I flipping hate girls that play games at this age....

[matchpoints]

This is Definitely not a sober rant!

I recently found out that I was being strung along for weeks, and the girl didn't have the ovaries to tell me she didn't want to date me anymore....

You'd think at a quarter century age mark girls would be more mature.

Let the games begin....

[tykrum]

Haha, awesome, just no drunk dialing man. Not good times.

[raftermania]

matchpoints.... mada mada dane

[matchpoints]

Haha, awesome, just no drunk dialing man. Not good times.

Did that last Friday and my friend didn't even stop me. Funny thing is that I don't remember doing it at all. So yesterday I deleted her # from my phone to prevent any future incedents. No more love from now on, lust only baby!

ps Been sulking to "Don't worry, about a thing, cause everything, will be alright" - Bob Marley

3 steps to recovery:
1. Cry a river
2. Build a bridge
3. Get over it

[Saito]

matchpoints.... mada mada dane
LOL, again (in reference to the other post about camels and Canada)

matchpoints,

j/w but did you not see any kinds of signs at all??? I mean I'm not saying that you should've, but maybe they were there and coulda helped you be on top of things instead of what actually happened.

BTW, off topic, what part of TX are you from? (just in case I might wanna pick up that stringer from you, maybe I could save $$$ from shipping).

Back on topic,

Good hunting bro!!!! Knock em dead cause you know there are plenty of em here in TX!! :twisted:

[Vince]

matchpoints.... mada mada dane

lol.

dont worry match you'll get over it 8)

[matchpoints]

Saito~ I'm in between San Antonio and Austin, but I travel all over due to tournaments and boredom. I saw signs man, but it was like OVERNIGHT she started becoming distant then saying that she's just being moody and what not. Anyhow, I think I'm going to do something crazy in a week or two when I'm sober. Gonna make her love me or hate me. Not dealing with this 'friends' cowdung.

ps By crazy I mean learning how to play guitar and sing to "OUT LOUD by DISPATCH"

She's works at a cd/music store nearby. I'm just gonna show up one day during business hours, pick up a guitar and have some of my musician friends back me up and videotape me humiliating myself. I'm not a quitter!

[TommyGun]

Dude, if you are going to do that, I honestly suggest you or a friend send a note to your local newspaper and ask them to cover the story. Two things will definitely happen:

1. They will ask her questions like if she liked it, or likes you, etc. Any answer other then she loves you will make her look like a ______ch in the paper and to the community at large.

2. All the really cute, lonely chicks who would kill for that will see your picture and your name, and many of them will then seek you out, so you won't have to deal with crappy girl anymore and you will have more then enough dates, which will again make crappy girl jealous even more....

(This is not a joke, if you are going to do what you say, really think about what I said.)

[bubs]

or matchpoint you could post that video here or on, say... iFilm and you would become an instant celebrity. Girls lined up outside your door etc

[Richie Rich]

just go do one of her friends

[matchpoints]

very interesting ideas....no joke, i think i'm going to do it. today she actually called and i told her that i was really hurt and need some space and can't be her friend or talk to her for a while.

anyhow, i'm going to ask her boss for her schedule and tell him it's a surprise gift whatever just in case so she doesn't get in any trouble.

talked to a friend today and he's going to teach me that song. man my arm is hurting from feeding in this cold weather. tomorrow is going to suck. cold weather + rain = blech!!

[Kobble]

You sound a little beaten down by this. What you need is a nympho. Someone who threatens to rob you of your life energy. That will wipe the slate clean.

[raftermania]

Nymphos, they solve all of life's problems don't they!

