Does your significant other play Tennis?

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Does your significant other play Tennis?

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  2. No

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  3. My Tennis and Love life are in the same hand

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  1. Alchemy-Z

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    Wife and I did a Clinic last night and got several comments from people like:

    "I could never get my wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend on a tennis court"

    I figured it would be more common, wanted to check here at TW?
     
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  2. TheCheese

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    If they're not at a similar level to you already, I think the question is whether or not it's worth it to try and drag them out to the courts.
     
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  3. Alchemy-Z

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    Clinic was all 2.5/3.0 ladies Me and one other guy 3.5's were joining in because our practice got rained out the night before and the coach told us to come to it.

    My wife and I hardly ever play each other.

    We have played Mixed doubles as a Team

    she comes to watch my Mens matches and cheer me on

    I go to watch her Womens matches and cheer her on.

    If we are on a court playing together just us it's normally a few baskets of balls and we do drills or mini game/like drills I don't think we have ever played a full 2 set match against each other in 3 years of playing so far.
     
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  4. Mauvaise

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    My current SO does not play tennis, but he will occasionally come out and hit a ball with me.

    My ex SO does play tennis (4.0) and was the reason I initially got interested in tennis a few years back. We do play together on a 7.0 mixed team.

    My current SO knows this and it has his full stamp of approval.
     
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  5. cll30

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    Yes, but rarely with me.
     
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  6. TeflonTom

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    she is able 2 play, but is not v competitive. will sometimes have a hit with her friends

    i dont really understand ppl who play mixed with their gfs and wives. i dont wanna bring that dynamic onto a tennis court

    anyway, 2 me tennis is one of my opportunities 2 socialize away from my gf. healthy relationships r when both partners maintain independent aspects of their lives
     
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  7. Setmatch45

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    She took some clinics in Hilton Head last year bought a racquet but has not played since. So no she does not play.
     
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  8. Angle Queen

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    No. If we played together on a tennis court...we'd end up in divorce court.

    That said, I'm not so sure I'd really want him to play. It would be nice, however, if every now and then...he came to watch me play. :sad:
     
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  9. floridatennisdude

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    Sounds familiar. My wife likes the clothes, but rarely plays. She could be OK if she'd put her mind to it. Since she doesn't she is a low 3.0 that doesn't play competitive.
     
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  10. aYellowBall

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    Nope... It would be so nice if she could though!
     
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  11. jdubbs

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    As long as it doesn't interfere with her making my sandwiches, it's fine.
     
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  12. TimothyO

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    My wife introduced me to this madness. She played in high school, returned about eight years ago, and then dragged me along a little less than two years ago.

    I'll play casual mixed doubles with her and hit with her for fun and even do drills with her. Won't play league mixed doubles. Tried it, didn't like it.
     
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  13. J_R_B

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    My wife does not play, but she's been threatening to learn along with our kids.
     
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  14. jmverdugo

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    My wife is a very good 4.0. We actually are quite decent playing mixed doubles but we went trough a hard time when we could not win a match and it was really hard, nowadays we doing just fine.
     
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  15. Off The Wall

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    My wife and I both played D1 tennis for our (separate) universities. We didn't play much together until we got married. Then we entered a few mixed doubles tournaments and won those.

    Ultimately, we had a daughter and entered a big Husband/Wife (along with a bunch of other permutations) tournament. It was so big that our first match was about one and half hours late. We had to default because we had to get back to relieve our babysitter.

    We haven't played doubles together since (30 years). We hit with each other a few times a week, though.
     
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  16. YK

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    My wife in a #1 ranked 4.0 woman in a district with almost double the points over #2, and she hasn't played for 6 weeks.
    I, on the other hand, have recently lost a set to a 3.5 dude...

    We hit pretty regularly against each other with her probably being a bigger beneficiary, although I can't recreate the game of her most difficult opponents. We've done some camps together. For the sake of a healthy marriage, we almost never play mixed doubles :)
     
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  17. dizzlmcwizzl

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    I am reminded of a story. Early on we went to hit on a date. It was all fun and giggles ... I let her win a couple points / games. That is until she started talking trash. It was at this point I hit a big serve which missed her by 2 feet her and stuck about half way up into the back fence.

