Discussion in 'Adult League & Tournament Talk' started by bluetrain4, Mar 28, 2013.
you always have excuses
I think it's probably because you're so lonely out there on the court. Every mistake you make, it's yours only, and if you run into a superior opponent against whom you just don't have a chance, it doesn't take away any frustration ;-)
Whereas in a team sport, you have others with whom to share emotions, and the burden of responsibility is more widely spread, too.
Oh, and tennis is different from other racket sports, such as badminton, squash, or table tennis, as there is so much free space around you and you really have noone else near you for venturing your emotions.
All in all, a great stage for ups and downs, and that is exactly what I love about it.
As far as for myself, though, on the court I never curse outwardly, throw my racket or go into a tantrum. But that's simply because a) I know I'm not good enough to justify such a behavior, b) I don't want to make a fool of myself in front of others (have a high degree of self-monitoring right there ;-) ), c) my equipment is valuable to me (I'm actually a little ocd about it) and I don't want to break it, and d) I know I'll find other issues in my life where I can venture my emotions.
But if my opponent does it, I really struggle to keep that grin off my face ;-) Other than that, I don't care. After all, he's making me look good in comparison. And I'm not there to educate other people on the tennis court.
That's evil genius ;-)
If I wanted to play with a child I would have bought my kids with me. Sorry but once u act like a child, I'm out if there. There are some of these types on our courts and after awhile they just end up playing among themselves. Funny thing is when they start doing it too each other. It's like a comedy show.
i say stupid stuff also, but i dont usually post in on the internet.
In a way you have to laugh when an NTRP recreational player gets totally unhinged on the tennis court. I'm not talking about a simple line-call disagreement, but when somebody has a complete tantrum on the court. It's really perception vs reality. This recreational player probably perceives himself as being on the pro-tour, probably has a day job as an accountant, computer geek or mailboy but at night he's Nadal, Fed, Djokivic with McEnroe, Nastase and Safin like genius and temper. But, in reality he's a 3.5 trying to get a 4.0 rating with a fry pan grip for his serve and trying to hit like Nadal with a continental grip. He may have just spent a couple hundred bucks buying the new Wilson BLX racquet and yet this pusher (maybe an old geezer) is cleaning his clock. Just ain't fair I'm Nadal, how can Nadal be getting a beating by a hacker, pusher?? If this guy would just hit the ball right! Fling there goes the $200.00 racquet! Foolish, but entertaining!
Tennis Dawg, you got it, well written!
Man I feel you OP! I suspect the majority of us have acted out....some worst than others...admit it! I have launched rackets, cursed in the presence of children(so ashamed), smoked balls back you name it. I have played many guys who have done the same. Never have I seen someone quit though. I mean were you threatening him? Doesn't sound like it. I know its just rec. tennis but the moment someone accepts a match its on! Weird though I never get mad when I'm winning. I try to always win.
No, I didn't threaten him, at all. I just swatted some balls, threw my racquet against the tarp from a close distance. muttered to myself. As I've said multiple times, it was admittedly obnoxious and immature, but it wasn't anything crazy or anything that everyone hasn't seen at one time or another. But, my opponent simply has a very low tolerance for that sort of behavior. And, since I wanted to keep playing, and could realize the error of my ways, I stopped.
This sums it up for me.....its not about money!
Like you I have engaged in all of those behaviours, and more that do not bear public repetition, but on the last point you and I differ. Generally, when I am losing I become dejected and despondent, and begin to pout/tank for the rest of the match. I just say to myself (and to my opponent) "Hey, I'm off my game today, I'll win next time" and move on.
What I truly hate is when I am ahead and winning, and then all of a sudden I start spraying balls or dumping them into the net. Two or three of those in a row and the profanity streams forth, racquets get smashed and balls are launched over the fence home run style.
While I've never had someone walk out on me mid-tirade, I did have a couple who refused to lend me a racquet after I smashed both of mine. One even proceeded to "politely" lecture me about my maturity level. I guess these country club snobs prefer their tennis to be played with others who share their casual elitism and calm aloofness. That's rec tennis for you.
I've made a pact with myself:
Try to act nice (even if faking it).
Don't throw or smash rackets (did it as a kid, just stupid).
However, If someone else EVER throws a racket at or near me, i'll quickly finish the job for said racket thrower. I don't care if it's by mistake or not, I've seen it happen (people getting hit and nearly getting hit). I'll smash that racket without hesitation.
We all play for different reasons; some of us for exercise, some for competitiveness, etc.
I used to go crazy when I was a kid. I've been on both sides. It's ridiculous either way. Have you noticed how stupid, childish, foolish, etc. the other guy looks while carrying on? Guess what? You did too. I can see why someone wouldn't want to be associated with that person. I wouldn't want to be there either; especially, when you are sailing balls into the net behind me instead of just hitting them to me. I certainly don't want to have to chase down your tantrums. You can throw and break stuff on your side of the court which is unsportsmanlike but when you bring it to my side, I'm going to let you know just as your opponent did. I'm sure he has other people he can play and not have to deal with antics.
If you couldn't tell, I think he made the right choice. That said, I'm glad you apologized and he gave you another chance.
In this instance with the details as we know them, I think you both did the right thing.
I think the dude is a little soft for quitting mid-match. regardless of how torturous the OPs antics were.
That being said, I would totally understand if he screens calls from the OP in the future. It's one thing to go through torture, another to do it repeatedly.
I have certain people that I won't play purely because it is embarrassing to be seen sharing a court with them. Kind of a "those who associate with, must be" type of thing.
I used to get mad and crack balls and toss sticks into the net, but those days are over. It just made me look stupid and and made my opponents uncomfortable. Everyone misses easy shots and plays bad matches...it's all part of the game.
Your video hits the mark for the ATP. The ATP are maybe 1000 of the most elite tennis players in the world. We give these guys a whole lot of latitude when they do there wild fist pumps and throw their racquets and scream and grunt and stare down opponents. That's because they are the best of the best and putting it on the line on national TV. The average NTRP player acting that way looks dumb and foolish.
It's like comparing a city basketball team with a rag/tag bunch of has been HS jocks to the NBA. The NBA players act out in bizzare ways, the city basketball team does that and we wonder if they've escaped from the asylum. Same with a recreational tennis player. Just saying keep things in perspective, we all have our day-job to go back to so don't embarrass yourself and act like a drunk at the neighborhood picnic.
If you're the captain of your 4.0 USTA Tennis team, don't give that speech to the team at the end of the video. Totally, not reality. Again, if you're coaching Davis Cup fine, but not for NTRP.
And kudos for the opponent for realizing his time was best spent elsewhere.
And kudos for the poster for realizing his behavior was immature and not worth losing a hitting partner.
I don't understand your interminable desire to misrepresent me. I didn't refuse to shake my opponent's hand; he refused to shake my hand after I simply acknowledged the fact that I was badly off my game and would beat him decisively on a normal day. I am always amazed at the sensitivity of the egos in tennis. I guess people are just afraid of an honest appraisal of a match they win. Me? I don't swing that way.
Maybe it's because they didn't want you to smash THEIR racquet?
Gee, lol. I wonder why.
Aye-holes never do swing that way. Otherwise, they wouldn't be aye-holes.
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