"Are you playing a match?"

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  1. Orange

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    In a recent small tournament, my opponent and I each served every other game, called the score before each point when serving, played with three new balls, adjusted the score-keeping device on each changeover and switched sides after each odd game.

    During one changeover late in the first set, a player on the next court asked me, "Are you playing a match?"

    I replied, "Yes, I'm playing in the same tournament you are."

    Her question seemed very odd to me, though, and I couldn't stop myself from thinking about it as I played. I realize I need to concentrate on the game at hand and not let myself get distracted. The realization that I was being distracted frustrated me. This was my first singles tournament, and I wonder:

    Is it typical for players on the next court to ask questions during your match, even during a changeover?
    Why would someone ask me whether I was playing a match when it was obvious that I was?
    How would you have replied?
     
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    I'm curious why she cared if you were just hitting or in a match... I'd have answered same as you did but probably chuckle while doing such. :)
     
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    Maybe she was trying to hit on you, was she cute?
     
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    I was recently playing a league match at a public court, and some people who were waiting for a court asked if we were playing a match, and I said, matter of factly, "yes", with a smile. No problem, they waited and actually got a different court before we were done. Happens a lot to me when I'm playing a match at my local public courts because most of the people who play at those courts aren't in the league.

    Your experience (situation), from what you wrote, seems to have been a bit different from that. One can only suppose that it wasn't obvious to the questioner that you were playing a match ... which raises other questions.

    Anyway, of course, if you were all playing matches in the same small tournament, then your reply seems most appropriate. In the situation you related I would probably have replied in a bit more sarcastic, but still friendly, way -- maybe something like, "duh", with a nice smile.
     
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    On reading the comments by corbind and tennis tom it hadn't occurred to me that she might be hitting on you. Is tennis a great game, or what!?
     
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    Hmmmmm, the more you guys mentioned her odd question hitting on him may actually be plausible. It fits the bill for asking a dumb question at an odd time with nothing for her to lose save getting a "duh" response. :oops:
     
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    : face palm :

    What does a chick have to do to let a guy know she is interested?

    Come on, boys. *Pay attention.* She wanted to make contact, maybe flirt a little with the smokin' hot guy on the next court. How else is she supposed to do this? She could say, "Wow, that's some FH you have there!" but then this might make him start missing his FH and then he would blame her.

    So she went with the obvious and innocuous, "Are you playing a match?" Orange was supposed to reply with something lighthearted, just to get the conversation going. Maybe, "Yeah, he's tough. How about you? Are you playing a match?" Then she could say, "Yeah, I'm almost done. I'll wait for you at the scorer's table. I'm dying to hear how your match goes."

    But noooooooooooooooo. She got the brush off, and now she feels like an idiot.

    : repeat face palm :
     
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    :lol: :lol: I seriously started laughing out loud.
     
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    Either she was just being friendly or you guys are so bad that she didn't recognize what you were doing as tennis. You can pick which one you would rather go with but I'd stick with friendly.
     
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    I can barely type for laughing.

    I'm thinking that this probably wasn't it, as I'm a 51-year-old not-too-hot woman, so ...
     
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    Haha!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    2012. Every comment stands.
     
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    Ah, you gotta love random distracting comments.

    I was playing doubles in a national club league match with the head pro at my club a couple of weeks ago. In the middle of the second set (in a tight match) at 15-15 on my partner's serve, as he was picking up a ball from the back fence, one of the other pros starts asking him about the whole schedule for junior groups this autumn.

    My partner just about flipped out and ripped this lady's head off. After all, she'd been teaching a lesson for an hour already, so she could quite clearly see we were in a tight match. It's not as if she'd just walked up to the courts.
     
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    Why is Navratilova hanging out at small tournaments?
     
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    +1

    This one had me laughing out loud.
     
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    I would have replied "yes".

    And promptly forgotten than the question was raised. Learned long ago not to try divine other peoples' motives for doing seemingly silly stuff, or care why.
     
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    "You guys playing cards"?
     
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    She might have been asking if you were playing an 'official' tournament match. In her mind, you might have been playing a warmup practice match during a time or on a court which was reserved for official matches. I played in our state tournament a couple of weeks ago and had to ask some players using our assigned court to leave. Watching them you'd have thought they might have been playing an official match but we knew the court was supposed to be empty.

    In your case it was probably someone just being clueless, like if you are standing somewhere holding a cigarette and you get asked, 'You smoke?'
     
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    The Dude Abides

    "Obviously, you're not a golfer."
     
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    Ha! All this time I assumed you were a dude. :)

    You know, tennis making me a huge sexist.

    Take today. I was meeting three women (including one I had never met) and our pro for clinic. I got there first and saw a strange woman sitting on one of the courts. Next to her was a large hopper of balls, same size as our pro uses. Hmmm. No sign of our pro, and she looked awfully young . . . .

    I asked her if she was with our clinic, and she said no. I sat on a nearby court and waited for my group. I saw a guy walk up to her. Ah, I thought. That must be her pro.

    Then they started warming up. The hopper was on her side, and she had good strokes. He, um . . . was in dire need of tennis lessons.

    So how come I assumed the woman was the student and the man was the pro, to the point of ignoring obvious clues like her sitting there waiting next to a hopper? Ugh.
     
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  23. TeflonTom

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    dood u are thinking bout this way too much
     
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    This is exactly how it would have happened with me. In fact, it may or may not have happened to me before. If it has I'm sure I forgot because I just never thought of it again.

    People get bent out of shape at the weirdest things.
     
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  25. sureshs

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    Why was the woman strange? Or did you mean it as stranger?

