So, I'm a crazy tennis parent?

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  1. BMC9670

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    Thank you. And I appreciate your POV having done this with your parents. He's only 8, but so far it's been a great thing for our relationship. Not that there aren't moments where I have to get tough, but the times that we laugh are far greater. I hope to keep building that bond that you speak of with your father and develop his game so he'll always have it, whatever he does with it.
     
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  2. ga tennis

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    The bond is the best thing about the journey!! What state do you live in BCM9679?
     
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  3. goober

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    I would like to be a crazy tennis parent. Unfortunately I tried my 2 daughters on it for about 14 lessons and they hate it. Actually they don't like ball sports in general. They like figure skating and dancing so we take them to lessons for that every week. I hoping my youngest son will take an interest in tennis.
     
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    You're welcome BMC. You sound like you are already well on your way and have it down just right, you are trying to "arm" him with a Tennis background, which will not only give him Tennis options, but more importantly it will greatly expand so many life options. First and foremost, he'll likely be very healthy, fit and someone that loves exercise. Keep it up sir and all the best to you.
     
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  5. GRANITECHIEF

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    Similar here, 7 y.o. daughter is sort of luke warm to tennis, although not protesting taking a lesson each weak and starting to hit the sweet spot more. She's mostly into singing.

    3 y.o. son already asking for lessons, always wanting to play ping/pong (on wood floor), and generally pumped up for tennis. Of course, he used to sit on Landsdorps basket during his brothers lessons and has been exposed to tennis his whole life.
     
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    We're in PA (near Philadelphia). It's a little tough as there is not a lot of kids his age that play seriously/regularly. Not that he's a prodigy, but there just isn't a lot of interest - it's all baseball, soccer, and football. QS is non-existent much less Green ball tournies. He did play some 10U tournaments this summer, but I wish I could find good kids his age for practice/clinics as he winds up playing with kids in their early teens at our club and it's not great socially. I would love to be in more of a tennis hotbed.

    What part of Georgia are you in? (assumed by your screen name)
     
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  7. ga tennis

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    We live near Macon Georgia.
     
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    How did your son like Landsdorp?
     
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  9. GRANITECHIEF

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    He liked him then but now he thinks he's a little outdated with his philosophy on the modern game. He's got a new gig going where he lives with his coach 3 weeks out of the month for the same cost as about 4 1hr lessons with Robert.

    But Robert was priceless for teaching a foundation.
     
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    How old is your son?
     
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  11. GRANITECHIEF

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    14 years old.
     
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    What state do you live in?
     
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  13. GRANITECHIEF

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    We're in CA, but you might have guessed that since it is well known that Robert teaches in Palos Verdes.

    You in Georgia i assume?
     
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  14. ga tennis

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    I thought you lived in California.Yes we live in Georgia.
     
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    During this USO, Nav said that the baseline rally really begins only in the 5th shot.

    Serve
    Return
    Shot 3 is done while server is recovering from serve
    Shot 4 is done while returner is recovering from return
    The real baseline rally starts in Shot 5

    So if you can end the point in 4 shots, you win without the rally.
     
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  16. warmsurfing

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    I am with you.
    I have an 11 years old daughter.
    The other people says I am "too aggresive",in their language means "too crazy"
    :neutral:
     
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  17. warmsurfing

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    I yelled a lot at my daughter when she lost her match.
    She didn't call out when she supposed to !!!
     
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  18. willshot

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    Hhaha. That's going to be in every match. Lots of miscalls and badcalls. Well at least you didn't pull /yank her ear.
     
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    Not no more ! :)
    I learned a lot also.
    Now I tell her it is ok to lose.Be happy.It is only practicing.
    Now,she is playing a lot better.
    I will try to post some videos .
     
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    I remember playing a 14s nationals 16 years ago and lost to a kid who repeatedly made bad calls. After losing the match, my mom who never ever hits me before..... slaps my head telling me how stupid i was. I thought she was a crazy parent. hehe.

    Can't wait to see your videos. chow.
     
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  21. ga tennis

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    Try to stay positive!!!!! The one thing you dont want to happen is for her to grow up and resent you!! GOOD LUCK!!! Im jealous of you because you live on a island.
     
