Creative ways to ask a girl to prom?

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  1. ayuname

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    Anyone have any ideas?

    I looked online but these ideas are pretty wimpy.
    I was thinking about buying a huge box and putting a note under like a bunch of delectables.
     
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  2. CanadianChic

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    What is your relationship to the girl?
     
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    Just ask her. Being cute and creative is nice but show her your a man and just walk up and ask. Women like a confident guy and what better way to show her then to just come out and say you want to take her to prom.
     
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    Isn't it a little early? I wasn't planning on asking until around February/March.
     
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  5. ayuname

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    Just formulating ideas.

    @CanadianChic, we're good friends, I want to be able to have fun asking her, that's why I said creative.

    @maverick, I would directly ask her, but that's too boring. I want some suspense. :p

    @meowmix, I know you are smart, prepare a plan with me! :)
     
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  6. CanadianChic

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    If you are friends and you are looking to make it fun (and assuming you believe she'll say yes), I would opt for a good old fashioned treasure hunt. Clue after clue after clue...have her figure them out and go to the locations for the next clues (maybe a dozen). At the final stop I would have a bouquet of flowers...something like wildflowers, lillies or birds of paradise (no roses) and the question on the card.
     
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  7. maverick66

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    thats kind of lame CC. What happens when she gets to the end and says no?:)

    Why be cute. Show her your a confident guy it goes alot further than a box with something cute on it.
     
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  8. ayuname

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    Treasure hunt is hard. :(
    Hahaha. It's a good idea though.
     
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    Just man up, and ask.

    Let the girls do all that cute crap.

    J
     
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    Oh no no no, you do NOT want me helping you out on anything to do with a relationship. I am NOT the person you want to be asking for advice on that subject.
     
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  11. CanadianChic

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    Confidence is essential and he won't be showing a lack of it by being creative. Keep in mind that the prom is very special to a teenage girl and what is exciting or memorable about the guy just barking it out? This is something she would remember. Would you ask a woman to marry you by saying "wanna get hitched?" or actually put some thought into it. By asking, he is showing confidence. By making it unique (not even close to lame BTW) he is letting her know she is special enough to put the effort into. Her friends and family would be impressed as well.

    How is it hard?
     
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  12. ayuname

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    CC got my brain waves. Sorta.

    I guess I'm just really tired, lazy, and alot on my mind right now. :F
     
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    Im not saying bark it out. But be a man and just tell her that you would like the honor of taking her to prom. How you say it is important. She needs to know you want to take her but dont be cute be a man.

    And if i was asking a girl to marry me I would not just lean over and asked do you wanna get hitched. I would at least get down on a knee and ask like a man is supposed to.
     
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    Your call but I can help you through it if you go that route. I must say that I know my sh1t when it comes to this sort of thing but the decision is up to you.
     
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    But if being 'cute' would impress the girl, is it not worth it? Let's face it, the prom really is geared for the females. He can be a man and confidently suggest they go to lunch some day at a particular restaurant but for the prom...effort is key.
     
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  16. CanadianChic

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    Nice, but you still need to be willing and able to cook. ;)
     
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    I agree with you prom is for girls more than its for guys. Its very special for a girl and a guy just goes along looking for some after prom loving.

    But im not a big fan of being cute when it comes to women. Ive seen many of guys try to be cute only to watch the girl they liked walk off with the guy who just said what they were looking for.

    and who said i couldnt cook?

    Sorry to derail your thread a little. But i stand by my first post. Just ask her. If you wanna be cute or chivalrous due it the night of with something special then.
     
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    That's why I asked what their relationship is. If they are friends and he feels she would say yes, then by all means, make the experience memorable for her. If she ambles off with another guy then she doesn't appreciate him or want him do be her prop anyway. I just think that for advice on what would impress a woman, women tend to know a little more on the topic. ;)
     
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    When she is expecting it? How is that romantic or impressive? Women enjoy it when a man goes out of their way to show them they are special and this is a non-expensive, fun way to do so.
     
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    is her name cheyenne? if so you should just not ask
     
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    Just ask her, quick, before someone else does. If she says yes, then you can think of something clever, later.
     
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    And I can say that I don't know **** when it comes to cute ways to go to the prom. Maybe what he needs is a smart woman, and a stupid guy to help, so they both get what they want.
     
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    Pass her a Note saying " We will just go as Friends only,, don't worry about the fact that we have to sleep together afterwards or anything like that". You will have her eating out of your hands..............
     
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  24. Boxofweasels

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    I put my invitation in a box of "Cracker Jacks." I opened them VERY slowly from the bottom with a letter opener to separate the folds in the packaging. I glued the whole thing back together after placing my note inside. I gave her the Cracker Jacks and told her there was a "Special" prize inside. The rest is history... Okay so she dumped me later for a drug dealer, but the Cracker Jacks worked!

    Good luck,
    Joel
     
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  25. ayuname

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    @Fedace, wouldn't that be very amusing. Hahaha.

    @Boxofweasels, aww man, hate the way that cookie crumbled.

    We will see, christmas break is almost here and the plotting shall begin! :)
     
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    You see that will take all the pressure off of the girl. and she will Want to sleep with you at all costs, just to find out if you are for real......
     
