I am going to start 3.5 mixed doubles. I have a two part question. I prefer not to drill the lady at net or slam overhead to the lady. If opponents play this style, then I can adapt and do the same. However, rather than let opponent draw first blood, would it be appropriate to ask opponents if this is going to be level of play? I suppose it could backfire if I accidentally hit a hard one to the lady. Second question: if you are male player and the opponent lady has the control and power to HIT the net person very hard (at the lady or guy at the net), do you also say its open season for the male to hit lady at the net or slam overheads at her?