I fell in love with a married woman.

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  1. ninman

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    You have no idea what a stupid translation this is btw. The character 中 has a much more general meaning than "middle". The reason it is drawn that way is because it represents an arrow fired at the center of a target.

    中 can mean, middle, center, in between, medium,... and so on. In this case the word 中国 translates better as "the country at the center". In Chinese culture there are five heavenly gods, east, west, north, south and center, the god in the center being the most powerful.

    So the Chinese name for China 中国 is implying that China is the country in the center, and therefore the most powerful, biggest and most important country in the world.

    Back on topic, it was just a stupid infatuation, I'm over it now.
     
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    Well, I think those Chinese ladies can trick you only if you let them. If you follow Tom Leykis' advice (fck them and dump them) the joke would be on them.

    As for your opinion on Ronaldo: LOL. Can I put it in my signature?

    But be careful, a certain poster is certain to accuse you of crimes against humanity now. :)
     
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    Not to mention the one where all the substandard cr@p we consume in the West is manufactured by underpaid, underskilled, underaged laborers. LMFAO
     
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    Just proposition the girl and only then will you actually see where the land lies.

    By the way, how long did you spend getting infatuated with her? Did it ever come into your mind while this friendship was blossoming to ask her if she was in a relationship, since you hold that ideal in such a sacred manner?
     
  5. ninman

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    Lol, it happened the instant I saw her, the very moment that I laid eyes on her.

    When we were hanging out that one time (it's only been one time btw, I'm guessing her husband has told her to stay away from me), I didn't ask her if she had a bf or what not because I was too afraid in case she said "yes". However that being said, the way she was acting and behaving towards and around me would indicate to anyone, i.e. NT's that she was single and very interested in me.

    When I told my Dad about it his reaction was "that's very strange for a married woman, you should be very careful in case her husband wants to meet you with a few other guys".
     
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    You should think about psychotherapy for yourself. The notion that you believe you were in love the instant you saw her and the belief that her husband felt threatened by your existence (much less knew of you) portend potential problems in relationships.
     
  7. SwankPeRFection

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    We're still taking about this? She's married, find another one loser! Why is it so hard to get this... she's unavailable!
     
  8. r2473

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    i took the sartre seminar at my university and this was naturally the focus.

    what you say about things getting lost in translation is true. the prof spent some time discussing the shortcommings of the hazel barnes translation. its surprising another translation hasnt been done in some ways, but i understand why.

    i would strongly advise reading at least this before reading b&n. it will help a lot.

    http://www.amazon.com/Transcendence...e=UTF8&qid=1341506039&sr=1-12&keywords=sartre


    another seminar course. you guys are bringing back happy days

    we used the dreyfus book as an aid. its not without its faults, but i think it does help.

    http://www.amazon.com/Being---World...qid=1341506319&sr=1-8&keywords=being+and+time

    by the way, dreyfus is probably the reason sartre has been so severely "devalued"

    we used the (then new) stambaugh and schmidt translation, but had the John Macquarrie and Edward Robinson translation too for comparison. its good to have both. together, they make the book more intelligible.

    if you read one book in your life, this might be the one. even if you are more the bertrand russell type, its good to understand the argument of "the other side". it might just all be "profound nonsense", but maybe not...............................
     
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  9. Alchemy-Z

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    Yup.........WAPCE!!
     
  10. albino smurf

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    Maybe she is flirting with you to see if she can trade up so to speak. Women like that deserve to be ignored.

    If not and you are just experiencing puppy love, then get over it or act on it.
     
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    What if you're more the charles schultz type? If I'm only going to do this once, I've got to know I'm not wasting my time.
     
  12. r2473

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    i didnt know his first name was charles :)

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    Dude, you just reminded me how funny N@zi prison camps were! Thank you! :lol:
     
  14. r2473

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    is this sartre? :)
     
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    Schultz's expression looks like his wife just told him she's sleeping with the math nerd from work.:lol:
     
  16. r2473

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    nice one :)
     
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    Can I get it in a cartoon format?
     
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    I used to sing this song to my 9th grade math teacher, "Miss Jones." She told me I needed a GF.
     
  19. Limpinhitter

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    Are you 100% certain she's married? If she did think you were talking about someone else when you referred to finding your princess, and it hurt her feelings, it wouldn't surprise me if she was being sarcastic about having dinner with her husband. If she is married, she probably wouldn't, and certainly shouldn't, be leading you on. Or, perhaps she didn't intend to lead you on, knew you meant her, wasn't interested in you romantically and implied she was married to nip it in the bud, so to speak.
     
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    Here's the thing ..

    When you're in a committed relationship and you meet a female that's also in a committed relationship, you can still feel attraction and often flirt.

    The thing is, both people know that it's often harmless, which leads into being friends.

    Sometimes people feel the need to have a sort of 'at work girlfriend or boyfriend'. This is also like having an at work brother or sister that you joke around with.

    Generally single people understand this unless they are desperate, or have never been in a committed relationship. In the latter cases they'll fall in love with the girl who flirts with them just to have fun at work.

    A lot of girls will just lead you on too, because they like the attention, and know that you're in love with them.

    She'll bring up her husband when you go over board, like calling her a princess over the internet. That's basically telling you that you crossed the line, and she sees you as a friend.

    Basically, there's plenty of fish in the sea, so move on.
     
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    Wisdom.


