007, 11:06 PM
One of my friends left class to go the bathroom, but he really went to another class where he interrupted the teacher and read a poem aloud. The girl said yes and gave him a hug (from what i've heard).

Fedace
10-05-2007, 11:22 PM
^^^urrr, You took idea,, did it work ?? did maria go with you to the homecoming ?? and where is the pics of you and maria ?

counterpunchingrules
10-06-2007, 11:01 AM
I'm a sophmore in HS and I'm asking this girl I like to homecoming. I know she likes me too so I was gonna ask her, but then I was informed that you have to make it "special" or something. So I was thinking about getting her a build a bear to ask her. For those who don't know, you go to the store, stuff the bear and name it and crap.. She plays tennis so I was gonna give it the tennis clothes and name it Ace. Only problem is this is 30 bucks, then I have to pay for dinner for 2 homecomings (we go to different schools), so this will be very expensive. Would it be better to buy her some roses and just ask her, or would this not be special enough? By the way, I know she's going to say yes so it's not a concern.

haha guaranteed she says yes if you get the build-a-bear thats pretty original. back in the day i just wrote "want to go to homecoming?" on a tennis ball and chucked it to random girls until one finally said yes ;)