    She said "were, done here" and walked off the court.

    You know those stories about major league pitchers that are so nasty they would throw at their own mother if they were crowding the plate. I might have a little bit of that in me :)
     
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  18. goober

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    I hit with my spouse exactly once. She told me she took a tennis class in college and got an "A". I ribbed her about what kind of university gives out letter grades for physical education classes? Well she couldn't keep the ball in the court so she decided that was the end of her attempts to hit with me.
     
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  19. beernutz

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    My wife and I both play various same sex leagues but neither of us play mixed and we rarely play social doubles together--maybe once every three months. We'll rally and practice together if we're on vacation where there are courts so that's maybe one or two other times a year. It is just better that way.
     
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  20. McLovin

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    My wife has been playing for almost 5 years now. I tried to get her into it when we first married (almost 20 years ago), but was unsuccessful.

    Then she started taking lessons w/ some of her friends, joined a 2.5 team, and now plays a solid 3-4 times a week. We play social mixed doubles, and an occasional 7.5 league (I'm a 4.5, she's a 3.0), but haven't played any serious tournaments.

    To me, the formula for a successful mixed w/ your spouse is the following:
    Don't say a word.​
    Seriously. Nothing. Not a word. No coaching, no advice, and nothing positive (you'll come off as sounding condescending). Just shut up & play.
     
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  21. chollyred

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    Not long after we married, my wife decided she might want to play. After a couple of lessons, she decided it'd take too much work to become good at it.

    She's not into sports. At all. If the grandkids are playing sports, I'm the one that has to do everything with them. She does not participate at all. I forced her to watch one of the kids play soccer one time, and I've had to force her to take one to baseball practice once. Really pisses me off. :mad:
     
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  22. Cindysphinx

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    Seriously, here's a guy who totally gets it.

    Here ya go.

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  23. Timbo's hopeless slice

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    I also shut up and play.

    She's an open player too, what would I tell her anyway? :)
     
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  24. mightyrick

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    Ah yes. "Spouse-O". Straight from the Inner Game of Tennis.
     
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  25. goober

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    Well I am sure it is good for his marriage, I am not sure I would want to play on any doubles team where my partner and I were silent to each other the whole match. A team that doesn't communicate isn't really much of a team. It is fine if you are winning, but if you are in a tight match or one that you are losing and you just play and say nothing to each other- you are probably better off just not playing together at all. Of course this mostly applies to tournament or league tennis. But even in social doubles where people are actually talking more both to each other and their opponents, I would find it strange just to be quiet the whole match.
     
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  26. TennisDawg

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    This falls in the category of "Honey does this dress make me look fat??" Especially if she thinks it's condescending when he makes positive coments.
     
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  27. spot

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    Seriously? You think that giving your significant other the silent treatment is the way to go? How does that make any sense? The guys who don't interact at all with their partners on the court are absolutely hated in our group of players.

    For me the key is to never talk about a mistake that happened and just to talk about what we are goign to do differently moving forward. Instead of talking about how it wasn't productive to hit to the net person again its far better to just say. "How about we try keeping the ball deep and crosscourt and be really active at the net?". "Why don't we try Australian on the Ad side to take away that sharp angle return?"

    And the #1 rule of mixed doubles- anytime the woman takes a step to the middle and misses a volley you should ALWAYS tell her that she made the right choice and that you want her to go for that shot. Even if you really wish she had let it go because you could have gotten to it, encouraging her to take the correct shot should always a good idea even if the results weren't there.
     
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  28. zcarzach

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    "No, of course that dress doesn't make you look fat. Your *** makes you look fat."

    or

    "No, that dress doesn't make you look fat but, d@mn, that is one fata$$ dress!"
     
