Tennis Dating?

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  1. Figjam

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    Well, Ive made up my mind, I must find someone that plays, and preferably at a higher lever (4.0+)
    All though it seems the Ratio of Guy to girls is about 10-1.
    And you rarely see 2 girls hitting, or looking for a pick up game. Usually hitting with their boyfriends.

    So, How does one go about finding Single female player? Im sure I'm not the only one wondering this??

    And are women the same way? I mean if girl is single would she too be looking for a player/partner?? Or do women prefer not to play with guys for the most part??

    They have these "social" mixers, but they arent really singles specific, and they really arent THAT social. I mean I might be playing on one court while someone i might like is on another court... so hows that help me??

    Now I know being a tennis player isn't the only quality to consider, but it sure helps a lot!

    Im wondering if most of the realatively younger girls that play are single? especially if they arent playing with their (obvious) BF?
    Like when Im out playing and the ladies league shows up...:twisted:


    the floor is open:
     
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  2. subaru3169

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    i dated chiks i trained with and met at tourneys as a junior.. it can't be that hard, can it??
     
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    Yes it can, as junior I'm sure its MUCH easier... Most girls dont continue sports after they get done with school
     
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  4. don_nguyen11490

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    If you're looking for a girl that plays tennis then just go to places where girls play tennis like oh I dunno a college tennis club or anything like that?
     
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    then join a tennis club play there.. you'll meet lots of folks
     
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  6. Atown

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    Yes, however in my experience most of the women are older, attached, or both.

    Have you considered finding the woman first and then, if she does not play tennis, introducing her to the game. That's what I did and it's working out well. My GF is excited to learn to play the sport and I'm enjoying teaching it to her. It's a good way to spend time together and to see the other person's true nature and character. But one has to remember to be patient, positive, and not too critical.

    I was also frustrated with this issue and then I met the right woman and I am very glad that she was interested in learning tennis after seeing my enthusiasm for the sport.

    Hang in there!
     
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    As for the women's teams, it depends on what you are referring to as "relatively younger girls". We do have single 19 and 20 year olds playing on our women's teams. But in general the ladies stop playing after high school, and then come back when their kids are in school, so after these girls who are the children of other members of the team, we pretty much jump to moms in their late 30/early 40s. And then the single ladies tend to be closer to 50. So I'm not sure the women's teams are your best bet for hunting.

    Someone mentioned tennis clubs. I understand the women who do still play tennis after high school play at the big tennis clubs. I also know those places seem to be quite the pickup joint, with men outnumbering women 2-1, so competition is fierce, and the single women don't stay that way for long.

    If you are amenable to online dating, I hear fitnesssingles is pretty good. I found my guy by mentioning tennis in my match.com profile. So you might try that.
     
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    when I was single i made a big mistake. I met a young woman at a tennis social, and we got together for drinks one night and had a nice time. Then we got together to play tennis. Well, I thought I needed to impress her with my tennis skills, so I proceeded to beat her 6-0. She wouldn't return my calls after that. So, the moral of the story, let her take a few games off of you.
     
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  9. tennisdad65

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    I like my 'MY' time with the guys, away from my significant other. I love it that she does not play tennis. Or I would have to put up with some mixed doubles matches :twisted:
     
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    Most unattached and very attractive female tennis players are relatively "new" to tennis.

    If you find an unattached attractive female tennis player that is good, and you have the ability to flirt with her and ask her to teach you some tennis, then you are a lucky person.
     
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    Your post suggests that you are looking for a single woman <30 years old that plays tennis. Good luck! A couple of guys at my club have attractive relatively young girl friends that have just started playing tennis because their boy friends play. Having been to a lot of different tennis clubs and facilities playing USTA matches I can say I have seen 2 or 3 women that would fit what you are looking for and of course there is no shortage of single guys that want to hook up with them for tennis and whatever else develops.
     
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    You want a hottie that plays tennis, and plays it well, check out the local college teams, even the Junior college teams. Usually the best in the state, or the best on the teams aren't the best looking, but you might get lucky. The local Junior College womens team here has some good looking women on the team. Good Luck!

    -Jon
     
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    LOL......that sucks man. i hope i don't come across this situation.

    yea...it is hard finding a female that plays tennis.
     
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    Very good advice!
     
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  15. PeppermintMocha

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    Hmm.. I would suggest that, instead of trying to meet girls on tennis court, you should find a girl you like, and then introduce her to tennis.

    Normally I'd be happy to hit with or play practice match with anyone at my local court, as my regular hitting partner lives quite far away. But now I'm very reluctantl to hit with male strangers because most of the time they tend get "chatty" and start getting personal and stuff... I mean I'm sure 90% of the time they're just being friendly, but I just like to play tennis and keep it about tennis you know what I mean? Knowing there are men out there who would only play with women because they want to make a move on them makes me a little depressed (although I'm not saying you are exactly like that kind of men). This also makes me reluctant to ask men I don't know well for a hit because I don't want them to get the wrong idea.
     
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  16. Topaz

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    ^^^Well said.
     
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  17. sureshs

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    But most of them will discontinue tennis, and the older, attached, not-so-hot females are the ones left playing.

