I've been challenged by a girl >_>

Discussion in 'Tennis Tips/Instruction' started by Mystikal, Aug 16, 2007.

  1. Mystikal

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    Well the thing is, its the girl I like sooooooooo lol. Ive been playing for a little under three months and she taught me the basics in my first month or so but she hasn't seen any of progress lately. Im kinda nervous I don't know why, like I know a strategy to beat her but due to my inexperience I don't think I can execute it. What do I do?

    BTW this will be my first real game when we do play, but Im not like all hardcore you suck Im gonna win, well jokely with her, but she does the same thing. Mainly this will be for fun but why am I so nervous? Its 2 years + experience vs. 3 months lol. Oh well it'll be a chance to get better and see what I need to work on I guess.
     
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  2. mark rodgers

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    If this is a girl you like "sooo" much, don't worry about how well or badly you play tennis. There's is very little that you can do now. Impress her with your thoughtfulness: bring the boom box, drinks, and some fruit and just try your best. Consider it a date and show her that you're a great guy. Just have fun with it. If she beats you (and it sounds like she will) be happy for her abilities and show her that getting beat by her is not a big deal and spending time with just her is worth it. Keep your eye on the prize and go get the girl!
     
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  3. bizzle

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    are you rearl young or dont talk to girls much?
     
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  4. pham4313

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    at the end of the day, you ll get some ;)
     
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  5. Mystikal

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    Im 17 and never had a girlfriend. Sad I know
     
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  6. Prod

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    The world is filled with challenges. One of which is finding a girl. The other one is finding a girl who likes to play good tennis. If I were you, I wouldn't focus on playing tennis. If all goes well, there will be plenty of tennis later on.
     
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  7. tennisace432

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    hey mystikal i loved that secret weapon thread. i forget to mention a good secret weapon for you is the rapid-fire teleportation weapon. this is the one where you can "teleport" anywhere in the court so you wont even need your "fast" speed to get to the ball.

    now you wont even need a strategy to beat that girlfriend of yours.

    by the way, prince of tennis is good ain't it? makes you feel like federer with those turbo sidespin serves....
     
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  8. Wits-Z

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    Get rid of that nervousness.. Tennis is a great way to break the ice with the ladies.. And if she has some skill, that makes it even better as you can hopefully get some rallies going and enjoy it. Though I was about 5 years younger than you, my first little "girlfriend" and I took the bus to the racquet club a lot of days after school and had our "dates" playing tennis. They are definitely fond memories.

    My recommendation is go out and have fun. Don't worry at all about winning and be sure to enjoy it without stressing or getting frustrated. Most women enjoy humor, and when she plunks you with a serve or you swing and miss, these will be funny things that help break the ice.

    From my perspective a couples hours of tennis is a much better date than a movie or some other activity that distracts the two of you from interacting. Now man up and have some fun with her. And for goodness sake, get busy on the dating. You have to get yourself prepared for those college girls, or they'll eat you alive! :D
     
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  9. Tennis_Gnat

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    sounds like she actually wants to play a set with you but I highly doubt she wants to play an intense set considering your inexperience. And depending on her experience, she probably won't go all out. She doesn't want to kill you. She wants to enjoy it too.

    Just relax, swing freely. You're hitting for *fun* and if she's a competitive player and plays tournaments she'll want to just hit for *fun* and not be intense. That's the way I am. I have "fun tennis" and "competitive tennis".

    You're probably more nervous because it's your first real match. More than how far you've come along. Swing free! i can't say that enough! Don't be hard on yourself. You have absolutely no pressure.

    And the best thing to do is just support her playing tennis. Don't ever ask her to quit or be disappointed when she's playing or be disappointed when you realize how much tennis means to her or anything along those lines. A guy did that to me. He actually asked if I would quit tennis. I've played it for 16 years now. There's no way I'm quitting.

    and btw, you aren't going to see much progress after only 3 months. You've gotta be patient. practice, practice, practice makes perfect ;)
     
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  10. Wits-Z

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    Tennis-gnat.. Don't rush the boy along that quickly with that relationship stuff and asking her to quit tennis.. This may be his first date and you're cautioning him about being a controlling boyfriend..haha
     
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  11. mucat

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    I know I am old and not very up-to-date, but does boom box coming back to popularity again? Or do you mean something else...
     
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  12. Mystikal

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    I love this forum :D
     
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  13. mark rodgers

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    Boombox = an all-in-one portable stereo system. Maybe I'm the one getting old?? Does it mean something else?