[Saito]

Saito~ I'm in between San Antonio and Austin, but I travel all over due to tournaments and boredom. I saw signs man, but it was like OVERNIGHT she started becoming distant then saying that she's just being moody and what not. Anyhow, I think I'm going to do something crazy in a week or two when I'm sober. Gonna make her love me or hate me. Not dealing with this 'friends' cowdung.

ps By crazy I mean learning how to play guitar and sing to "OUT LOUD by DISPATCH"

She's works at a cd/music store nearby. I'm just gonna show up one day during business hours, pick up a guitar and have some of my musician friends back me up and videotape me humiliating myself. I'm not a quitter!

matchpoints,

I'm from houston..... since you travel for tourneys, you planning on coming down here for the houston coca cola in march? I'm not sure if I'll be playing in it myself because of my work schedule, but if I can squeeze in enough practice maybe I'll consider it.
Well, as far as your plan goes, if that's what you really plan on doing and also taking the other guy's advice.... good luck.... you must really like this chick or something.... I hope she's worth all this... :)

[HookEmJeff]

Matchpoints: What tension were you strung along at? Apparently, your girlie definitely didn't use gut, either. Don't sweat it dude. As long as you didn't buy a ring, or knock her up, take heart: There are about 3 billion females on this planet. Surely, one of them is for you. You can probably even find one with a better forehand, too.

Jeff

[bc-05]

well the real question is.. is she worth my advice? no offence or anything.. but agreed with hookemjeff.. pwoah ive sacrificed my time for my friends before to save their relationship.. but only to find out that ive wasted my time for a bush pig.. i mean is she worth your time though? if not then forget her.. maybe one day ull find someone better looking or if your very very very very very lucky u get one with davenport's attitude

[Frodo Baggins]

BC-05 - Hows your gf??? :) by cheeky hobbit..

[PHSTennis]

I HATE GAMES AT ANY AGE... hate it... I just feel helpless in this world... I dont know anymore.. play tennis... play tennis then die I guess.. well no sweat got many years to come... but its getting annoying.. and games do suck!

[bc-05]

she's very good thanks frodo.. how is yourself?

[matchpoints]

matchpoints,

I'm from houston..... since you travel for tourneys, you planning on coming down here for the houston coca cola in march? I'm not sure if I'll be playing in it myself because of my work schedule, but if I can squeeze in enough practice maybe I'll consider it.
Well, as far as your plan goes, if that's what you really plan on doing and also taking the other guy's advice.... good luck.... you must really like this chick or something.... I hope she's worth all this... :)

I totally forgot about the Coke Open. Thanks for the reminder. I'll be there for SURE. What divisions are you going to play? I'll be in Men's Open and maybe some dubs (for fun) if i can find a partner. Know of any parties? I'm gonna get me a USTA ranking since it helps you get into the Futures qualifying when the draw fills up. Pretty annoying when you travel and can't get into a tournament because you have no current record whatsoever.

Regarding the girl, I don't know if she's worth it, but I was very happy just being around her and that's gotta count for something.

Matchpoints: What tension were you strung along at? Apparently, your girlie definitely didn't use gut, either. Don't sweat it dude. As long as you didn't buy a ring, or knock her up, take heart: There are about 3 billion females on this planet. Surely, one of them is for you. You can probably even find one with a better forehand, too.

Jeff

It wasn't too bad I suppose. She was just one of those girls that I really fell for. It happens to the best of us. I think she used Kevlar in the mains and Polys in the crosses. Probabaly strung at around 70lbs. Oh yah, she has no form whatsoever but does look good in a skirt.

Hey I see you're from San Antonio. What level player are ya? I'm always looking for matches around here.

[raftermania]

Putting a girl down through tennis technology metaphors, that's a first!

It is a metaphor right? Or does she actually play a kevlar/poly hybrid @ 70 lbs?

[HookEmJeff]

Hey I see you're from San Antonio. What level player are ya? I'm always looking for matches around here.

I live in NE San Antonio, out by Retama, off of I-35. Not too far from NB. I'm a 5.0 player, too.
Give me an email if you want. You can find all that info through that profile thing, right? If not, I'll look back here later and post mine if you need it. I've been having a hard time finding decent people to play with consistently. Hated to not get to play today (Sunday). It was way too freakin' nice to be doing household chores instead of bashing some forehands.