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  22. Tennis_Bum

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    No, you are not crazy, but it's an intense game though in a way. Because you have so many moving parts and trying to hit a moving ball for a anyone is not easy, especially for a kid. It's tough to get all of these shots right if you don't focus on forms. And if you don't focus on forms then the kid won't be able to hit the shot and then don't have fun. But it's a "pain" to do these drills to the kid because he/she doesn't understand the reasons behind them. To play all-court game, you even have to have more skills then your average baseliner so you even have to work harder and in the process look "more crazy" to the average folks who don't understand the game. It's tough and there is no short, easy way out if you want to do it right.

    The bottom line is that you and your kid both enjoy the sports, so the hell with what everyone around thinks.
     
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  23. warmsurfing

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    I just loaded some video.First time I do this,and my camera is not so good.
    The white dress one is my daughter.She is 11,and the other one is 13.They were playing a 14's.
    See:

    Tiffany tennis 02-oct-2010
    www.youtube.com
     
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  24. warmsurfing

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    Don't be so jealous !:)
    I am ready to move back to the States.But not back to NYC.
    Some not so small town down south is ok,where there are more tennis actions.
     
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  25. Tennis_Bum

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    I can understand why you don't want to be back to NYC. I lived there; I know what you mean. Which island is it that you are on right now?
     
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    9] Now I have a trophy daughter or trophy son to go with my trophy wife.
    10] I was good at my sport(s), but I was never a world champion. This is my chance.
    11] They drag me to the court. Really, they do! It's all them! I'm just a supportive parent, that's all!
    12] Their success is my success.
    13] I've got to get good ROI on the time and the funds I've devoted to their tennis. At least some Div. I scholarships to good colleges.
    14] I grit my teeth, I'm wrinkly from the sun and I'm going gray and bald, but it's all worth it because I can live vicariously through my kids now that they are tennis players like I was!
    15] I can coach better than those high-dollar teaching pros.
    16] At work, I love talking about how good my kids are at tennis. I get their tournament tee-shirts so I can wear 'em to the office on casual Fridays. Great conversation piece! I still have a Little Mo Regional tee. To my knowledge it's the only Little Mo tee in a men's Large. I scanned it digitally and did an iron-on to one of my undershirts, hahahah. I am cool now. It's official.
    17] I think I'm going to quit my job so I can devote more time to my kids' tennis. For income, maybe I can start coaching them along with some others. Yeah, kind of a cult of home-schooled kids coached by me. There's a cash cow right here in the neighborhood. Dollar signs pop up in my eyes every time I go by their house.
    18] My wife is about to finish a course on home-schooling.
    19] Regular topic at our dinner table: Florida or California?
    20] I have tennis elbow from feeding balls and trying to fend off hard shots right at my body. Do you think my kids are taking their aggression out on me physically?
    21] The girl who teaches my daughter's 'Supers' clinic is hot. Maybe I can impress her with my tennis acumen. It's not really cheating if it's under the auspices of junior tennis, right?
    22] I just got a few sleeveless tops in bright colors and some 'Killer' sunglasses to complete the Nick Bolletieri look.
    23] I Dream of Macci. Rick Macci. I want to go to there.
    24] We're totally normal, as a family. In fact, next summer, we're going on a family trip to Spain - just the 4 of us. To ogle courts at academies over there.
    25] I love tennis and I'm going to give my kids the best chance to make it their identity.
     
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  27. BMC9670

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    Ha! Not that I think I can, it's just that my dollars are not so high...:???:
     
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  28. Limpinhitter

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    Around here, tennis parents' reputations are quite due. They're nuts! When I was in juniors (back in the Stone Age), I rode my bike to tournaments. No parents were seen anywhere, unless they were involved in organizing the tournament. A few times, I took the bus to out of town tournaments. Now-a-days, parents act (even though they don't genuinely believe), like their kids are all going to be the next Federer or Graf. God forbid little Dexter should lose a match and bruise his self esteem. AND THE CHEATING! OMG! It's totally out of control!
     
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  29. warmsurfing

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    I am in Margarita Island,Venezuela.
    I came down here to do windsurfing 15 years ago.
    Now I have been living here for 12 years.
    Just discovered tennis 7 years ago.
     
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  30. Sentinel

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    i think the focus seems off a bit. Thx for sharing.
     
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  31. willshot

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    video is hard to see since your kind of far away. Do you have one during a practice session where its closer?
     
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