Santa Brought Me...

Discussion in 'Adult League & Tournament Talk' started by RedWeb, Dec 25, 2012.

  1. max

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    Oh, Cindy, that would never fly in my family. It would mean you lack the guts to talk directly to the person.
     
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  2. dizzlmcwizzl

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    No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist).

    The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it.
     
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  3. mikeler

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    That was a nice family pic you posted ever so briefly. Sounds like you had a great Xmas.
     
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  4. max

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    I'm not disagreeing at all; not making a comment on her method. I'm reporting ours.

    It takes a certain kind of person in America in the Year 2012 to be willing to listen to criticism: too many people disregard it or take offense, rather than see it as an opportunity for improvement. So it goes.
     
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  5. slice bh compliment

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    I hear Vegas is a great place for in-law Conventions. So is New Orleans!
     
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  6. Maui19

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    I agree with this. Good post.
     
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  7. Cindysphinx

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    It's not about criticism, necessarily. It's an interpersonal relations thing that goes much deeper than that.

    Say Mr. Sphinx's mom would like to come visit the grandchildren. She tells us she will be here one week. Say I feel like that visit is too long.

    It would be a very bad idea for me to call Mr. Sphinx's mom and tell her four days is the max. The reason is that it would cause any insecurities to bubble up more than if Mr. Sphinx made that call. He knows the best way to phrase the "suggestion." She would feel most comfortable voicing her feelings to her son in whatever way she always has.

    I'm not saying it always has to be this way. I do think sometimes people fail to recognize just how sensitive even small things can be in in-law relations. Especially once grandchildren arrive.
     
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  8. v-verb

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    Nope not at all. Hopefully your Hubby has calmed down a bit and realized you did him a favor
     
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  9. hcb0804

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    A candy apple red Mustang convertible.
     
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  10. floridatennisdude

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    Happy wife = happy life. She car shopped all day and ended up with a new ford explorer.

    I played tennis all day. Two happy folks.
     
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  11. max

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    Cindy, I'm not giving you advice. You seem to be on the right path.

    As my words set this forth, my comments were about MY family's communications. At no point did I recommend this to anyone. Take a look at what I wrote.
     
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  12. Cindysphinx

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    No problem. I understood.

    Happy New Year!!!
     
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  13. michael_1265

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    I got the Richmond tennis book. What's cool about it is many of the faces and names are familiar.

    It makes me very thankful to live in a city where my favorite sport is highly valued.
     
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  14. beernutz

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    I got this shirt from my kids but I'm not sure I could actually wear it on court. I might get a few distraction points out of wearing it though.
    [​IMG]
     
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  15. Cindysphinx

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    Cool shirt. Wear it, man!
     
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    I like it. And, when the ball is in front of you, it may take your opponent a moment longer to see it coming back at them.
     
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  17. Maui19

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    Yep!       
     
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  18. JRstriker12

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    That's a nice shirt. Definitely wear it!
     
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  19. cknobman

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    I did not get any tennis related items from Santa this year :(

    But Santa did bring me a 18 year old bottle of Scotch!!!
    :)
     
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    Wear it! lol, you might get a grievence during a match for hinderance b/c the ball may disappear if it is in anywhere near your shirt, but it would be awesome wouldn't it.

    wear it for practice and test that theory out!


     
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  21. axel89

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    anyways i got a lacoste 58$ shirt andy roddick
    got a fed 2012 ao polo
    not bad
     
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  22. Joeyg

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    Nice shirt! Did you get a free bowl of soup when you bought it? Hey...Looks good on you, though!
     
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    Got myself a Motorola Droid Razr Max
     
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  24. darrinbaker00

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    My 25th Anniversary Head Prestige Midplus just arrived, strung with Head Sonic Pro 17 Black at 52 lbs. IT'S CLOBBERIN' TIME!! ;)
     
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  25. IA-SteveB

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    Santa didn't being me anything tennis related. All I wanted was a new set of strings. This economy is hitting us everywhere. :)
     
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  26. michael_1265

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    I have two just like it. At 6'4" and 250, I provide a large surface area to screen tennis balls, especially when I am at the net. Definitely wear it.
     
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  27. catfish

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    Happy New Year Cindy! And other Talk Tennis members.

    I do know of one person who acts this way also. But she has a serious problem with alcohol, so I blame the behavior on the alcohol.

    My husband and I exchanged gift cards this year.
     
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  28. Cindysphinx

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    Happy New Year to you also, Catfish!!

    No USTA matches for me so far this year . . .
     
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