    Mystikal, just take the advice of your uncles Mark, Wits-Z, Prod, Pham4313, OK?
     
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  14. mucat

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    I can never understand how ppl can carry this thing around...I remember they were popular in the 80s. But then, I use walkman in the 80s, so....
     
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  15. mark rodgers

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    In Crocodile Dundee's accent: "Now that's a boombox!"
     
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  16. mucat

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    Just want to be clear about this, that's not me in the pic and I did not own any boombox or that t-shirt...
     
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  17. OrangeOne

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    Denial is just not worth the effort, and it seems you owned MANY boomboxes :)

    For the record to the OP: Go, play, have fun. It's that simple.
     
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  18. Gantz

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    do some droplobs. chicks love droplobs.
     
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    Push until she cries.. THEN lose on purpose :D
     
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  20. knasty131

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    she obviously wants to play as someone already mentioned...so basically she is asking to spend time with you...you already got your foot in the door which is better than a lot of guys can say...so now just be yourself and if she likes you then cool...dont try to overly impress because you will end up looking like an ass...if she doesnt like you for who you are then move on to the next women, its not like there arent any more out there....

    with all that said and done...go whoop some female ass!!!! lol
     
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  21. Tennisguy61

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    Mystical that girl challenged you to a game of tennis. Don't NEVER turn down a challenge like that, play some games with her and have some fun. With the experience she has got you probably don't have any chance of winning but that should not matter. Do the best you can and have fun and enjoy the game and don't worry about what the final score will be. This could be a wonderful experience for you. Have a good sense of humor about it. If she beats you congratulate her on her win and tell her how great she is and let her know that you really enjoyed playing her and that you will be ready to play her again any time she is ready. If you are a good sport and have a good sense of humor she will probably respect you for it. There is a chance you can get a date with her. You never know until you try. Good luck to you.
     
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  22. Tennisguy61

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    Mystikal in my last message I should have spelled your name with a k not a c. Sorry about that.
     
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  23. Big Fed

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    Exactly...
     
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  24. Bagumbawalla

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    My advice is to play your best good, solid tennis and make the game fun, competitive and social. If you can do that- then win or lose- you will have done well and come across as someone fun to be with.

    Under no circumstances, should you seem to be "trying too hard", or furiously overhitting, or obsessed with winning. In that case, then, win or lose you will come off looking desperate or silly- and you don't want that.

    Good luck,

    B (And good luck with the tennis too)
     
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  25. Pr0DiGy

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    This thread is worthless without pictures.;) ;)

    Jk, I used to get thrashed by my gf, who also plays tennis. Got to high school, really started to practice hard, and now I do the thrashing.

    Don't see it as a match, see it as a way to get to know her. Don't try to impress her with any fancy shots you normally wouldn't try, that usually works out....blegh. Just be yourself, laugh a lot, don't get angry if you're not playing well. Have a great time.
     
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  26. slicefox

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    I have that too, except during my "fun tennis" I get the urge to periodically smash the ball a few times... makes it more "fun"
     
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  27. Alafter

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    I want you to go watch "Something about Mary". When that scene comes, you will learn what to do to prepare for this tennis date.
     
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  28. Alafter

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    By the way, your REAL job is to manage the mood of this outing, not to beat her. Whether winning or losing, you have to make her see that 1) you were trying 2) you are still funning, not trying to kick her ass.
     
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  29. tennis_eel

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    Mate thats outstanding advice!! Are you some kind of professional, I'd never think to do something like that!!
     
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  30. QuietDaze

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    Hmmmm - as a woman I would say that you need to relax. She obviously likes you or she wouldn't have taken her time to teach you the game, she also enjoys your company because she challenged you to a match and knows that you are a beginner - meaning, the game will probably be slow and she will probably win. For some that could be very boring but obviously not to her. Just go with the flow, enjoy the match, if you have a good shot or a plan to beat her go for it. She'll be pleasantly surprised that 'she' taught you so well and that you're not going to just let her beat you. Talk a little trash if that's the rapport you have now, laugh and have fun. The fruit and drinks is an EXCELLENT idea. (just put the fruit in some gladware so as not to attract bees.....and some napkins might be nice.)

    I hope you have an excellent time and get a few good points on her. ;)

    Tennis-gnat, let the anger over your insensitive guy go. Just let it go.... lol
     
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    Lucky kid.....
     
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