Lakoste = Dad?

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  1. Lakoste

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    We found out a few days ago, my wife is pregnant with our first child. We've been married a little over a year and I think we're both ready (or as ready as we're going to be). I've always wanted kids so I'm on cloud nine right now. Any advice from other parents on the board so I don't mess the kid up too badly?:)
     
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  2. hollywood9826

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    Congrats dude.

    I'm not a parent myself, but from observing my two close friends, I can see your not very much different than them. The fact that your eager and ready to be a parent is the most important. I think spending time with them is the most important part.

    Congrats again dude.
     
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  3. charliefedererer

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    Congratulations!
    Parenthood will be the greatest journey in your life.
    Enjoy.
    Don't be surprised when that personality and knowing look is there from the first day.
    Spend as much time with your kid as you can. Believe it or not, you'll pick up cues from their reactions as to how far you can take your mutual learning process. Just never underestimate how attentive your kid is and his potential to grow.
    Again, congratulations!
     
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  4. S H O W S T O P P E R !

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    Congrats, man. Make sure your kid gets his/her hands on a racket asap.
     
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  5. Mick

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    i heard most of the top players started playing tennis when they were 3 years old :)
     
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    Congrats! No advice - you'll figure it out. Our second child turns one year old this month. Babies are hard work (especially at first), but so much fun!
     
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  7. charliefedererer

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    One of my friends showed up at the hospital the day my daughter was born with a mini tennis racquet. I still have the picture with her "holding" the racquet that first day. I got to spend a lot of time with her and my other daughter on the tennis courts. I'm glad that both still enjoy tennis and have reasonable technique, but thankfully both clearly have a more reasonable perspective on tennis than me.
     
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  8. ODYSSEY Mk.4

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    congrats bud!
    two of my best friends got kids looks like the most fun they've had since back in our party days.
    make sure you pass on the tennis bug :)
    again congrats
     
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  9. heycal

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    Here's all you really need to know in order to virtually never lose your temper with your child, as many, many parents seem prone to do on a frequent basis: Remember how old they are. Staying aware of this has made me almost completely unflappable, from the time my little 2 year old was throwing a tantrum to my now 13 year old screaming her lungs out at me because I made her turn off the TV or something.
    Doesn't mean you let them do what they want or don't discipline them (you just do it calmly), but it does mean you remember "3 year old aren't very rational", and "13 year old girls ain't all that rational either, and sometimes are gonna go off on their parents if you tell them no".

    That's it. That's all you need to know in this department, and you'll rarely lose your temper. You may even get some amusement out of your kid's occassional awful behavior when you look at it this from this perspective. I have literally started laughing in the wake of some my daughter's fits where she storms out of the room in a huff, whereas I think other parents might have taken it personally or reacted with their own rage.

    Oh, and don't smoke cigarettes in front of them. They don't like that.
     
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  10. David_Is_Right

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    Hopefully you'll be able to tell me when they start to become rational? My girlfriend is 23; I'm hoping it will be soon...
     
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    Congrats! Get used to these words: Sleep deprivation.
     
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  12. dave333

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    Have your baby listen to Mozart!
     
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    More like quit smoking as a whole.
     
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  14. heycal

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    I think you can expect girls to become rational somewhere around the 12th of Never.
     
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  15. heycal

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    Yup. Society turns them into anti-smoking types pretty fast.
     
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  16. ilovecarlos

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    Kosty! Congratulations to you and Mrs Kosty! I'm sure you'll make a terrific Daddy!
     
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  17. oscar_2424

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    great news Kevin. am sure u will be a great dad.
     
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  18. yodudedudeyo

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    Raising a kid is just like raising a puppy that gradually learns how to talk. :D
     
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  19. Z-Man

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    That's awesome. Congrats. Be ready for your tennis game to take a temporary dive. It's nature's way of making sure you don't injure your wife or child. You'll feel less aggressive in general for a few months, but it will pass. (I've been there.)