Jeff

[bc-05]

Putting a girl down through tennis technology metaphors, that's a first!

It is a metaphor right? Or does she actually play a kevlar/poly hybrid @ 70 lbs?

definitely a metaphor.. but 70 lbs with kevla/poly pwoahhh thats very tight.. how are you gonna ya know... unless ya know.. ok u get my point!! she cant be that tight!

[tennis-n-sc]

I simply do not understand how this girl could dump a mature, well-grounded, intelligent guy like Matchpoints. I mean, what are these damn women looking for, anyway? Yep, I agree with all your plans. This will show her what a classy guy she has let get away!

[raftermania]

bc-05, upon further analysis you could say matchpoints was referring to her very stiff or harsh qualities, in a more emotional sense rather then the physical sense I believe you are referring to.

[Bora]

Hey matchpoints, just to let you know from experience if there is a sudden change in mood and they say stuff about different moods then that's a sign that they have someone else line up or trying to line up someone else.

Had it happen to me last November. Was rough for a few days. But then there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

[fantom]

Matchpoint, If you take Kobble and Raftermania's advice on the nymphos.....just remember to put an overgrip on that leather replacement grip.......

You hear me?

[matchpoints]

I simply do not understand how this girl could dump a mature, well-grounded, intelligent guy like Matchpoints. I mean, what are these damn women looking for, anyway? Yep, I agree with all your plans. This will show her what a classy guy she has let get away!

Why do I sense sarcasm here?

Matchpoint, If you take Kobble and Raftermania's advice on the nymphos.....just remember to put an overgrip on that leather replacement grip.......

You hear me?

I like metaphors :)

definitely a metaphor.. but 70 lbs with kevla/poly pwoahhh thats very tight.. how are you gonna ya know... unless ya know.. ok u get my point!! she cant be that tight!

How old are you?

bc-05, upon further analysis you could say matchpoints was referring to her very stiff or harsh qualities, in a more emotional sense rather then the physical sense I believe you are referring to.

Thank you raftermania.

Hey matchpoints, just to let you know from experience if there is a sudden change in mood and they say stuff about different moods then that's a sign that they have someone else line up or trying to line up someone else.

Had it happen to me last November. Was rough for a few days. But then there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

That's EXACTLY what I was thinking and as were my friends. She had kept denying it for a whole week, and I didn't think she was the type to be cheating. Then again you never know right? The good news is that she WAS NOT cheating on me.

I recently found out what happened. I had written a letter that night to tell my friends about the break up conversation (so I wouldn't have to repeat it to everyone). After a page or so, I stopped and started writing a letter to my girl. Last thursday evening I let a female friend of mine read it, and she then explained to me that the girl is NOT lying about seeing anyone else. This female friend of mine is a stoner and so was the girl that I was seeing.

The night before things started to change, she had gotten extremely high, and I was drunk and being loud. Supposedly, there's a thing in the stoners world called "chill time". During this period, any sensations are heightened depending on how high you are. Any annoyances are also heightened. So that night, I REALLY got on her nerves (since she was super high), and the next day when she sobered up, her perceptions of me had changed.

Then she started becoming distant, and I noticed this and started asking her what was wrong. I started acting different because I was confused and didn't know what was going on, and she started getting more annoyed because I kept asking her what was wrong. This was about 3 weeks ago and last Monday as we broke up on the phone she told me that after that said night she had gotten annoyed by me and didn't know why she was being distant. I don't smoke so I didn't know about this "chill time". She should have told me about this that night and not 2 weeks later on the day of the break up.

It's actually kinda funny that such a stupid thing put me through 2 weeks of misery when I could have avoided the whole thing by not disrespectig her so called "chill time" or if she would have just let me know the next day. A few of my (smoker) friends confirmed it this past weekend that "chill time" does exist and sensations are definitely heightened a lot and perceptions of people also can change during that period.

