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goober
07-22-2006, 02:24 PM
There's a bunch of guys I play with regularly but they are pretty much just tennis friends. We never see other outside a tennis setting. There's one guy I have been playing with for more than a year and I don't even know what is his occupation. We sit around at tournaments and almost always talk tennis during the down time between matches-pros, upcoming opponents, stringing racquets, ect. My wife asks me about them and I feel that I barely even know them even though I see them probably more than my "real friends"

Is this pretty common?

Grigollif1
07-22-2006, 02:51 PM
Same Here Goober.... Most tennis friends are really on the court. You just get used to calling them to play Tennis, altough one of my closest friend Since High School is also a Tennis Player. But, the funny thing is that I know a Few guys that we are not really friends and don't necesseraly get along so much, But they call me to paly tennis...hehe! It's our only connection.

Lakoste
07-22-2006, 03:09 PM
Unless they're female, not really

d_frank
07-22-2006, 03:14 PM
kind of. My friends in my grade and the grade below me chill with me from time to time, or we used alot more in the past. The guys that just graduated - not so much.

vkartikv
07-22-2006, 03:23 PM
Yes, we begin by exchanging courtesies but then its down to business. And when we are done, we don't see each other unless we are back on the court. My partners are in their mid 20's so there is not much time to socialise during the week since we all work or go to school.

The other reason for this (probable) is that its an individual sport. In a team sport, you tend to spend more time with your mates and you socialise with them outside of the sport. All my players on my cricket team are close friends...

scez
07-22-2006, 05:13 PM
I am really friendly with the people I play tennis with, we are all good friends but we never do anything besides tennis together :p The only people I play tennis with and do other things with is people who I didnt meet through tennis.

Topaz
07-22-2006, 07:28 PM
Hmmm, I'm surprised that pretty much everyone here has said no. I've made some great new friends through tennis.

LN_Dad
07-22-2006, 08:59 PM
Sometimes we'd have a beer and hang out at the club afterwards but never just going out for a beer without a match being the draw.

Dedans Penthouse
07-22-2006, 09:04 PM
I . hang out . with them in the locker room, but that's about it.

Ky0shiro
07-22-2006, 09:47 PM
All of my tennis buddies are people I met before tennis, they got me to play tennis :P.

quest01
07-22-2006, 09:52 PM
There's a bunch of guys I play with regularly but they are pretty much just tennis friends. We never see other outside a tennis setting. There's one guy I have been playing with for more than a year and I don't even know what is his occupation. We sit around at tournaments and almost always talk tennis during the down time between matches-pros, upcoming opponents, stringing racquets, ect. My wife asks me about them and I feel that I barely even know them even though I see them probably more than my "real friends"

Is this pretty common?

Its common for me. I would classify the people i hit with as "tennis friends" only. The only time i hit against these guys are when im playing tennis. Most of the guys i hit against are 20 years older then me, so they probably wouldnt want to hang out with me anyways.

LN_Dad
07-22-2006, 10:21 PM
Its common for me. I would classify the people i hit with as "tennis friends" only. The only time i hit against these guys are when im playing tennis. Most of the guys i hit against are 20 years older then me, so they probably wouldnt want to hang out with me anyways.
How come you don't play with people in your age group?

SydneyJim
07-22-2006, 11:06 PM
i usually hang out with some of the guys i travel with... =)

palikero
07-22-2006, 11:24 PM
I also dont hang out with tennis buddies normally. Only see those guys at the courts. I guess it would feel weird for me to see them in anything besides tennis clothing haha.

I tend to think of it being a situational relationship. On one hand, they are your peer/friend who you discuss tennis with, however, on the other hand, they are your enemy that you aim to defeat. So, in a way, it restricts a closeness you'd have with a normal friend who you don't worry about having to beat.

tonyjh63
07-23-2006, 10:05 AM
I hang out with my tennis friends all the time. We do stuff outside of tennis, like whitewater rafting, we go see the Christmas lights, get together at each others' houses, even went to a comedy concert together (James Gregory - funny guy!). I'm usually the one getting it together, but sometimes, someone else will come up with something.

