We completed our first match last night (and won 4 of 5 courts!) but I found that I was totally scattered during warmup and it took me two entire (lost) games to get my focus on the match when I finally started playing. I was thinking about where everyone was and how they were doing, and if the pairs I had put together we working out...
Does this get better? Do I need to just sort of check-out of other people's problems? Do non captains understand that we're dealing with our own nerves at the time, or are you angry if we're distant before a match?
I struggled with this when I first started captaining. Over the years I've developed a routine that helps me:
I set my lineup and print it out ahead of time, typically a couple of days before. Some captains like to wait until they see which players the opponents have at the match. But I've found that this does not help me. Even knowing who is there, it's a guess as to who will be playing which line, etc. So I prefer to focus on my own lineup ahead of time, discuss with the guys playing, agree, and then everyone knows who they are playing with and at what line. One less thing to deal with on match day.
Also, because it was done well in advance, there is no second guessing once lineups are exchanged. It is what it is. Once lineups are exchanged, I can focus exclusively on my own match.
On match day, I don't get together with the opposing captain until 5 mins before the match. I ask my players to get to the match site 30 mins early. For home matches, I come 45 mins early, and use the first 15 mins to set stuff up. Home or away, 30 mins before I am focused on warming up with my teammates.
Invariably, one or more players will still not be there 10-15 minutes before the start. I ignore it. I know and trust my teammates well enough - if they are going to be really late and miss the start time, they will call or text. If they are not there 5 mins before and I've not heard from them, then I call them. But I have very rarely had to do so, so not worth worrying about prematurely.
5 mins before is when I end my warmup and go exchange lineups with the opposing captain. Then its just a matter of telling my guys which court they are playing on, who their opponents are, and wish them luck. After that things are out of my hands and I am completely focused on my own match.