Now, according to them, I should be able to get her back since we were so happy together before the "chill time" incident. I just need to give her some time and show her that I'm the same person that she once used to enjoy being around. That's also why she kept calling because there was really no reason for her to break up with me or for me to break up with her. She had a chemical change that evening which altered her mood. She told me she was just being moody but little did she know that she was actually so affected by miss mary jane that she didn't know how to deal with it.

I actually regained my appetite this past weekend and have been sleeping well too. I'm feeling so much better now that I know the truth. She had called last friday (I hadn't called her since we broke up, but she still wanted to be friends) and I told her that "I'm very hurt and I expected honesty and no games. I need some space, and I don't think I can be your friend or talk to you for a while" she responded. "understandable, I'll give you your fork" then she laughed at her own joke. (she had a couple of forks of mine from when I had cooked dinner and brought it to her work).

I still miss her though, but at least now it's bearable.

[bc-05]

bc-05, upon further analysis you could say matchpoints was referring to her very stiff or harsh qualities, in a more emotional sense rather then the physical sense I believe you are referring to.

ok my jokes backfired damn.. always happens.. anyway.. now back to maturity.. matchpoints.. i dont know about u.. but if i were u id try to forget about her.. if she got emotional just because of drugs.. that tells me shes uncontrollable.. yes it increases ur temper when ur high but really it shouldn't make her get angry at her bf.. yet if she says but this "chill time" makes u out of control no matter how much u love the person... well unless shes an addict, recreational user like myself could control my temper even under the influence.. so if she just snaps at u just coz u annoy her a bit it means that either she prefers to enjoy the moment of the drugs better then ur company that it makes her cant control her anger or shes an actual addict who well u know addict.. their brains dont function properly.. so in this case im sure u dont want to love a drug addict.. believe me theyre pain in the back!

[Bora]

matchpoints, I stand by my last statement. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Preferably, one who is a bit more mature at that age. They are out there you just gotta be open to the possibilities.

[Camilio Pascual]

Good luck, Matchpoints. Sounds like she is letting the drugs take over her behaviour. As Dedans Penthouse once wisely counseled me about a woman problem (we play games over age 50, too), "Run away! Run away!" Good luck.

[Phil]

Good luck, Matchpoints. Sounds like she is letting the drugs take over her behaviour. As Dedans Penthouse once wisely counseled me about a woman problem (we play games over age 50, too), "Run away! Run away!" Good luck.

Exactly. Life is too short. Just walk (or run) away. There are other fish in the sea.

[Deuce]

So here you are, vying for sympathy with this entire ongoing saga... only to have it come down to "well, I was drunk and she was stoned..." and "chill time"? Yup - sure sounds like a mature, profoundly loving relationship to me...

Man, this whole episode is a bad cartoon. How naive do you have to be to expect honesty, sincerity, maturity, and, above-all, level-headedness from a 'stoner'? And your list of 'stoner' 'friends' are probably not the best people from which to receive sound, logical life advice.

Yeah - I'm sure that you'll get back together now, and live lovingly happily ever after forever and ever, now that you understand all about 'chill time'.

Wasn't it Donne who wrote "Love is all about understanding the stoner's 'chill time'"?

Talk about low standards...

You need to wake up and see reality big time.

[HookEmJeff]

Do we have a picture of this chick? I mean, let's see if she's even worthy of fussing over. We could probably solve this argument real fast if she's not to our liking.


jeff

[Cypo]

Matchpoints - she sounds to me like someone who likes intensity in a relationship - extreem highs and extreem lows - if you get back together with her, I'll bet that it's going to be more of the same. Some people are just wired that way and there's nothing you can do about it. That's my 40 + years of experience for you.
Good luck,
Cynthia

[chad shaver]

Deuce,

I was wondering how long it would take someone to mention that....

[Bora]

This thread is worthless without a photo of the chick in question.