XFactorer
07-23-2006, 12:35 PM
This past semester, I had a "tennis boyfriend." We would meet 3 to 5 times a week and just play tennis when we felt like it. Other than that, we don't talk to each other outside the tennis courts or have lunch or go shopping or whatever. It's kinda like the "f*** buddy" thing, really. Just get together to do one thing... then move on with life until the next time we both wanna... y'know.

goober
07-23-2006, 12:55 PM
This past semester, I had a "tennis boyfriend." We would meet 3 to 5 times a week and just play tennis when we felt like it. Other than that, we don't talk to each other outside the tennis courts or have lunch or go shopping or whatever. It's kinda like the "f*** buddy" thing, really. Just get together to do one thing... then move on with life until the next time we both wanna... y'know.


Umm you must be really good at tennis then if that is all he is interested in- not that there is anything wrong with that.

LN_Dad
07-23-2006, 01:04 PM
This past semester, I had a "tennis boyfriend." We would meet 3 to 5 times a week and just play tennis when we felt like it. Other than that, we don't talk to each other outside the tennis courts or have lunch or go shopping or whatever. It's kinda like the "f*** buddy" thing, really. Just get together to do one thing... then move on with life until the next time we both wanna... y'know.
That's a bit odd. I had a girlfriend in college who was a decent tennis player but the best part about hitting with her was that she always wore short and tight tennis skirts......:)

35ft6
07-23-2006, 03:41 PM
When I was younger my friends WERE my tennis buddies, then when I turned about 15 I started hanging out with a, um, more alcohol loving crowd and it's been all downhill since. Since then, nobody I play tennis with has been my primary friends.

Right now, I don't interact socially off the courts with anybody I play tennis with.

Dopke
07-23-2006, 04:12 PM
I think for the most part if you played HS tennis, you will make a lot of friends that eventually you hang out with outside of tennis too. But the tennis friends you meet at the tennis club and stuff, not so much. But it happens.

tykrum
07-23-2006, 09:38 PM
This past semester, I had a "tennis boyfriend." We would meet 3 to 5 times a week and just play tennis when we felt like it. Other than that, we don't talk to each other outside the tennis courts or have lunch or go shopping or whatever. It's kinda like the "f*** buddy" thing, really. Just get together to do one thing... then move on with life until the next time we both wanna... y'know.

I have this type of relationship with a girl, except we are starting to hang out outside of tennis a little bit now. Next step is getting rid of the boyfriend haha.

RiosTheGenius
07-23-2006, 09:50 PM
why not...

goober
06-12-2007, 11:03 PM
Hah just the other day. I played this guy one set that went 7-6. During the change over he starts talking about all kinds of things not tennis related. After 10 minutes of this he declares he is too tired to play and it is too hot (100 degrees) to continue. So he keeps gabbing about all kinds of things. His wifes comes to meet him with their daughter and they find out I have kids the same age. Now we are all going out as a 2 family outing next week.

tennis_hand
06-13-2007, 12:27 AM
I think this question only applies to those whom u play often with, not some one-off player.

for some of them, I know them before I played tennis with them, so yes I do socialize with them.

for another one, I know him through playing tennis. but we do some socialization, because he is such a person. I am such a person too. we talk about all things.

for the rest, I don't. Some of them aren't very open, and some are serious with everything so it is hard to break the atmosphere. If a person is not open with his life outside tennis, there is no way u can socialize with him outside tennis. Otherwise, what to talk about? still tennis? lol..

but personally, I like to play with people who are fun and who can extend to the social circles, unless I'm in a competition.

princess bossass
06-13-2007, 12:32 AM
Tennis is the only thing I have in common with the women I play with. We don't socialize outside of tennis, and we don't want to; I think they're all great people, I just can't imagine tennis and only tennis forming the foundation of a friendship with someone I would have no common ground with otherwise.

That said, my favorite hitting partner is my boyfriend. I'm so lucky we have tennis in common. :-)

Buuurnz
06-13-2007, 12:35 AM
My Tennis Buddies are real good friends...We've been playing at the club together for many many years and got real good friends...!
We do stuff outside of playing tennis a lot like partyingjust hanging out and travelling!