    Also, be warned that your wife might require an episiotomy. Get ready. Don't watch. Just pretend it isn't happening and focus on how happy you are to be a Dad. She's also going to poop. You've been warned. There will also be nurses with KY and rubber gloves. Try to keep a straight face.

    Learn to swaddle. Take lots of pictures. Don't forget to stop for a second and burn a wonderous moment into your mind. You'll need a memory palace when you're up all night with a screaming child. Your life is about to change, but it will be the best thing that ever happened to you. Be careful with your back. Parenthood is very demanding--it requires a lot of bending, lifting, and reaching. Congrats. Being a parent is the best thing in the world.
     
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  20. heycal

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    Jeez, is that true? Federer is even more doomed than I thought.

    Watch out for tennis elbow too. Holding and carrying babies at various lengths from your body in various positions can be rough on your forearms/elbows.
     
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  21. Swissv2

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    I leave for a while, and you announce your first kid!

    Geez, has it really been that long.

    Congrats Kev!
     
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  22. OTMPut

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    Don't forget to look after you wife - pre & post delivery! I think the "post delivery" phase is very important.

    Best wishes.
     
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  23. Slicendicer

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    Get a paternity test... and congrats.
     
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  24. fantom

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    Congratulations. I'm about to have my third (and last) any day now. There are a million things I could say to you, but I'm just going to mention the one thing that I see all too often....

    Make sure your kid(s) respect your authority. When they mis-behave and you threaten them with something (going home, no snack, bed early), follow through on it if they don't listen! I see so many parents get run over by their kid(s) because they know that mommy and daddy won't carry through with any type of punishment. To go along with this, pick your battles. It's just not worth it to say "no" to 90% of what they do (even though you want to). Kids are the best thing in the world. Take time out of your busy life and spend it with them. It's what matters most.

    OK...that was more than 1 thing....
     
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  25. PimpMyGame

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    Congratulations! Some things I will mention as you have openly asked for advice:

    1. Getting used to the first child is tough. The second time round is easier by comparison.

    2. Support your wife as much as is humanly possible with immediate effect. This means letting her put her feet up, lie in, get a rest etc. It is just the right thing to do and it pays dividends!

    3. Never make a promise to your child that you can't keep. Conversely never threaten to reprimand if you have no intention of going through with it.

    4. Most importantly, enjoy your new found role to the fullest. Every day and every week you will see changes to your child as he or she develops. This is a magical time and due to some stresses which are inevitable you don't always remember everything. Take lots of photos. Turn down the invitation to the pub, there is plenty of time for that later.

    I have had two children and have come out largely unscathed. My friends are still there, and the invites out to the pub, or to play tennis are still in abundance. Good luck to all 3 of you!
     
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  26. max

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    Make sure you support a newborn's neck. I'm glad for you; my wife and I are hoping for another little bundle, but nothing's yet clicked. I think for me it was VERY interesting in that I feel I came to better understand what love is, through having a child. It's a very deeper thing than a person might initially think.

    Motherhood is also very fascinating, and contra contemporary "enlightened" thought; there really IS a deep bond between mother and child, one a father doesn't quite have. It's impressive.
     
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  27. Lakoste

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    Thanks for the advice everyone, it really is appreciated. I'll keep this thread updated with info. It sure will be a learning experience for me though, I've had little or no contact with kids under 10 years old before.


    How about tennis baby names? Wilson? Prince? Babolat? They all sound good to me. I'll pass these along to the Mrs.
    What? No quip about the child being a lost cause because I'm the father? You're getting soft in your old age...
    Oh my god...
    It was actually the first thing I said when my wife told me:lol:
    You leave, I get married and I'm having a kid, what have YOU been doing?:)
     
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  28. Swissv2

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    Busy making money. :p
     
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    Congratulations Lakoste
     
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    Congrat!! get a baby swing or vibating bouncer. Unless you have money to burn, get old model (but brand new) strollers are fine, I found they are almost the same as the new gen strollers (just like rackets..) and they are usually half the price.
     
