Ever had to play a close friend/family in a competitive situation?

Discussion in 'Adult League & Tournament Talk' started by Bergboy123, Jun 8, 2013.

  1. Bergboy123

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    I've always sort of dreaded the idea of having to play a very close friend or a family matter when there is something at stake. By that I mean that it's a tournament or league, where your winning will remove him/her from competition or something like that; not just bragging rights or a friendly match.

    Has anyone ever had to deal with this?
     
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  2. SweetH2O

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    I've enjoyed those matches when I play in league play against a friend. It feels like a fun practice match like we've likely had many times against each other. It helps me ignore whatever pressure there might be about winning and losing. There's no worry about gamesmanship or bad calls. It's never been awkward after the match - we still sit around and talk about our good and bad shots over a beer like usual.
     
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  3. J_R_B

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    Because everyone around here is on multiple teams in different districts, we end up playing against friends a lot, so it's pretty common. Also, every year I play a tournament in August that is a pretty big deal around here. Last year, I drew a guy in the first round that is one of the other top singles playes on my USTA team. It was fun (he won in 3), but I didn't want to play a teammate in the first round. It's fun to root for my teammates in that tournament, so it kind of stunk that one of us was going to lose right away.
     
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  4. floridatennisdude

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    Played my older brother in a HS challenge match for his spot at 3 singles. Beat him. He beat the $h!+ out of me later that night.

    Of course, I baited him into it. So I deserved my beating every bit as much as he deserved the L.
     
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  5. goran_ace

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    It happened a lot in juniors. When you train with a bunch of good players who play a lot of tournaments it's inevitable that you'll end playing each other in tournament play. If you meet in the semifinals, as much as you want to win that you can still lose and want to cheer on your buddy in the final because you've both had a good run at the tournament. It's a lot tougher if you have to meet early in the tournament and know that one of you is going to be going home early.
     
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  6. Larrysümmers

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    Yeah, it's interesting playing your sparring partner. I knew his weaknesses so I went out of my way to exploit them, but then I wasn't playing to my strengths. Once I started to 'let it fly' I got the upperhand.
     
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  7. dcdoorknob

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    I'm going to assume you aren't playing any tournaments with $ prizes. If so, they're pretty much all just friendly matches for bragging rights, aren't they?

    I mean I know if it's a tournament you paid to enter it's not the same as just a set played on a saturday afternoon meetup, but really if you stop and think about the stakes, it's not worth getting all worked up about. Just have fun regardless.
     
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