    I think the younger females prefer to hit the gym and then have a social life with people who are potential partners, instead of spending hours on a boring game, enduring all the petty politics and jealousies of club and league women's matches.

    Same thing applies to males, too. The hot guys are in the gym or playing pickup basketball.
     
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  18. sureshs

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    In LA and SF there are special singles-only tennis events. But they are a negligible fraction of the huge singles-only events market.

    One couple got married after meeting in the social mixer at our club. Their wedding reception was held next to the courts. Now, they run the social mixer. But neither of them can be called young.

    The odd singles couple who does show up end up on opposite sides, or playing against much better or worse players, and they get frustrated. Sometimes I see a dating couple on the courts in our development with one teaching the other. If the girl is teaching the guy, it is a disaster, with the guy making excuses and smashing racquets, especially when people are looking. It is much better if the guy is teaching the girl, but he looks pathetic doing so. Best leave it to tennis pros to do the teaching.
     
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  19. Topaz

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    Well, crap. I'm single, play tennis, and I'm not exactly over the hill! Guess I'm ugly!!!
     
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  20. Figjam

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    Well Hey all you gotta do is throw out the Hubby/BF doesnt play line, and trust me, they wont hear a word you say after that!

    I dont like playing with parnoid people anyway!
     
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  21. Figjam

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    No argument here! I havent even seen a picture, but you're one of "those" women... We guys arent that stupid, we know the type, to not even bother with!
     
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    That's true. Contrary to the "tennis a game killer" thread in the rant section, for adults it only helps. Its a good daytime activity and you'll be surprised how many will pick up a raquet.

    For my last one it wasn't an instant thing....she had to go to the store to buy another skirt first. :)

    Its an easier way instead of looking for a 4.0+ on the court. Even then you need to set the court up like a chessboard to capitalize on an opportunity and you'd still need to beat around the bush too much.
     
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  23. Figjam

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    Yeah its true, there are very few women between 20-35, that play sports in comparison.
    as for the paranoid ladies, what do you expect??? Guys go after the girl, you dont like it? try changing socitey.... So you can STFU with "where are the good ones?" Cause the view aint so pretty from this side either!


    I checked out the Fitness signels site, but theres not much there... Besides I've pretyt much given up on the Online crap:
    A.... if youre so great, why are you still single and need to resort to online dating..
    B.... Youre obviously not that Hot... Not responding to emails isnt helping yor cause..
    C.... They guy youre looking for isnt on here... Cause hes outta your league..lower your standards one notch below super perfect/God
     
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    Well they are just a few years outta my range, unfortunately, but you are right! I took a "camp" (kinda sucked but thats another story)
    at CU, with their Coach and team helping out and they pretty nice.. course the one I was interested in was going back to europe after graduatng a few weeks later...

    Sigh...
     
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  25. sureshs

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    You can see a picture if you want to. I forget the details, but look for a thread started by her about a female using the K88. I will leave it to your searching skills to proceed further.
     
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  26. Figjam

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    Yeah... Um, I dont have that kind of time..
     
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    My professional opinion as a doctor of love is that it looks like you should consider a personality transplant before starting your date search.
     
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  28. sureshs

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    Neither do I
     
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    I could just imagine your "craigslist" posting:

     
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  30. PeppermintMocha

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    Geez I was just offering a female point of view. No need to be petty.
     
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    Actually I kinda like the grunting, just not the shrieking! its sorta hot
     
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    I used to play at these public courts that had a bunch of
    regulars that played there. One of the guys, this short
    mid 60's guy who was about a 3.0 - 3.5 would always
    scare away every cute girl (that didn't come w/a BF)
    that came to play there. He'd immediately go to her,
    and try to give her lessons and hit on her. It would always
    end badly and the girl would get creeped out and
    never come to the courts again.
     
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    Oh we have that here! This guy must be a brotha from another mother, except he tries to sell lessons to them, but he sorta gets away with it because its pretty obvious the he has ZERO chance with them.
     
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    Just posted this for the hell of it :twisted:

     
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    I totally understand how the OP feels, and I'm surprised I haven't seen more posts like this.

    My wife plays tennis (about 3.5 or so) and it was one of my hopes (aside from us loving each other and silly things like that) when looking for a wife. (The other bonus was scuba diving, and she got certified just a couple weeks before the wedding! She's a keeper.)

    In my case it was dumb luck - we met in our mid-20's, started dating, and then I found out she played tennis. At the time I hadn't been playing due to a nagging injury, but the fact that she was so cute and wanted to hit eventually got me doing some rehab to get back on the court, and was partly responsible for my eventual return to playing regularly.

    It's important to share interests - We go on tennis vacations, go to professional tournaments, play doubles and singles w/our kids (both of whom are on their HS tennis team) and friends, and when the majors are on TV she understands when I want to watch many hours of tennis, and joins me for a lot of it. She understood why I bought a stringing machine, doesn't bother me with "Why?!" questions when I buy multiple copies of different racquets, etc. Yup - she's an enabler, lucky me. :D

    So don't give up - go to local tournaments and strike up a few conversations with women...if they aren't interested, ask them if they have friends. (Two of my buddies met their wives by asking women who weren't interested in them if they had any friends to set them up with.) Check out any local college teams, mention to friends/co-workers that you're interested in meeting single women who play, etc.

