Grumpy player in foursome

Discussion in 'Adult League & Tournament Talk' started by Steady Eddy, Apr 3, 2014.

  1. Spin Doctor

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    We were discussing math, not grammar so it's not really that ironic. I also wrote the word "cuz" and "ROFL" in one of my posts on this thread -- surprised you didn't pick up me not giving too many craps how I write. Anyway, genuine thanks for pointing that out since I learned that it is improper usage of the word and I think I've used it in emails at work before....oops.

    Besides, I am just a dumb, unwashed white collar worker so I shouldn't be expected to know these things. Suresh, OTOH, is a learned man and now that he is a Bionic Poster the standards for him will be higher.
     
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  2. g4driver

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    Disagree with the grin and bear it crowd - tennis is supposed to be fun for you. It isn't supposed to be a chore for you.

    I don't hit with people for fun , if I don't care for them, unless it is a local ladder match hopefully you have that luxury. Why waste your time being around buzzkill curmudgeon?

    If someone on this forum thinks you should be part of a social experiment, ask them to fund you for your time . If it isn't fun, why force the issue?

    Be a man and tell the other guys in your group why you won't play and privately tell the jerk why you are leaving. Tell him in a manner that is professional, yet tell him he is being a jerk and you don't want to be around people like him.

    Do you think he hasn't heard this from his family and friends ? He doesn't care so man up and tell him to stop being an @$$.
     
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  3. g4driver

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    Even if the guy has cancer or recently lost his wife, unless someone calls him on being a jerk, he will keep being that jerk.

    Maybe the grumpy guy just needs a real friend- someone who will go have a beer with him and try be a positive influence on the him. But someone has to be brave enough to tell him - "hey your being a jerk", them try to be a better friend than just a hitting partner.

    Sometimes grumpy people are hurting also.
     
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  4. Steady Eddy

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    You make a lot of sense, IMO.
     
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    hit some more drop shots that he cannot reach but ignore any comments he might make..:neutral: BUT..emit a small cheer when you win the drop shot point (yeeaah) or just ignore him full stop but drop shot him into oblivion and stay polite..(no cheering a winner though) :)

    or play the old 'School For Scoundrels' routine (ukfilm1959) :twisted:..every time he hits one wide or dumps the ball into the net say "hard cheese" EVERY time. *embracing the spirit of Terry Thomas as you go*
     
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  6. Steady Eddy

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkfT7p6kBE0

    Like this? This is a great vid on how to play tennis btw. I think Terry Thomas was GOAT.
     
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  8. Edburger

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    Tennis, very bad exercise. Get fit to play tennis, not play tennis to get fit.

    You mock my English, but use words like this? There is saying about pots and kettles, I think.
     
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  9. sureshs

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    Correct, but many will not get fit AND not play tennis. Better to play tennis.
     
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    When I exercise, it lowers my blood pressure. I played doubles before a Doctor's visit and it was 102/70, which is really good for me. Since I started playing again my blood sugar is better too.

    I don't like to exercise. At least I'm willing to do tennis.
     
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  11. Edburger

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    That is good. But, recreational tennis is still not very good exercise.

    If your goal is exercise, best to pick another sport.
     
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    I've been trying to it (and maybe it was in a magazine and not online), but there was an article I read that did a study that showed that partner that did use physical contact (a 'weak' high five - like just touching hands in the high five manner, but a waist level if that makes sense) after every point, win or lose, actually perform better as a team than those that don't use physical contact.

    When I have watched professional doubles I notice that all partners seem to subscribe to making some kind of physical contact with each other after every point.
     
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  13. kevrol

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    Depends on your body type I suppose. Between tennis and eating better I've lost 35 pounds in 18 months.
     
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    Holdup, member sovertennis is wrong, not you. There's no error in using "irregardless" rather than "regardless", it's personal preference.
     
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    Oh boy, what a silly post. See above.
     
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    I remember some article saying that a good doubles team should average 83 communications during a match, or something like that. I try to lift my partner up after a miss (emotionally not literally) and tell 'em "That was close," or "Try it again, you'll get it next time." It's surprising how many partners only give you a complement after a winner, but you get the silent treatment after a miss. You're partner needs the the love and encouragement more after a miss, when they are down, then after a winner when they KNOW they hit a good shot. I'll try all the waist level touching in my next mx'ed match--hopefully it doesn't get me slapped.
     
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  17. bukaeast

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    technically speaking

    Personal preference, but beware that there could be consequences. It is a nonstandard word. Know how your language usage appears...

    Although it's true that the American Heritage Dictionary, the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, and the Oxford English Dictionary all list the word irregardless, they also note that it's considered nonstandard. Listing a word as nonstandard is a way that dictionaries concede that a word is in common use, but isn't really a proper word. Standard language is defined as the language spoken by educated native speakers (1), but comprehensive dictionaries also include nonstandard words, dialect, colloquialisms, and jargon--words like ain't, conversate, and irregardless. It seems pretty common for people to look up a word in a dictionary, and if it's there, they think it's fine to use that word every circumstance. - See more at:
    http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ed...rdless-versus-regardless#sthash.IxkHJznO.dpuf


    You will know how, what you are saying is being taken. Do it on purpose.
     
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  18. CurrenFan

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    Wrong. Unless, of course, you don't mind other people thinking that you are an ignorant sort of person.
     
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  19. sovertennis

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    It's not possible to misunderestimate that sort of person.
     
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  20. Overdrive

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    Umm... what?
     
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  21. Overdrive

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    Correct. Irregardless is an informal version of regardless. Not suitable for rhetoric.
     
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  22. jswinf

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    Just thinking in terms of the topic of this thread, hair-splitting over word choices, especially when it's obvious what is meant, sounds like something the grumpy person in the foursome would do.

    It just ain't that big a whoop.
     
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  23. Spin Doctor

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    Ah, yes. The high level of rhetoric on this site and the internet in general. Only proper and correct English must be used. Sorry I couldn't measure up. It must be my poor edumacation.

    Irregardless, Sureshs' gaffe was hilarious and deserved a good razzing. He has a sense of humor about himself so he can handle it.

    Oh dear, I just realized that "razzing" is not suitable for rhetoric. I apolomagize to the Harvard debate team members who may be reading this.
     
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