BreakPoint
06-13-2007, 12:37 AM
Nope, I don't socialize with the people I play tennis with outside of tennis. All the people I play tennis with I met through tennis and not before. So although I know a lot of tennis players, they are just that - people I play tennis with. Although most of them are very nice guys, I think the reason we don't socialize outside of tennis is that when we have free time, we'd rather be out on the court playing tennis than doing anything else anyway. :D

armand
06-13-2007, 06:29 AM
Yes I socialize and I'm surprised that I'm one of the few here because I'm not such a social person. But I play and captain a team and the team atmosphere makes things more friendly I guess.

But now that I think of it, I think all the socializing began when an opposing player from our small winter league invited us to the bar next door after our match a few years ago. Now this dude is really social and has a big personality and so most people agreed.
So I guess he got the ball rolling and I now I can safely call (some)people I play tennis with my friends. We golf, hit the niteclubs, go drinking, check out restaraunts, pubs etc

rasajadad
06-13-2007, 06:51 AM
Interesting thread in that I thought I was just antisocial. My story; I have been playing for 40 years and I almost never have tennis friends become real friends. #1 was a guy on my HS team that we ended up hanging together. #2 was a guy on my college team. By the way, I don't see these guys any more. #3 was a guy on my men's team who I started hanging out with mostly because our wives became friendly. Pretty bleak!

Big Fed
06-13-2007, 09:02 AM
I always be chillin with my tennis buds.

basil J
06-13-2007, 09:22 AM
I'm 46 and agree with breakpoint. I get along great with my tennis buddies, but with kids, wives, work etc, when I have free time, I want to be on the courts with them. I do set up barbecues and family outings and invite my tennis buddies and their wives or girlfriends over, so I do occassionaly socialize offcourt, but I would say that the majority of time I play tennis with my tennis buddies and any time we spend together offcourt is a bonus. Incidently, I am in sales, and so are most of the guys I play tennis with, so we do have a good amount of phone conversations in regards to work, wives kids etc, but usually face time is spent on the court due to time limitations.

Geezer Guy
06-13-2007, 09:46 AM
I'd say my tennis buddies are - for the most part - my closest friends. Still, it's not like we hang out together all the time when we're NOT playing tennis. My wife and I have several couples that we socialize with. In general, I'd say I like my tennis buddies better than the husbands of the socialize-with couples. I guess my wife and I could socialize with my tennis buddies and their wives - but I kind of like having everything separate.

Kind of reminds me of an old Seinfeld episode.

goober
05-17-2008, 06:36 PM
Update: I have been hanging out with two tennis buds a lot lately- family get togethers, dinner, ect.

Interestingly a lot of physicians and other health professionals play tennis I have found.

Richie Rich
05-17-2008, 06:53 PM
I . hang out . with them in the locker room, but that's about it.

:shock: :shock:

even after a cold shower?????

Rafael_Nadal_6257
05-17-2008, 09:06 PM
I think for the most part if you played HS tennis, you will make a lot of friends that eventually you hang out with outside of tennis too. But the tennis friends you meet at the tennis club and stuff, not so much. But it happens.

Yeah, that's true for the most part, I would think.

quest01
05-17-2008, 09:51 PM
This is a good question because I am very close to a few of my Tennis buddies, male or female. Usually every weekend me and a few friends will either go to a bar or strip club and have a few beers. It doesn't matter if your male or female, we will just get together somehow and find a place to hangout. A matter of fact I just got back from a bar but I only had 1 beer, I just went there to hang out and socialize with a few Tennis and non Tennis friends, mostly friends I have met from graduating college.

Steady Eddy
05-17-2008, 10:06 PM
We set up tennis thru email. One time one guy decided we should go someplace for some beers. He showed up, so did I, and only one other guy.

We play tennis once a week. But that's the only time we see each other.

quest01
05-17-2008, 10:09 PM
We set up tennis thru email. One time one guy decided we should go someplace for some beers. He showed up, so did I, and only one other guy.

We play tennis once a week. But that's the only time we see each other.

I'm pretty close to a few of my Tennis friends, male and female so usually we set up Tennis through email or by phone and afterwards (later on in the day) we will go to a bar, nightclub or have a few beers off my friends boat at night because I live near a lake.

herosol
05-17-2008, 10:10 PM
well lets say tennis team for me in high school.

some are just too socially awkward, some are just aren't interested in the same stuff outside of tennis.

so i play tennis with them. joke around. hahas.
but at school it's like no contact, cause i swear sometimes.
they just don't get it.