    Good luck!
     
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    Methinks I see the reason OP might be struggling . . . . No need to say it out loud or anything, I guess.
     
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    I agree, having a tennis-playing spouse is pretty A+. For our 20th anniversary last year we went to Saddlebrook tennis resort outside Tampa and it was her idea!
     
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    Ding, ding, ding...we have a winner!!!

    Really, with what a winning personality, I'm amazed that he can't find someone!

    And, if by 'one of 'those' women' he means 'unwilling to put up with a bunch of crap by an insecure and immature jerk' then yes...I am one of those women.
     
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    Nah, its your type I try to avoid, which is unfortunatley the type that typically shows up to the courts:(

    Not looking for a housewife, which you obviously are..
     
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    LOL.... yeah, then why are you posting??? Let me guess both you and Cindy, middle aged housewives who have nothing better to do than gossip! OMG, you were probaly the same in HS... no wonder with the amount of posts Cindy posts... To reiterate... You talk to much.

    How about a new show... "the housewifes of Talk tennis"

    Lets see two old hens... talking about how they are scared of playing with guys.... Yeah... that just the type im looking for..
     
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    Yeah, some of them might turn out to be like Cindy and Topaz LOL!!!

    But I might check out on about getting in some Mixed doubles leagues... I think the "connection" route, might be a way to go
     
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    No you're not!

    Topaz--I've seen you play more than once and you're definitely neither over-the-hill nor ugly and being a good tennis player is definitely an asset. There are lots of guys in the 30-35 age range that play USTA league tennis and would love to have an introduction to you, either on the courts or elsewhere.

    Tenski
     
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    I am neither middle aged, nor a housewife.

    I regularly play with the guys of the Tennis Warehouse Mid-Atlantic Chapter. I've hit with the guys from South Florida. So, not afraid there, either.

    I also have participated in a National Tournament, in mixed, and faced the serve of 5.0 nationally ranked men. So, guess you're wrong there, too.

    Any other rude insults you'd like to throw out there? Would you like to explain why exactly why you are being such a jerk? Every female who has actually responded to this thread, either to comment or have a bit of fun, you've been incredibly rude to. Again, if this is how you are in real life, then that is exactly why you aren't finding anyone.
     
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    Tenski, thank you, I appreciate that! I was just having a bit of fun when I posted that, and didn't really expect such an ugly response.

    I do hope, that if our paths cross again in real life, you will let me know!!! I promise not to 'out' you!!! :)
     
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    Um how about youve contributed nothing other than being *****y?? and "scared"??
    If its one thing I hate, its scared women... which unfortunately most women are... what you think everyguy is going to go after you??


    I react to the attitude of those around me. If I met someone such as your self, trust me I would have no interest, and Really you woudlnt know the difference/me as I wouldnt not waste much time in talking to you...


    Every female?? what you and cindy? 2 of a kind?? not much of an argument.
    DO you actually read anything or just scan through it in a rabid attempt to post your opinions???

    Yeah Im the jerk, Cause you dont like what you hear..., and something tells me, that you only hear what you want to...



    Now would you like to continue with your pissed off rebuttal?.....


    tell you what.. stop posting in this thread, hows that?? save us both the trouble... why dont you just call up cindy and gossip about me, in private?
     
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    Um, no, I'm not pissed off. Again, also not scared. I think you need some help though.
     
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    These "women" here may not be your type, but that doesn't mean they don't have any female friends that can possibly be your type. Sheesh! You are shooting yourself in the foot with one set of ladies before you even begin. Use them to fine tune your "dating" game if you will, doesn't mean you have to settle. Funny post tho.

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    Dude,

    Reality check. You are having difficult time finding these women, hence the reason for your post.

    I hate to break the news to you but if you were the great catch, the women, the admittedly few who play tennis at the 4.0+ level would seek you out if they happen to come across you at the club or at any tennis activities. Trust me. Women are always searching for good mates, they do not do it so obviously most of the time, but they are looking just as studiously as men.

    How many hot women tennis players have become your steady hitting partner/friend, hookup hottie/gf in high schook, college, etc...?

    Past success is a good predictor of future performance.

    Added: The question that most of us would like to know is:

    Let's say that we find a good looking twenty something, single female, well adjusted, successful, educated, 4.0 - 5.0 tennis player who played in high school and college tennis. Do you think that if we were to know you, we would say, these two would make a good couple and because we like you and want the best for you, we old folks (that's me) would try to help the two of you get together?
     
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    Sigh... this is exactly the reason why girls are wary about these kinds of things.

    I'm a guy, and you (OP) make a bad name for the rest of us normal guys who aren't psycho but would still like to meet women around the same age (mid 20s early 30s in my case) who can share similar interests (tennis, rockclimbing, windsurfing).

    So, any single girls around SF Bay Area around 3.5-4.0 who want to play some tennis? Don't worry, I'm in a USTA League and have other 'unavailable' females who can vouch for me :)
     
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    see below one should not imbibe while posting
     
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