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    I know, am aging buddy :(
     
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  32. heycal

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    Yes, but unlike rackets, light strollers with low swingweight are definitely the way to go.
     
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  33. Oui c'est moi.

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    Congrats to Lakoste and Mrs Lakoste.
     
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    Congrats Lakoste! I'm in the same boat, must be something in the water :)...

    Have you bought the mini racquet yet?

    Cheers, Orig
     
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  35. CanadianChic

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    Congrats L. I am happy for you and wish health to this new little addition. Now, don't dress her as a mini Mr. Rogers and the rest will fall into place. ;)
     
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  36. scez

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    Good thing I have nothing to do at work or I would not have decided to stumble upon tw and see the great news! Congrats Lakoste, nice to see your boys can swim. If you have a boy name it Aaron, and if you have a girl name is Erin...
     
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  37. Lakoste

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    Congrats man! No mini racquet yet, I figure whatever I buy now will be old "technology" by the time he/she is born. Since everyone knows that all these innovations in racquet technology make you 2383x better at tennis, it is only logical to wait. :)
    I already got baby sweater vests and boat shoes ready :)
    Scez!! Long time no see. Hopefully all is well with you. I'm sure all the ladies at school have been keeping you busy...:lol: I'll definitely put your name options on my list, as it stands right now Aaron/Erin is one above Soda and one below Seven. It will be a tough decision I assure you.
     
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  38. Swissv2

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    Baby going metro, eh? :p
     
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    That is the most important advice, and should be repeatedly given in place of the usual congratulations and cigar jokes.

    "It was a girl. Mother and daughter are doing fine."

    "OK dude. Support the neck when holding her."

    "My life has changed forever."

    "OK dude. Support the neck when holding her."
     
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  40. oscar_2424

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    U can't name him Aaron, u don't want your son to grow to a legless loser like scez. :)
     
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  41. scez

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    Just because you are a "celebrity" on TW, it does not mean that you can go around giving your kids names that will get them beat up and grow up angst like the real celebrities... Nice to see that when I first met you, you were not yet ready to be married, and now you are married and have a kid on the way which is awesome! Hopefully your child will have a boat to use his boat shoes on, I recently bought a pair which are landlocked :( With your nickname and your wife's job, your kid stands little chance of not being preppy :p

    Now that was just uncalled for...
     
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  42. Lakoste

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    Newborn babies are gross looking, I'm returning mine... NOT! :) My wife and our daughter are doing fine, everything still feels pretty surreal.

    But seriously, newborn babies are gross. Hopefully my daughter gets into her cute phase ASAP.
     
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  43. maverick66

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    Did you watch the birth because thats pretty gross. Saw a few videos of that in health class and cant really say i wanna see it live.

    And congrats on the kid. Say good bye to sleep.
     
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  44. ilovecarlos

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    Congratulations! What did you decide on the name?
     
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    Lakoste, congratulations on the birth of your daughter. Don't worry about wanting phases ASAP. It seems only yesterday that my daughter was born (and i know what you mean about the immediate aesthetics of newborns) and we just had her 6th birthday party. It goes by way to fast, so just enjoy every moment, even the tough ones. Before you know it, she won't stay put when you lay her down.

    My boy, who is 2.5 now, was born at home in our bathtub. That is a pretty cool method as they come out of the water nice and clean. And the water just goes down the drain after.
     
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  46. Dedans Penthouse

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    Ultimate congratulations! Ms. 'un-gross' Locaste FTW!




    "gross"?,,, (in birthing circles parlance mavster, "transverse" observation imho)
     
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  47. Topaz

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    Congratulations!!!! :)
     
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  48. Tennis is fun.

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    I would recommend "doing-it-yourself" with the mobile above the crib. I suggest tennis balls. Develop that hand-eye early!
     
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    Thanks!

    Oh, you mean Lakoste :-?
     
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  50. Swissv2

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    Hope you don't give the poor kid a cheesy tennis related name :p
    jk.

    Congrats Kevin
     
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