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    I liked it when they were talking about Hewitt proposing, he handed his soap opera star GF Bec the ring in a box and said "How about it?"

    J
     
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    Make sure she likes you otherwise it does not matter.
     
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    I think it just depends on who you are and what she's like. No one right /best
    way to go about it. Just be confident.

    Regarding the treasure hunt thing... I did a variation of it once. But not
    to ask a girl out. My friend left the keys to his dorm room door in the
    door knob and passed out after a party. I took the keys and put a note
    there in its place. On the note were directions on how to get to the
    next note (e.g. turn left, and take 20 steps until you reach the end of the
    hallway. now look at your reflection in the microwave. what do you
    see? doesn't matter. turn right while facing the microwave and go ....)
    I made about 12 of them. After about #5 he got kind of annoyed.
     
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  30. Fedace

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    Not really. if she likes you then she will go with you No matter what you say....
     
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    Don't get too fancy man. I was in the exact same place two years ago. Stressing the heck out.

    What you gotta do is just pull her aside, and ask her. Whatever you do, don't do it around a large group of people. Again I say don't get too creative. In the big picture, it's just the prom, not like you're asking to marry her or anything. :lol:

    Just man up, pull her aside, and ask her. And whatever you do, don't wait until it's too late. My prom was in May, so I asked in late March/early April. This gives plenty of time to get everything set up - what colors to wear, where to eat at, etc. It may seem stressful, but trust me in the big picture, the prom is no big deal. Just relax and be normal.
     
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    Sneak inside her house and use red paint to write PROM ...OR ELSE! on her walls.

    Goes over great with her parents too.
     
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    Didn't we do this thread last year?
     
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  34. maverick66

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    we do this type thread all the time. The teens are learning how to approach girls. Its an awkward time of life where they get turned in the wrong direction to easily.
     
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  35. ReopeningWed

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    You should take Dr. Fedace's word for it. His Ph.D was in Promology you know. ;)

    Maverick, since this is a tennis forum, I imagine all of the teenagers here to be socially awkward, home/private schooled hermits. Maybe there isn't enough time to work on people skills since everything goes towards their tennis training.
     
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  36. Feña14

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    I'm glad we don't do the prom thing here, sounds like more trouble than it's worth :)
     
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  37. Jay_The_Nomad

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    Ask her parents for their blessings & then hire a string quartet, prepare a song & perform a serenade demonstrating your creative love in front of the world and ask her to prom.

    Or you could just send her a text message or a message on msn asking her to prom.

    Alternatively, you could do what most people do; that is just ask if she is going with anyone. She will know what you're gonna ask next so based on her response, you'll know immediately if she is keen or not.
     
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  38. Breaker

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    Well when we did it and had 7 periods in the school day I just bought seven flowers and tied a small note to each one to be given to her each period by one of her friends of whatever teacher she had.

    1 - Will
    2 - You
    3 - Go
    4 - To
    5 - Prom
    6 - With
    7 - Me?!?

    For the 7th one I handed it personally..lots of 'awws' all around then the prom. It doesn't really matter though the year before that just asked directly with no other cutesy things and it had the same effect soo..depends on the girl I guess.
     
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  39. Omega_7000

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    That's cool!
     
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  40. Fedace

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    Here is a nice website to learn how to ask a girl out and have 99% chance of success. This works on anyone including hottest girl in school... Testimonial from a guy in australia.
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    You write the words "I am putting a wormidable effort here" in the back of your shirt, go to her and do this:

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    As a teenage girl, I'm with CanadianChic on this treasure hunt thing.
    Matter of fact, prom is a special event for females so why not do something special ? Treasure hunt sure is interesting enough but I think it should stay easy and simple . Just dont be too intricate and it will work fine :)
     
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    Oh so, I found out she's going in a girl's group.

    Oh well...
     
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    Girls' group? Damn, they didn't even have those 2 years ago when I was going to prom. WTF is that?
     
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    Too bad you didn't man up and ask her like Mav and myself suggested.

    Maybe she would have been going with you now.

    But wait...there is still time.

    Just ask the F'ing girl.

    J
     
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  47. maverick66

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    this is why I say dont be cute. Seal the deal then there is time to be cute. And if she likes you I guarantee this girls group thing would change. Unless she goes that way im sure a girl would rather have a guy she likes on her arm than a girlfriend.
     
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    And? I bet it will be amazing how quickly she might change her "plans" if you simply ask her, creatively or not.

    And I'll add that if she does accept, she's probably not going to be the only one and eventually that girl's group will be history.
     
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  49. J011yroger

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    That's 3 for ask.

    And 0 for sorry to hear that she is going with a girls group.

    Guess why she is going with a girls group... So she doesn't feel like a loser for not having a date.

    ASK.

    J
     
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  50. onehandbh

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    ^^^. Sack up and ask. A couple times I've hemmed and hawed about
    asking a girl out, thinking I'd have no chance. Sometimes it worked out okay and
    the girl ended up asking me out and the build up of tension in both parties was, uh,
    released, but other times, well my lack of gonadal fortitude didn't serve
    me well. Lessons learned.
     
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