I was going to ask a girl for a date, but I wussed out

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  1. SuperFly

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    Yeah, title says it all. I was ready to ask this girl (who I've talked to for a while now) to hang out this weekend, but I just couldn't bring myself to it. Now my next chance is all next week and then summer break. I sort of hate myself now. :(

    If you want to offer advice, go ahead. If you want to rip on me, go ahead too.
     
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  2. Feña14

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    How old are you? It's not the end of the world if you're still young, you'll learn for next time :)
     
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  3. bezs

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    You only regret the things that you don't do, not the things you do.

    So go just go balls out and do it, even if you fall flat and she says no at least you know you tried. I'm rooting for you Go Go Go!
     
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  4. Legend of Borg

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    Take the behaviorist approach and desensitize yourself. Talk to girls you feel comfortable with until you build an "immunity" and eventually have the courage to ask her. However, this takes some time and I understand you only have a week. Sorry if this doesn't help much. :)



    P.S.: You could try the flooding method suggested by bezs which is probably more fitting seeing you only have a week.
     
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  5. CanadianChic

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    You said your next chance is next week, so ask her next week. Why do men fear us? lol.
     
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  6. Fedace

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    You have Already been talking to her. JUST Ask her to go to the Mall with you on a saturday. Nothing really formal, that way she won't be threatened and if she likes you then she will jump on it anyway. If She is Unsure about you then she may still say YES since this is kind of Non-formal way of asking her out.

    so here is what you do next. While in the mall, find a nice moment and buy her something Cheap but really thoughtful item. Like something she needs. Ask her,,,,hummmmmmmmmmmm,,,,,Is there anything you wanted or something along that nature. and when you go by the store that has it,,,,,buy it and surprise her......
    You will have her under your Spell from that point....and she will do anything you want to you or with you or Whatever....................................

    I tried this when i was younger and it WORKS like a Charm.
     
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  7. Power Player

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    Whatever you do, do the opposite of what Fedace posted. Don't put girls on a pedestal. You do that stuff once you get married
     
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  8. Fedace

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    Don't listen to this guy, what i tell you really does work. Don't buy anything expensive, that does NOT work. just something Thoughtful that the girl will think you were thinking of her.
     
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  9. JoelDali

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    Take her to a psychedilic tomato farm and trip out on the tomato man with 9 eyes.

    [​IMG]
     
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  10. mozzer

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    Me and my friends are all failing with the girls, so a few weeks ago we all agreed that we would talk to a new girl every time that we have a night out in town and it really worked! Since tyhen i have had and also lost my first real girlfriend LOL
     
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  11. Fedace

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    so you had all these new girls you have been talking to.....you've been busy or what.......:)
     
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  12. ChipNCharge

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    I bet there are some people in prison that regret the things they've done.
     
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  13. maverick66

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    Its not that we fear you its that we fear you not letting us play with the fun stuff you possess.:)

    Ask her next week. Its really not a biggie. I didnt ask a girl out once and was pissed about it. I met another girl next week and forget all about it. Welcome to being a teenager. And also remember you are not dating in high school its just your turn with that girl.:)

    Ya like getting caught.
     
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  14. Mansewerz

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    hahahhaha I found this response hilarious
     
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    I have a friend that just did not care at all about getting rejected by girls in high school. His philosophy was that it was better to get rejected by 9 girls if #10 was into him.
     
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  16. Legend of Borg

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    His quote was meant to be inspirational. No need to give it a negative connotation by giving counter examples.
     
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  17. TahoeTennis

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    Definitely ask her next week. Don't just ask to "hang out" but have a plan. Ask her to coffee or lunch, that way you can talk and get to know each other.
    Good luck and have fun! Beee yourself.
     
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    Be a man. Do it over text.
     
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  19. in[k]

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    Lol funny thread. Definately ask her, but try to do it in an unakward way. Like when you're hanging out or something ask her, not while she is busy with something.

    And I know it was a joke but never ask someone out over text/computer. This girl who I was kinda in to had her friend ask me out over AIM but I said no cause I thought it was one of those "what if" questions girls always ask. Whoops.
     
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  20. mikeler

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    Carpe Diem Superfly.
     
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  21. T1000

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    Haha I just did this too. I was really p!ssed about it and I just decided not to be a pusy next time and grow a pair and it worked. Just do it, what's the worst that can happen

    p.s. let's go Flyers!!
     
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  22. SuperFly

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    Your quote makes me want to go on some Superbad-style tangent.

    Egos, my canadian, egos.

    You asked me and the guys down the the Illinois HS thread to hook you up. GTFO :evil:

    At least I'm not the only guy with lady issues.

    Facebook maybe? :)

    ... Maybe on the 3rd date.

    You best leave this thread :evil:
     
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  23. hollywood9826

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    Just do what you want dude, dont try to be something youre not because most people see right through that shizzz.

    Just be sure to update us when youre hitting skins bro.
     
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  24. Lakoste

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    Uhhh, plenty of people regret the things they do.
     
