heard an interesting viewpoint from two mothers who had raised their teens conservatively. They both said in hindsight they wished they had given more freedom to teens 'to screw up' . They began to go a bit wild in their first few years of adulthood leading to mild criminal charges for DUI, pot possession, and failures at college etc. If they had not been so harsh those lessons would have been with a juvenile record rather than an adult record. The same rebellion vs parental values is a lot more costly after 18, killing college opportunities, when if they had allowed more freedom to make mistakes, that cycle of growth would probably be over. Do you parents of adults think you were too strict on the groundings,the curfews, too controlling or too permissive in hindsight?