My son (I'm a mom) is a junior at a d3 liberal arts college. He played 5-6 singles and 3 doubles his freshman & sophomore year. He loves tennis and works really hard at it always doing what the coach asks. He lost his doubles challenge match yesterday and his coach has told him he will not be playing in an upcoming match. He's upset because he feels as if his assigned partner is not a strong player and would like an opportunity to work with some other guys on the team. When I asked him if he talked to the coach he said - paraphrasing 'yes, but the coach said if my partners having a bad day that's my fault'. I was planning on going to the match, it's a 3 hour drive, but my son is so upset he doesn't want me to bother now. He's still slated to play singles, but may not get the chance if the team is behind, they may just call it. My question is - if I do go to the match - is it ever ok for a parent to talk to the college coach and ask what else their child could/should be working on or ask for any information that he would like to share? Sometimes his coach is not the most open / forthcoming with the players which leaves my son really frustrated on what he should be doing to improve or earn back his spot. What about sending an email instead? I've met his coach several times over the past 2 years and he has in the past pointed out a few things to me he should work on over the summer, but my son's never been on the verge of quitting before. Thoughts?