How should friends handle this?

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  1. Cindysphinx

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    I'm wondering how you folks would handle this situation.

    Four friends (Amy, Bea, Cathy and Dora) are taking a five-day vacation. Bea, Cathy and Dora will be traveling on the same itinerary -- same flights. This means they will share a cab to the hotel, at a total cost of $60 one way.

    Amy is going to make it a longer vacation to visit family in the area. She will fly separately both ways and will rent a car to get around. She will meet up with the others for the hotel portion of the vacation. Once she meets the others, there will be no need for anyone to have a car -- it will be parked (for free) at the hotel.

    Here's the question: If Amy gives Bea, Cathy and Dora a ride from the hotel back to the airport (thereby saving them $60), should Amy receive $60 from the others? If they do not offer, should she ask? Should Amy just consider it a favor and let it go? Is there a better/different solution?
     
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  2. jhick

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    This.

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  3. sureshs

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    How much is the distance?
     
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  4. theyhatethecans

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    My first post!

    If she is cool, she probably won't mind picking you up and won't mention anything about money. Any time to be able to get together with friends has much greater value than money. If the 3 who are getting the cab ride are cool, you would all chip in and buy her dinner one night.
     
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  5. ProgressoR

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    Amy has the car. If she wants to put herself out to pick up the friends then its for no charge. If the friends want to save money and put pressure on her to pick them up and she doesnt want to, they should not push it. If she doesnt offer they shouldnt ask.

    If this is causing them some consternation, then how will they share a holiday together. If Amy is the one thinking about it, then she should probably offer. If they have luggage she probably cant fit it all in the car anyway.
     
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  6. CoachingMastery

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    It reminds me of a common adage:

    Remember favors received, forget favors given.
     
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  7. theyhatethecans

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    exactly...
     
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  8. BobFL

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    Geez, no of course not! Is she a friend or a taxi-driver providing a service?

    Anyways, Cindy you should definitely write a novel and put Joanne Rowling to shame. There is so much more drama in your threads than in Harry Potter....
     
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  9. Cindysphinx

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    Distance is about 16 miles/34 minutes one-way (between hotel and airport) according to Mapquest.

    Amy will then probably hit the road to go to her next destination. This destination is in the general direction of the airport (meaning she won't have to double back), but of course dropping the others off at the airport will delay Amy and will require her to leave the freeway.
     
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  10. VaththalKuzhambu

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    B, C and D ought to give ($60/4=)$15 each to A.
     
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  11. LameTennisPlayer

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    I suggest a mud wrestle... the winner is void of paying, the rest have to split.
     
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  12. VaththalKuzhambu

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    I did not read this carefully before my previous post. A dinner and couple drinks should suffice.

     
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  13. sureshs

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    With the women ripping each other's clothes apart?
     
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  14. sureshs

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    Then she should just treat it like a favor rendered. Of course, she should expect thank yous and reciprocation later if she needed a favor.
     
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  15. jmverdugo

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    I am guessing they are not that good friends, I would just say: you are taking us to the airport! B!!t(h!!

    Just kidding, the best solution would be to just ask, hey frienda can you give us a ride to the airport? thanks! JMO
     
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  16. Pocky

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    I'm guessing you're Amy
     
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  17. hb_hound

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    This would never be an issue with four men. Why would she not give them a ride or expect compensation for said ride?
     
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  18. Cindysphinx

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    It's not gender. It's more personality.

    And I'm not revealing which person I am. I will, however, give my opinion when the votes are tallied.

    And of course I will bump this thread and tell you how it all worked out!
     
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  19. LameTennisPlayer

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    Who wears clothes in a mud wrestle anyway? It's usually a prerequisite of entry- clothesless...
     
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  20. hb_hound

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    It is a gender thing, watching four women trying to split a check at lunch, for example, is quite comical. There are detailed discussions on who ate what and how the appetizers should be split. Men on the other hand just throw money in a pile on the table and the waitress usually makes out rather well on the tip.
    I am curious to see the outcome.
     
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  21. li0scc0

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    Amy could consider it a favor if Bea, Cathy, and Dora do not offer $60.
    But Bea, Cathy, and Dora SHOULD chip in. Maybe not $60 total, but maybe $10 each which is $30 total.
     
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  22. dlk

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    Free ride; they're friends. They can return the favor.
     
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  23. LameTennisPlayer

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    I am interested in how these special favors are repayed amongst girlfriends...
     
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  24. nereis

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    If "Amy" asks for the equivalent of the cab fare then the three others are indifferent between paying an Indian driver and having a rather odd friend. If Amy was really hard up for cash, and it can happen if this was sprung on her late and her cash flow is just timed badly she can just ask for help in springing for gas and explain her situation. Among my friends its a simple, "Hey I'll drop you off at your place (a 20min detour) no sweat."
     
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  25. dlk

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    They'll never tell:)
     
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  26. athiker

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    Yes...Bea, Cathy and Dora offer and Amy gracefully refuses.
     