    Or was she strange because she was young among a group of, err, mature women?
     
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  26. spiderman123

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    She had weight issues.
     
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    Ya, I guess she was a strangER, not strange. Point taken, I guess . . .
     
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    I was laughing hard when I read it. Calmed down reading posts below it. Now went back to it and laughing pretty hard again. Cindy you have a way with words that just made my day. ;-)
     
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    Thanks.

    I guess I was projecting. On the very few occasions decades ago when I screwed up my nerve to make the first move on a guy, it flew right by him. Or he pretended it did.

    I still feel like an idiot.
     
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    I'm still laughing, too, Cindy.

    I expect your question was better than "Are you playing a match?" and I'm thinking that it must have flown right by him; I can tell from your many other posts that you're both interesting and funny.
     
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    I don't know about your experiences, Orange, but the young men I used to come across were not at all impressed with "interesting" or "funny."

    Unless this is your definition of "interesting" and "funny":

    [​IMG]
     
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    Funny Cindy, that's how I always pictured you looking--only maybe a little more tan from being out in the sun playing tennis.
     
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    Nothing on this planet could ever make me dye my hair blonde. Maybe it's a generational thing, but I really dislike that look.

    : shudder :
     
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    That's RuPaul :) .
     
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    Yeah I would have loved it if that happened to me but it won't... HaHa
     
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    I was corresponding with my sister via email about her coming to visit for the upcoming holiday and she sent me the link to this thread; on a couple of fronts I thought it my duty to weigh in.
    I'll begin on a serious note, since I (too) have had time to quit laughing:

    This spring an old friend of mine called me at the last minute to partner (it turns out) the nephew of my high school friend and sometimes college roommate for a charity tourney he was running. Although I had played only sporadically during the spring and done no conditioning at all, and it was my first tournament in just over a year (when, hooray, the seniors mixed doubles team I was on went to Nationals in Arizona - and won!) it was for charity and I thought four matches in the round-robin would be fun.

    Daniel and I muddled 7-6, 6-4 through the first match in the morning against a couple of middle-aged guys not in our league (I'm 53, but my partner was 22) taking twice as long as it should have due to me being mentally rusty. No problem, but shortly after lunch we then find ourselves in somewhat of a struggle against a pair of 23 year-olds (young guys spell trouble when you get over 50, especially in singles... You younger guys will find this out one day!) These two guys were decent players but no match for my 21 years of USTA mostly 4.0 and mostly #1 doubles tournament experience. (?) And doubles is just 1/4 the work of singles, right?

    But it was hot, h-o-t hot; the hottest day of the year so far: low 90's is hot enough for May, and it was easily over 100 degrees on the court (seems cool by yesterday's standards!), and I'm starting to melt.

    Thankfully we're up 6-4, 5-3 with our opponents serving, when one of the guys from my morning match (nice guy too) walks by and asks how the match is going. I'm thinking to myself how I'm in a really serious physical and mental struggle here and need to escape quickly with a win, and wonder why the heck is this guy talking to me right now, but he's a really nice guy and I tell him I hope it's nearly over and give him the score, don't think too much more about it. We loose that game but it's OK, I'll serve out the match (over the weekend I think I lose my serve three times in four matches). Except instead of me hitting four expertly placed serves for winners, or returns that my partner puts away, (I do hit some good serves but) they hit two lucky returns, win those two points (while making me run back and forth several times), win that game, win the set, and beat us 10-5 in the third set super-tiebreaker. (I never loose tiebreakers, but after I lost my serve I was spent.)

    About two days later I realized that after that guy talked to me, and due to my brain having pretty much melted by that time, I never got back mentally into the match. We might have lost anyway, but after reflecting I think we more likely would have powered through one of those two games in the second set and gotten off the court with the win. No big deal, it was just a charity tournament (and we ended up winning the round-robin anyway on the sets-lost tiebreaker), but you play and learn.

    On another note:

    A while back (like, early '90's) the 4.0 USTA Men's team I played on found ourselves at sectionals. My partner and I were playing #1 doubles, two courts over was our #1 singles guy, and playing on the court in-between us was a (cute enough) girl playing #1 singles for her team - and she had a really nice forehand. You know, everyone at sectionals is pretty good or they wouldn't be there; but her forehand was a thing of beauty.

    Now, no one said anything during the match, but at the social that evening a few of us were walking in and ran into her. Of course I was too shy (or, perhaps more accurately, lame) to say anything to her, but my teammate starts chatting her up by telling her what a super nice forehand she has, and they talk for a few minutes (which seems like hours, in single-guy time). Well, I guess he wasn't really chatting her up, but if I had been bold enough to say anything to her that would have been my purpose. So I just stand there and watch and listen and learn as my teammate is real smooth - but real sincere, and she knows it. Wouldn't you know, what a waste, as my teammate was gay - but to this day I've envied how easy it was for him to talk to that girl. Maybe the lesson should be: it's easier to have a genuine conversation with women if you have no ulterior motive?

    Lastly:

    I'll take issue with that statement; I know Orange and I'd say, truthfully, she is better looking than not-too-hot.

    How's that for taking up for you, Sis? :)
     
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  39. Orange

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    Pretty funny, bro.
     
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    jean giraudoux that shit brah. once u can fake sincerity u got it made
     
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    I've been trying to actually be sincere.

    I'll let you know how it works out.
     
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    vale delsfan, mayor of friendzone :(
     
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    :lol: That's a man.
     
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    Thank you, Groucho.
     
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    From the first post you could not tell that this thread will make you laugh so much. Some of you guys are really really funny.

    -Josh
     
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