[Rickson]

Girls play games at all ages. I had a date set up for a Saturday so I called the girl, just like she begged me to, before I was supposed to go there, and she cancelled on me, claiming she was doing her taxes that day. She even had the nerve to tell me to call her later and see if she was home to which I replied, no, you have my number, call me if you get home early. She apologized the next time I saw her and I told her a cancellation is no problem, a cancellation on my phone call is a problem. I asked her why she couldn't call before Saturday to let me know she couldn't make it and she said she didn't know she had to do her taxes until that day. She also said she has no long distance on her phone plan so she couldn't call my cell which has a different area code. Both reasons were unacceptable to me, especially the one about the phone because she could dial my cell, they'd only charge her about 20 cents more (cheapskate) so I bailed and never hung out with her again. Never hang out with girls who want to be chased or waste your time. Games are for losers.

[MegacedU]

Lol, that had nothing to do with tennis whatsoever, but the ovaries part made me laugh like hell.

[Saito]

Matchpoint, If you take Kobble and Raftermania's advice on the nymphos.....just remember to put an overgrip on that leather replacement grip.......

You hear me?

I like metaphors :)

:lol: .... metaphors... so so fun.... :lol:

[matchpoints]

Deuce~
I know what you're saying and it's not something that i'm not aware off. It's not like I was gonna marry this girl what not. She's leaving this summer, and I might also do the same. We had already decided not to get serious. I don't think I could ever marry or have a serious relationship with anyone that abuses alcohol or drugs. We were just gonna hang out and have a good time while we can. Now we can't even do that and over something absurd like "chill time" was something I had never heard of. Also, I'm not looking for advice from my stoner friends, but was looking for an answer to why she was acting the way she was since they would be able to relate. I have plenty of friends (older established professionals) from whom I regularly get "sound" advice from.

As always, I always value your opinion.

Anyhow, I haven't talked to her since last friday and she left me a message today. I wonder if I should reply....

Regarding pics, it's usually not a good idea to post them online and talk about them at the same time. She does have them online on a site but still....if you want to see em, drop me an e-mail so we can settle this once and for all if she's worth the time.

[Phil]

Regarding pics, it's usually not a good idea to post them online and talk about them at the same time. She does have them online on a site but still....if you want to see em, drop me an e-mail so we can settle this once and for all if she's worth the time.

Aw SHUCKS! Could you at least post a LINK to the site? Please. You know, you're right-the pictures WILL settle this once and for all!

[Cypo]

Now just a daw gone minute ! If there is going to be a judgment passed on the woman based on her looks, then I think matchpoints better post a pic of himself as well so we can decide if they are optically compatible. I mean - it's a dog eat dog world...

[Phil]

Now just a daw gone minute ! If there is going to be a judgment passed on the woman based on her looks..

Oh, no, not by any means! You know us...men. The photos are merely used to put the entire sad situation in context-I can ASSURE you that a judgement will not be rendered based on physical appearance (alone...). Absolutely not! That would be superficial and chauvanistic, at BEST.;-)

[battousai555]

raftermania, you watch Prince of Tennis?

[raftermania]

Yeah man. I'm not up to date though, I've only seen like up to episode 90.

[battousai555]

The show gets better as you get to higher episodes in the 100's.

[Flatspin]

One day when you find the one ..... you will learn the "three rings" of marriage. First .... is the engagement "ring"! Second ..... the wedding "ring" and the last but not the least ....suffe"ring"! lol

[raftermania]

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh good one flatspin, here is my ring joke:

The girl asked her lover, "Darling, if we get engaged will you give me a ring?"
"Sure, " replied her lover "What's your phone number?"

[matchpoints]

LOL! Nice jokes guys.....you bastids ;) I'll take any life lessons right now boys, so I can be better prepared in the future. Keep them coming.

Do you boys treat break ups as missed opportunities or as new opportunities?

Btw, am I getting the feeling here that one shouldn't get hitched?