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  27. LameTennisPlayer

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    They don't need to tell me, they could take a few pictures or do a bit of JVC recording.... they already have the fake aliases down pat :wink: :-D :lol:
     
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  28. dlk

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    LOL, I wish the names were a little more age aimed at my targets (i.e., Tiffany, Alexis, Porshe, Candy versus Bee, Gertrude, Mabel, & Auntie M).
     
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  29. Maui19

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    Is this a question from the SATs?
     
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  30. sureshs

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    I am sure you can buy some DVDs about things like that
     
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  31. Rippy

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    It's a favour.
     
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  32. LameTennisPlayer

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    Oh definitely, but this sounds like it actually has an interesting plot and storyline, sharing a cab, driving around, 5 day vacation, confused about who pays what, sharing a hotel, picking up randoms along the way....
     
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  33. sureshs

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    Cindy, please reveal everything.

    The answers I mean.
     
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  34. LameTennisPlayer

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    you sir buddy are on the same wave-length as me, I also find it incessantly hilarious...'but you ate all the turkish breads and dips....but you're cocktail was more expensive....but I don't drink anyway.....bickering continues..'

    vs

    man pays bill then walks to bar, tries to hit on waitress and if he's lucky only gets a slap in the face
     
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  35. Dilettante

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    So she's gonna rent the car for her own personal purposes anyway, I think she shouldn't charge her friends. It's more like "hey girls, by chance I'll rent a car so I can pick up" and that's all. A favour.
     
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  36. jmverdugo

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    Men would be fighting about who is going to be the designated driver.... actually they would cancel the flight tickets and go all to Las Vegas.
     
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  37. sureshs

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    Don't be so sure. Women also tend to go in groups to Las Vegas and whatever happens there, you don't want to know.
     
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  38. jswinf

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    Well, if there's voting to be done...

    When the driver takes the exit to the airport the alpha female among the 3 non-drivers says "thanks for the lift, can we give you something for gas?" Driver says "Oh, no, don't be silly!" Others say OK but we owe you lunch at fill-in-the-blank, and everybody's happy.
     
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  39. PeterPanda

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    Depends are these friends not really good friends. Most of the time i would say yes let it go she should drive them to the airport.
     
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  40. neverstopplaying

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    Another vote for "this is a chick issue only".

    Life's short - friends are friends.
     
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  41. dParis

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    Tru 'dat.
    Therapy?
     
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    Corrected.
     
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  43. SirGounder

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    Lol I was thinking the exact same thing. When we go out, the girls break out their cell phones to calculate tip. The guys round up to the nearest $5-10 and leave. Thus, the wait staff makes off with a 25 to 30% tip.

    I say since the airport is in the general direction of where Amy is going, she should just do her friends a favor. Her friends should offer to buy her lunch, give her some money etc in return but are not obligated to do so. When I go out with friends, we'll spot each other all the time with the understanding that the other guy has it next time. It all evens out, either that or I'm getting the shaft.
     
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  44. JoelDali

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    Dora sounds hot.

    Does she have that Facebook stuff so we can check out the giblets?
     
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  45. Fandango

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    just see it as a favor and nothing much.
     
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  46. Ken Honecker

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    As a guy, and this is totally a gender thing, I'd be willing to spend a half hour and $3 worth of gas to help my friends out without expecting anything in return. If the person with the car isn't comfortable with this or doesn't want to anger anyone by asking for money then all they have to do is schedule their day so it isn't possible for them to act as a taxi.

    As one of the passengers I'd say thanks but it would never come to mind to offer a friend money for such a simple favor.

    One of my online friends talks on occasion about 3AM Mates who are those you can call in the middle of the night to pick you up if the old lady tosses you out or bail you out of jail if things didn't go quite as planned. In either scenario I don't think tipping is required.
     
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  47. hb_hound

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    Reminds me of this

    Friendship among Women:
    A woman didn't come home one night. The next morning she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew anything about it.


    Friendship among Men:
    A man didn't come home one night. The next morning he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her husband's 10 best friends. Eight confirmed that he had slept over, and two said he was still there.
     
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  48. Pidgeon

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    sheesh i thought this was a tennis related forum
     
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    How did they arrive at the gives a ride part? If Amy offered, then Amy shouldnt bring it up and just consider it a favor. If the girls asked her to drive them then they should offer some money to Amy, if they don't then Amy should just consider it an favor and let it go.
    Geesh........if not they should just find themselves less cheap friends to vacation with next time.
     
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  50. crystal_clear

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    I think three friends need to respect whatever Amy's decision is and not feeling offended. It will be nice to offer Amy money or a nice dinner and it is up to Amy if she wants to take it or not. Paying $60 is like doing strict business so paying $30 is more appropriate. Some appreciation would encourage people to provide help in the future. A win/win situation is ideal to maintain a healthy relationship.

    Amy spent gas and at least one hour of time to pick up friends.

    BTW, Cindy is not Amy.
     
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