How to Handle the Emotions

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  1. Elite Tennis Barcelona

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    Many players are slaves to their emotions , anger , depress , or any other emotion that prevent them from having the performance they should have.
    I do not know if this is true , but once someone told me that the word emotion comes from "E + motion " and that means energy in movement, true or not , I think it is very figurative. What is clear is that a strong emotion is a stream of energy flowing like a volcano often from within us , if I stop it, I´ll accumulate, and if I, explodes I´ll loose control of my actions. In adolescence , this lack of control is much more evident because CNS immaturity
    An emotion creates a chemical change in the body, if we are happy if we produce endorphins , and when nervous we produce adrenaline, this alters our ability to perceive objectively . To take an obvious example, if you are in love , everything is perfect and if you are depressed everything is ugly and dark, but the objective reality is the same. This means , we create our reality from emotion we are feeling. From a neurophysiological point of view, emotions are automatic response to a given situation.
    And from the evolutionarily point of view they are necessary for the survival; meaning that emotions arrives to the executors nerves before rational thought. It is a typical situation where the player smash the racket and then regret the action , i.e. react and then think ,
    Any emotion is bad, all have their uses at the appropriate time . What we need to assess is how useful the emotion we are feeling is.
    - For example: if you are trapped inside that emotion, the problem is not the anger but getting stuck in that anger, that's what paralyzes
    These poses a lot of questions:
    • How can we ask a person to handle their emotions if they haven’t been shown how to ?
    • Should we be taught how to manage emotions in school?
    • How to identify/put a name to these emotions ?
    • And above all how to understand and respect what we are feeling and what others are feeling as well ?
    Then , can you control the emotions ?
    I think it is bad to curb emotions and also to let them run wild. Trying to restrain your emotions is like taking a punch , you can take it, but it does not mean it's good for you. Or you can let it go with very serious consequences. Then what do we do?
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  2. SublimeTennis

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    Emotions are a huge part of the equation of winning tennis. I'm always nervous, but that nervous energy helps me, it makes me more alert, many benefits, it's like fight or flight. Pro's are the same way, I remember I think it was Murray saying "I was real nervous ahead of time, which is great, if I wasn't I wouldn't play well". Even Fed, after all of his GS's and matches still gets real nervous before a match.

    Cus D'Amato said it best, "Fear is like a fire, it either warms your house or burns down your house".
     
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  3. user92626

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    I also develop a seemly negative emotion to help me play better. On the outside my peers think I am frustrated and upset when I grunt and scream slightly to myself. They tell me it's ok to lose points. I'm kinda like the Hulk who needs aggressive energy to be effective. :)
     
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  4. Silent

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    1. Anticipate the anger;
    2. Does giving in help you to be the person you wish to be?
    3. Diaphragmatic breathing. This is crucial and has a positive chemical impact on your body. It's not just about buying time.
    4. Take a step back after the fact and analyze the situation.
    5. See a therapist

    All of those things can help to deal with emotions. Everybody has strong emotions, so don't expect it to stop. But they can be dealt with.

    Look into Diaphragmatic breathing. This is extremely important. I cannot put enough emphasis on that.
     
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  5. Elite Tennis Barcelona

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    the point is not to cancel emotions, if not to get the one that you need to perform. If Nadal try to play with the Federer emotions, he never will perform well. Mc Enroe needed to be anger to perform well. Every player has to look for the "right" emotion for himself. The coach just have to work on it when the emotion the player usually has in the competion is not the one that is helping him to perform (sorry my english, for sure is not the right one)
     
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  6. Stop spamming this site to promote your blog, thank you.
     
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  7. shindemac

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    i gave up reading.
     
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  8. siljoz

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    What a pitty you gave up. you should finish to read
     
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  9. akind

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    When I get angry on court, I just keep reminding myself that it is only a game of tennis and the most important thing is I am lucky to be enjoying life with my loved ones. I should enjoy tennis and not be a slave of it. I would feel relaxed, smile, and just enjoy life. People often wonder how I often laugh when I made some erratic shots. It takes a big heart to laugh at yourself.
     
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  10. boramiNYC

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    I think the first legitimate step in being able to control emotion is to understand how mind and emotion work. There are many ways people have thought about and developed how not to get affected by emotion.

    One of the most interesting school of thought is Alexander technique and how it deals with stage fright. BTW the concept is very similar to the famous tennis book called 'inner game of tennis'.

    Mind has limited capacity at a given moment and sensing and feeling emotion takes time and focus and reduces that capacity. And feeling the emotion is a sort of a passive activity from the mind letting the body respond to the hormonal changes. But with practice one can take charge of the mind and actively use it in its full capacity which then can hold off the body to respond to the emotion.

    Of course it won't be a good idea to permanently block emotion but it's possible to compartmentalize the mind's capacity so the concentration is undivided to execute the task at hand.

    The key is being able to assign just the right amount of task so the mind will have to be working close to its fully capacity. The assignment must be clear, achievable, and challenging enough. Unclear, too difficult, or too easy assignment result in allowing the mind to respond to other things like emotion.

    Recently read about some pros interview at AO on how they deal with the pressure of the big stage, and the response was they feel all the emotion and pressure before the start of the match but once the first ball is struck all the emotion disappears because a clear task is presented too them that they know how to deal with. It seemed to me once the ball is in play their mind is completely taken for the task at hand. And there's no time or energy to respond to emotions.

    Emotions arise from the occasions but if you are too busy trying to do something it can be held off. And repeated practice of this command of your own mind with just right kind of task can help you improve controlling the emotion.
     
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    Do not concentrate on the score. Focus on the ball coming toward you & how you will stroke it. Do not worry if your opponent is on a hot streak & blows you off the court. Do worry if you have made unforced errors & ask yourself why. (Es muy sencillo este juego que se llama el tenis.)
     
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  12. ericwong

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    I handled my emotion by walking to the end of the court after losing a point, sort of regrouping and try to focus the next point. It helps me to forget the point and play the next one. However, this is not applicable in doubles as your partner might think you are not in control and only play in your own world, without communicating with your partner...guess it's hard to apply on all occasions
     
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  13. Ash_Smith

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    There's a few posters around here who could do with learning to handle their emotions Enrique!

    :p
     
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  14. RoosterDJC45

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    I read it all, but I'm not so sure of its accuracy (especially any emotion is bad")

    I watched a talk on how stress is your body preparing you for what's about to come. If you look at it the nervousness, the heart palpitations, the sweating as all there to help you, you may feel prepared to swing away.

    Watch this is you like:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU
     
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  15. sureshs

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    I really don't see the point of getting emotional in recreational tennis.
     
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  16. user92626

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    There's a saying that you get out as much as you put in. To feel a certain joy you also need to feel a certain pain.

    Of course if you don't care one way or another, what's the point of recreation? LOL.
     
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  17. sureshs

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    The recreation is in the exercise and the strokes, not in the winning or losing.
     
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  18. user92626

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    Winning or losing often time is the truest measurement you can get of the amount of exercise and stroke skills.

    If it's simply exercise and strokes, I can rent a machine ...



    This argument goes around and around, but the deluded stays deluded.
     
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  19. Elite Tennis Barcelona

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    Every emotion has a positive intention in the right moment. If I get angry when somebody is trying to damage my family, then the "anger" is positive. If i keep angry once the situation is already solved, then is not positive. From the ontogenetic, every emotion was and is necessary, dependig of the situation. The problem is not to get into one emotion, if not to learn how to go out once is not useful
     
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