Stupid HS rule prevents my kid from playing.

[Baxter]

My 17 year old son got into some trouble at his private school and was politely asked to leave last week. He played #3 singles for his varsity team at the 4A level (it's a 2A school that plays up) and was undefeated this year in the first three matches. When we registered him at his new school we found out he couldn't play varsity (he's a senior) because of an anti-recruiting rule. They said he could play JV but he's not interested. This pretty much kills any chance of him getting on a college team, and has turned him off of tennis. I think it's a stupid rule, but I may be biased.

 

[ga tennis]

My 17 year old son got into some trouble at his private school and was politely asked to leave last week. He played #3 singles for his varsity team at the 4A level (it's a 2A school that plays up) and was undefeated this year in the first three matches. When we registered him at his new school we found out he couldn't play varsity (he's a senior) because of an anti-recruiting rule. They said he could play JV but he's not interested. This pretty much kills any chance of him getting on a college team, and has turned him off of tennis. I think it's a stupid rule, but I may be biased.

college coaches could care less if he played highschool tennis.they look at usta and trn rankings.

 

[andfor]

My 17 year old son got into some trouble at his private school and was politely asked to leave last week. He played #3 singles for his varsity team at the 4A level (it's a 2A school that plays up) and was undefeated this year in the first three matches. When we registered him at his new school we found out he couldn't play varsity (he's a senior) because of an anti-recruiting rule. They said he could play JV but he's not interested. This pretty much kills any chance of him getting on a college team, and has turned him off of tennis. I think it's a stupid rule, but I may be biased.

You can ask the AD at his new school if they can appeal to the state HS athletic association for you. It may be a stretch but worth a try.

 

[BaboFan]

They do this to stop schools from recruiting. Some kid at our school transferred to corona del Mar just BC the best people on the team graduated and he's a spoiled brat so I don't care he can't play varsity there and he's not good enough either.

 

[TennisCoachFLA]

Sounds like a great chance for a teachable moment and life lesson. He must have done something for the private school to ask him to leave. Now he is paying some price for his actions. Sounds like he deserves to sit out HS tennis this year.

Like GA said, college coaches will look at other things such as TRN and USTA results and/or try him out.

As a dad I would look for this chance to help the young man take responsibilities for his mistakes and plan how to grow from it. I would bet if he works hard on his tennis, plays hard in tournaments this year, and takes ownership of what he did at the old school, college coaches would look positively on him. He put himself into the position of getting kicked out, now time to man up and make the best of it.

 

[JLyon]

instead of making excuses and throwing the HS Association under the bus, how about making this a teachable moment like TCF mentioned. Do not blame the school for your childs behavior look in the mirror.
Also college coaches do not care about HS results, they would rather see tournament results.

 

[BMC9670]

If my son did something serious enough to get kicked out of school, I would be thinking about more important things than playing tennis.

 

[andfor]

I posted in a rush. Sounds like they play HS tennis in the fall in your area. Too late. As mentioned a teachable moment is now in your hands.

 

[TennisCoachFLA]

If my son did something serious enough to get kicked out of school, I would be thinking about more important things than playing tennis.

Oh I remember being 17 and could have gone down a few different roads. I needed some stiff lessons and old dad provided them in the form of having to work cooking hamburgers several nights a week at the now closed Roy Rogers restaurant during my senior year, when we got caught doing some mild vandalism at school.

When I read this dad more concerned about "stupid rules" that prevented his son from playing at another school when he got booted from the old one....lets just say I can't even relate to that sort of thinking. Even if he is a great kid with great grades.....sounds like he still needs to learn a lesson here.

I always think it is better to learn a lesson at 17 rather than at 27 when the consequences could be the loss of a dream job, etc.

 

[treeman10]

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[ClarkC]

college coaches could care less if he played highschool tennis.they look at usta and trn rankings.

Actually, they couldn't care less.

 

[tennis5]

My 17 year old son got into some trouble at his private school and was politely asked to leave last week. He played #3 singles for his varsity team at the 4A level (it's a 2A school that plays up) and was undefeated this year in the first three matches. When we registered him at his new school we found out he couldn't play varsity (he's a senior) because of an anti-recruiting rule. They said he could play JV but he's not interested. This pretty much kills any chance of him getting on a college team, and has turned him off of tennis. I think it's a stupid rule, but I may be biased.

