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  1. 10istalent

    10istalent New User

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    Hello, I need some advice. 2 days before our sectional tournament my daughters coach cancelled her lessons and hitting (both days, last minute). She is a blue chip. She played the sectional and it wasn't great. Then he did the same thing before the thanksgiving national open. She played both tournaments unprepared. I found out last night the coach canceled because he was preparing a boy for the same tournaments. This boy takes 4 hour privates every day and has very deep pockets. Also a blue chip. (my daughter take 1 hour private 2xs a week). The coach obviously does not want to disrupt the money train. Feeling like the ugly step sister my daughter doesn't want to work with this coach any more. How do i handle this? i have coaches bending over to work with her. time for a change? Advice?
     
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  2. mikeler

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    Why not have more than 1 coach? Get a different perspective.
     
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  3. TennisCoachIN

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    Very unfortunate that your daughter had to go through this. It is pretty obvious where your coaches top priority is. It definitely is time to make a change. This type of behavior by this coach will hopefully catch up to him someday. He is looking at immediate gratification (income) and not the long term picture.

    It is true that tennis instructors have to make a living, however this type of behavior should not be tolerated. I'm sure you can find another instructor that will honor the committments that are made to your daughter. Good luck
     
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  4. matchplay

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    move on, never let a coach dictate
     
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  5. ga tennis

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    move on!!!!! The same thing happened to my daughter and we left.
     
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  6. LeeD

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    I like Mikeler's advice.
    If the current coach wants to be the ONLY coach, move on.
    In the meantime, you should have hired a temp to work out your daughter and keep her game sharp.
    Coach's are a dime a dozen, why bow to the one who doesn't have your daughter as his priority?
     
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  7. 10istalent

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    Thanks for the advice. This is what my gut is telling me also. Change is hard after 3 years. We couldn't find arrangements because it was thanksgiving. Time to start making a plan.
     
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  8. Alohajrtennis

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    Coach doesn't have time for your daughter. Daughter doesn't want to work with coach. Plenty of other coaches available and interested. This seems like a pretty straightforward decision, or am I missing something ?
     
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    Completelely wrong

    Completelely wrong suggestion if you advice 2 coaches at the SAME TIME
     
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    I disagree except of your case

    I disagree except of your case
    One has to be very careful about crossed signals.
    It is a learning process for parents.
     
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  14. gplracer

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    Move on! I would not be happy if this happened to my child.
     
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  15. jigglypuff

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    Tough call for the coach, blue chip vs blue chip. Maybe it's not the money that's being poured in, but that the potential of the other kid is much greater than yours... or maybe the other kid works harder, is more motivated, has a better attitude...etc. I don't know... just wondering aloud.
     
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  16. 10istalent

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    Definitely not a question of talent. My kid plays a total of 6 hours a week for that is all we can afford. She was at player development for a short period. This other kid takes 4 hours of privates everyday. 1 before school and 3 after. Everyday! He also travels to every tournament. My daughter plays maybe 3 a year. She just plays a lot of locals, plays up in age and wins big. The boy cannot win in his own section and plays his own age group. Definitely not a talent question.
     
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  17. 10istalent

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    At the supers my kid will win and play multiple rounds. At the big tournaments this kid has never won a single round at any. He goes to easier sections and wins. He is a point chaser who buys points.
     
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  18. gplracer

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    The point is this is just not how things are done. Have you spoken with the coach about this? If it were my child's coach I would have a discussion with him and the owner of the club.
     
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  19. Number1Coach

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    move on get a fresh start and since your girl is not to happy with him now the chemistry will suffer , best to you and your girl
     
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    Either way, the girl needs a coach who believes in her and is INVESTED in her.
     
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  21. jigglypuff

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    I would say go with the two coach approach for the time being with the old coach knowing this. It's only fair to give him another chance while letting him know you have other options and not 100% dependent on him.
     
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    Why don't you just hit with her yourself, or hire a good level headed player at the courts to hit with her?
    Some of coaching is rocketscience, but most is just feeding and rallying.
     
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  23. gplracer

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    You do not cancel one lesson in favor of someone else who is preparing for the same event. This coach obviously teaches tennis not tennis for life with life skills. He sets a bad example for the child about fairness and being a good role model. I would first speak with him to let him know your concerns with this matter. If you are correct tell him and then the owner you are moving on.
     
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  24. Number1Coach

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    BTW if your in CA I have 3 to 4 weeks of free time if your interested give me a call my player will be in Fl. so I will need something to do .
     
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  25. tennisconsultcom

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    Your daughter has real talent. Just find another coach, but do it carefully. A coach should be interested in development of your kid not likes your money.
     
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  26. Number1Coach

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    You are correct we need coaches who are not there to make money or be friends with the kid , they should be there first to build themselves a player then the other 2 things can be a nice by product of the hardwork they are puttng in .
     
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  27. 10istalent

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    Number1coach thank you so much. Wish I could take you up on your offer. I made a few calls around, and have taken her to tryout a few coaches last week. It was awesome! All are eager and accommodating. She is feeling like the princess and not the ugly step-sister. She was offered scholarships at the big places but there was one coach who runs his own thing who she felt a quick connection with. We will try a few more weeks at each place and then decide. I guess things happen for a reason. This change is going to be for the better....thank you to the entire board for your input.
     
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  28. TennisCoachIN

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    Happy to hear things are going well for her :)
     
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