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  25. Vyse

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    Watch the movie Collateral, it will give you some motivation for this kind of thing and it is also one of the best movies ever
     
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  26. TennisNinja

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    Just do it. Most girls are nice enough to say yes to a first date anyways.
     
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  27. BorisBeckerFan

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    I am not here to rip you a new one but will say if you don't go after the things you want in life they probably won't come to you.
     
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  28. Justdoit10

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    lol man. No worries. Im pretty bad at talking to girls as well. Im 18 as well. I just dont care anymore though.

    You will learn next time. Keep your head up.
     
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  30. OrangeOne

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    More useless advice from the school of Fedace.

    To the OP - others have said it mate - take the Nike option next time and 'Just do it'. If she likes you too - great. If she doesn't - that's ok, if it's a decent friendship then it'll be fine, if it's not maybe it'll become one and you'll laugh it off in 10 year's time, or maybe you'll stay friends and date in a few year's time when you get to know each other. Of course, there is the one negative option that you both find things weird and don't stay mates, but that's the only negative option, and even then, there's about 3 billion other girls in the world to go meet :)
     
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  31. OrangeOne

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    Welcome to the DP school of how to use a bodypart for things other than it was intended to be used for?

    Actually, now that I write it out like that, it's probably a school that I don't really want to attend :D
     
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  32. Fedace

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    WOWwwwwww. Talk about Ungreatful. i say Most of the people in this thread have been doing nothing but trying to help. The Request sounded Genuine from the Op. but i guess it was a twisted joke. If you continue with that Attitude, I sure hope she doesn't make the Mistake of saying Yes to You.:???::???: Sad
     
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  33. OrangeOne

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    You're a medical student or similar, at an ivy league uni or similar, and you're ungreatful?

    I find that somewhat greats.
     
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  34. Fedace

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    Were you exposed to agent Oragange ??
     
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    Welcome to the club, man. Just remember you ain't alone in this.
     
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  36. jamesblakefan#1

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    Sir, it happens to everyone, trust me. Women are confusing, no matter how much they say they aren't, they are.

    You seem to already have a plan in place and are looking forward to your next opportunity; just don't get down on yourself, be natural, and it'll happen. Don't force it though. You'll manage it.
     
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  37. CanadianChic

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    I am not full of myself, merely stating a fact. I cannot tell you how many guys I had thought had some potential who didn't ask me out, only to have them tell me later they had a crush on me but were too nervous. Too bad. I'm all for women making the first move and have done so myself once or twice, but the way I see it is if a man doesn't have the confidence to approach me he is probably lacking in other qualities I am interested in.

    Again, suck it up, spit it out and take the plunge (yes, D I know I left myself wide open there). ;) The worst thing that can happen is she says no. No one dies. Life goes on. Judging from what I have seen of your personality on this forum, you have something to offer a lady and the right one will be thrilled you asked...in fact, she is possibly waiting for you to do so.
     
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  38. Fedace

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    Why didn't you ask out those guys yourself instead of waiting for them to ask you ??
     
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  39. OrangeOne

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    Hmm, you should send that para to Cosmo or Cleo or similar, they could write about 5 different articles, and you could use the money for appropriate time sitting on someone's couch while they use you as a case study for the 'effects of the post-feminism movement on dating' :p.

    And to think that I was going to ask - based on the very start of your post, that you actually are full of yourself just as we all are, after all, if we're not full of ourselves.... who are we full of? And then, then I thought the better and went for the tasteful option :p. But now, now that you found the gutter I have decided to join you there.

    Woah there Nelly!!! Don't go judging a person by there interwebness, it's how, well, I'm pretty sure that's how really bad things happen. And not bad like murder, bad like the universe decide that Justin Bieber and Britney should join forces and have a child!
     
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  40. OrangeOne

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    Because she was away being Greatful.
     
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    The creed of the slimey guy in 'Fast Times At Ridgemont High'.
     
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  42. CanadianChic

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    Already explained.

    Haha. Excellent response to my blither OO.
     
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  43. Tina

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    Why not take a deep breath and approach her in a polite way? It works pretty well for me ^_^.
     
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  44. Fedace

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    but if too polite then the girl will think you are a Wuss and be turned off. :)
     
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  45. Tina

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    Hey CC, have you ever asked a guy out?
     
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  46. CanadianChic

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    Come on Fedace. Even you must be aware there is more than one "type" of woman in the world and I don't know any female who considers a man with manners a "Wuss".

    Yes.
     
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  47. Tina

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    I think it depends on personality and family value though. Personally, I prefer dating a gentleman:)
     
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  48. Fedace

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    If you are practically 100 % sure the guy likes you. and he is being a whimp about asking you first. would you just take the chance and ask the guy out ???? from my experience, the girls just won't take the chance even if they were pretty sure about the guy.
     
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  49. CanadianChic

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    Then the women from your experience lack confidence and esteem.
     
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  50. Tina

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    CC, that's awesome. I have never asked a guy yet. Any advice from you?
     
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