First, I know it must be disappointing to your son to be at a new school, new kids and now to be off the tennis team.

But, as the parent you need to put it all in perspective.

I think the tennis team at his new school is the least of your/his problems.

The first question is how has his chances for college been affected by his poor decision making?

A change in senior year will have to be explained.

And if he can't make the tennis team,
how about he uses that after school time to volunteer and teach tennis to some disadvantaged kids.

One his time will be used wisely ( stays out of trouble ) and two, it will help play down the "trouble".

The perspective is that he didn't get into a car and kill someone. He is not in jail.

The key is to nip his troublesome behavior before it lands him into real problems.

 

[eliza]

Sounds like a great chance for a teachable moment and life lesson. He must have done something for the private school to ask him to leave. Now he is paying some price for his actions. Sounds like he deserves to sit out HS tennis this year.

Like GA said, college coaches will look at other things such as TRN and USTA results and/or try him out.

As a dad I would look for this chance to help the young man take responsibilities for his mistakes and plan how to grow from it. I would bet if he works hard on his tennis, plays hard in tournaments this year, and takes ownership of what he did at the old school, college coaches would look positively on him. He put himself into the position of getting kicked out, now time to man up and make the best of it.

THANK YOU, COACH!!!!

 

[woodrow1029]

hamburgers several nights a week at the now closed Roy Rogers restaurant during my senior year,

I miss Roy Rogers, but I liked the fried chicken!

 

[Pipe85]

If my son did something serious enough to get kicked out of school, I would be thinking about more important things than playing tennis.

I had a friend get expelled from a private school for smoking when he was 18, but it was on school grounds at a sporting event.

 

[adventure]

Wow, the apple doesn't fall from the tree, now does it?

My 17 year old son got into some trouble at his private school and was politely asked to leave last week. He played #3 singles for his varsity team at the 4A level (it's a 2A school that plays up) and was undefeated this year in the first three matches. When we registered him at his new school we found out he couldn't play varsity (he's a senior) because of an anti-recruiting rule. They said he could play JV but he's not interested. This pretty much kills any chance of him getting on a college team, and has turned him off of tennis. I think it's a stupid rule, but I may be biased.

 

[dennis10is]

Wow, the apple doesn't fall from the tree, now does it?

You beat me to it

 

[TennisCoachFLA]

I miss Roy Rogers, but I liked the fried chicken!

It was actually pretty good for fast food. I started cooking the fries....not good for the complexion of a teen. Then moved to rapid fire hamburger cooking where the odor of the hamburgers literally would embed into your skin....not good for hanging with the girls. Needless to say, I learned my lesson!

 

[BMC9670]

I had a friend get expelled from a private school for smoking when he was 18, but it was on school grounds at a sporting event.

Doesn't really matter what the offense is, if it gets him kicked out of school, I wouldn't send a message to my son that the rule is stupid and that playing tennis is more important. Let's just say, hypothetically, that your friend's scenario was this boy's scenario. He just chose smoking over tennis. I'd be worried about his lifestyle choices.

 

[Pipe85]

Doesn't really matter what the offense is, if it gets him kicked out of school, I wouldn't send a message to my son that the rule is stupid and that playing tennis is more important. Let's just say, hypothetically, that your friend's scenario was this boy's scenario. He just chose smoking over tennis. I'd be worried about his lifestyle choices.

I'm just trying to say theres a lot of reasons people can expelled. Maybe he was staging a hunger protest over poverty in Africa. Who knows.

 

[BMC9670]

I'm just trying to say theres a lot of reasons people can expelled. Maybe he was staging a hunger protest over poverty in Africa. Who knows.

I hear you. Would be interesting to know what it was, but I guess it would be too nosy to ask.

 

[Tennishacker]

I'm just trying to say theres a lot of reasons people can expelled. Maybe he was staging a hunger protest over poverty in Africa. Who knows.

Get real.!

 

[TennisCoachFLA]

Get real.!

You read my mind.

 

[Baxter]

He's managing the girls JV team and practicing with varsity boys.