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    OH yes, I did joke around with coworkers sometimes!! Guess what, that's a part of exciting life at work! The thing is, we are all playing along very well at work before heading home.

    OP, it's a time to dusk off your gears and Good luck!!
     
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    Well I have met this guy who she says is her husband, whether they are actually married or not I've no idea, I just have to take her word for it. She honestly probably didn't know I was talking about her because I said it in a way that made it sound like someone else.

    Anyway it's irrelevant, I'll try and meet a single woman.
     
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    Just a quick update, I received this message today;

    "I am sorry to tell you that my husband is a little unhappy about my contacting you so frequently because I soldom touched a boy so frequently before."

    Not quite sure what to make of that. Needless to say that was the end of something very beautiful.
     
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    Sounds like she wants an affair... I'd stay far away. Don't mess with women like that
     
  26. ninman

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    Why does it sound like she wants an affair?
     
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    this lady (and to a lesser degree her husband) just ooze crazy and drama. run. just.........run.
     
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    hi ninman, nice to see you moving on to safer pastures - good for you.

    One way to further distance yourself emotionally from little miss forbidden fruit might be to objectify her. So to that end, what's the 411 on this little wall socket w/fur??

    Face? .... legs? ..... rack?
     
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    Just hit it and quit it dude. Until then you will never get over it. You will always in the back of your mind think what could have been.

    Chances are shes boring in the sackso you can just move on way easier than if you didnt know.
     
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    Just so you know her husband keeps hanging about outside my office like he wants to beat me up. This **** is getting worse.
     
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    This is even better. You can beta this guy and take his wife. Even though you are in China or wherever you are not everybody knows kung fu. You can do it.
     
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    I know Karate, I've practised it for over 6 years, I'll be just fine.
     
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    Hollywood you should be a therapist. Excellent, well thought out advice all around.
     
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    I am almost certain her husband was telling her what to type and both were laughing their asses off. You've been the subject of a cruel joke. Hint: If what she said were true she wou!d have never told you.
     
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    Why wouldn't she tell me something like that?

    Also I noticed if she leaves to go somewhere he walks beside her and kind of rushes her past my office, not only that but she also walks past my office with her head down, doesn't even look in and say hello.
     
  36. The_Question

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    It was never "something very beautiful", as she is...MARRRIED!!!

    I'm surprised your father didn't beat you to death when you told him about this...affair. Traditional Chinese father would've been ashamed of you...just sayin'...
     
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    Im pretty sure he hasnt done anything yet. Im trying to get him to man up and knock the bottom of this lady. She obviously doesnt like this guy she is married to or she wouldnt be flirting. She probbaly now is thinkin exactly exactly what ninman is. She wants to rock his world but is to shy to say something.

    Which takes us back to ninman nuttin up and beating this loser up (he knows kung fu, but all chinese dont so there is a good chance this loser husband doesnt know kung fu, or wu shu, or monkey stlye (which i think is actually still kung fu))and taking his girl. He needs to tap into full Dr. Dre NWA Style

    "thats the kinda ninman that ya listenin to
    talk to ya for a minute and my D&@$ in you"

    Thats the mindset ninman needs to finally just bang this chic.
     
  38. ninman

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    Lol, that's a great post man. Seriously though she does tell me how "kind and friendly he is" but that he's a "traditional" man. I'm not sure if she's trying to convince me or herself.

    If he really was "kind and friendly" he wouldn't mind his wife talking to me, not only that she would let me meet him and spend time with him to judge for myself, there would no need to tell me that.
     
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    You're probably going to go through with this whole thing anyways. Married women have a quality that some kinds of men like (speaking from personal experience here).

    But just to tell you. Out of any affair (emotional or physical) situation I've personally experienced, known about, or heard of, the number of them that result in meaningful long term relationships is exactly ZERO.

    If you're smart, you don't do it. You'll realize later on that there's a reason you're attracted to a married woman. It has very little to actually do with her, believe it or not.
     
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    i once watched a chinese movie where the father tells his son, friendships don't exist between a man and a woman.
    he said, either you don't know the woman, you are lovers, or you are adversaries :)
     
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    Same woman? Even if it is not, you're repeating the same mistakes. Did you even forget about your ex-wife finally? You need to think with your big head before you act. That's what some of us are saying. Many men have gone off the deep end over women (no offense to women, but you all ain't worth it). You seem to jump into relationships or try to project a relationship too quickly and too easily. And you let your breakups or hurt feelings linger on even into the next woman you seek. It's not even love you're craving for. It's really little more than lust (the type of crushes you have in middle and high school). If you want to play, don't get emotionally involved. If you really are seeking love (personally I doubt you are), survey the landscape, communicate, keep your options open until someone earns your attention.
     
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    It looks like she is embarrassed. The question is, who is she embarrassed for?
     
  46. ninman

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    I would imagine herself. She wants to hang out with me, and she feels embarrassed that she has to say no.
     
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    I met a girl once. Her brother had an affair with a girl that had a boyfriend
    or husband. He's dead now and it wasn't from natural causes. Seriously.

    btw, I like Combinatorics. Graph Theory not so much.
     
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    Close to 200 posts. This is the most action the OP has had in years.
     
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    I bet she's banging your colleagues. Make sure you use protection.
     
  50. r2473

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    i think im in love with ninman

    i hope he's not married already
     

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