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  29. TennisDawg

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    Bob immediately realized that his comments had gone uhh slightly over the edge. The futon in the garage would be his sleeping quarters for the night and for many more nights, oh how to turn it around, if only I......hadn't.... he thought. It was that pout Betty had on her face and the boiling underneath that would soon erupt. Bob, made a futile attempt, "honey I didn't mean you, I meant....." Betty continued to boil....
     
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  30. McLovin

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    What you say:
    What she heard:
    What you say:
    What she heard:
    Obviously I'm not giving her the "silent treatment", but I'm also not saying anything about the match. If she says something, or asks a question, I *might* offer up advice, but for the most part it is "yes, dear".

    I'm not acting pissed off, quite the contrary, I'm in a good mood out there. I honestly don't care if we win or lose, just that she is having a good time. And after being married for almost 20 years, I've seen a direct correlation between the amount of fun she has and the quieter I am, mixed doubles or not...
     
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  31. TennisDawg

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    sssssgghjjjj
     
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  32. kylebarendrick

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    Mixed with my wife works great for me as long as I never miss a shot and never hit anything weak.
     
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  33. jc4.0

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    I have a few Others but none are Significant :)
    However used to play tennis with my ex - for years, every sunday at 9am. One sunday he didn't show up, didn't call to cancel or apologize, and we never spoke again!!!! That was about 8 years ago.
     
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  34. TennisDawg

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    Maybe he had to go to church!
     
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  35. Timbo's hopeless slice

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    ohh, I NEVER play doubles with her!!!! NEVER!!!!

    we just practice on a Saturday morning for a couple of hours before we have to start ferrying children all over the place to sport.

    Probably the best hit I get all week.
     
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  36. Angle Queen

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    Along these lines, a good male friend, mentor and hitting partner advised me....when we were in a mixed tournament together....Beware the Married Couple that (still) plays together. They've worked it out! And darn if is he isn't correct. Young, married couples...we generally roll over. Older ones...not so much. LOL
     
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  37. cak

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    Don't need the silent treatment. You just walk up to your partner and whisper in his ear "Nice ***". He will do anything for you.
     
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    HAHAHA Mouth taped shut and she is very happy? That is hilarious
     
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  39. I Heart Thomas Muster

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    Same here. 16 years of being together and she's never seen my backhand in action.
     
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  40. Lambo

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    my SO and I actually met through tennis and we do play together. yes in dubs it sometimes leads to arguments. One has to be extremely patient if they play with their SO. Sometimes its diff other times its a blast. like life has its ups and downs. Gotsa go with the flow.............
     
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  41. Fuji

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    We used to play lots together but now not so much. I have a pretty heavy play schedule and she rides horses competitively at the National level so it doesn't work out to maintain both hobbies together. That being said she does usually come out to hit with me once a month or so, and I attempt to make it to all her events. :)

    -Fuji
     
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  42. TENNIS4FUN2

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    My spouse does not play and this is fine with me. Tennis is my hobby and he has his. Our teenage son plays tennis, but he also shares some of his father's hobbies so he gets time with each of us individually and is exposed to a lot of different types of hobbies.
    I really don't want my husband to play as many of the women I play with do not have their husband playing either and it would upset the great dynamics we have. OTOH, as Angle Queen said, he could come watch occasionally.
     
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  43. aniretake

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    Yes, thats actually how we met- playing in a local tourney. He is 4.0, i am 3.5; we play mixed together.
     
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  44. TeflonTom

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    if it was the other way round he prolly woulda been too emasculated 2 ask u out
     
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  45. sureshs

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    First sentence threw me off but that is OK
     
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  46. b33rfairy

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    Got married last year to a youngster who used to think tennis was "gay" then I got her goin and she is an animal now. We have played together for fun and I usually drill her when it's just me (4) and her (2.5). We can sit and watch grand slams all day and talk and cheer. She likes being a captain now of her own teams and all that. Love it...
     
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  47. texacali

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    Yup...name the sport. Skiing, bike riding, soccer, softball/baseball, go karts, dog walking. Anything physical that involves the kids or dog is pretty much mine. So tennis is well beyond the question...which leaves it as my private escape.


     
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