Things you're sick of being told

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  1. xtremerunnerars

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    List some things related to tennis, school, fitness, or just life in general that you're sick of hearing from older people. I mean things that are said to you because you're still "a kid" or "a teenager" by adults.


    Personally, i'm sick of being told by my parents that i should study. They don't really have a concept of what studying is now. It doesn't make me angry at them, but i wish i could get it through their heads!
     
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  2. thebosher

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    I hate being told to study and to lift more.
     
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  3. Voltron

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    I hate older people who are not coaches telling me to do things differently with my tennis.
     
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  4. raiden031

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    I hate when pushers give me advice after they beat me.
     
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    I used to get people telling me to switch to a 2hbh a lot. Not anymore though...
     
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    That is really annoying, also when a pusher just lost to me he was bragging to his dad that he beat everyone but me and how well he was pushing.
     
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  7. eunjam

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    unfortunately re: pushers that win...... tournament draws don't care about anything except the final score.
     
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  8. tennis_nerd22

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    I hate being told that i need to work on my second serve (cuz i hate it, and i know i need to work on it :()
     
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    ditto, (starts muttering...stupid kick serve....just cut around the ball......)
     
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  10. Nextman916

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    To close my racquet face, its not like i dont know this when i dump one lower than the netcord or spray one wildly over the fence.....its way too overused because it doesnt just apply to groundstrokes but to serve/volleys as well. :(
    *SIGH* I hate that phrase....
     
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    The switching to two hander thing pisses me off too!
     
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  12. TheSnowMan

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    I never really could understand how to hit a two hander... and why people like it so much. It really bothers me and I'm tired of hearing coaches make their students do a two hand backhand.

    Another thing that I hate hearing is how heavy my racket is.. is 14 ounces too heavy for a junior?
     
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  13. tennis-skater

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    swing faster, no **** sherlock im trying to swing faster but my body wont let me
     
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    My rackets are in the high 13oz range strung, but they're really head-light.
     
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  15. bleno567

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    I hate being called stubbourn and a challenging student. Its not true at all. I do everything my coaches have ever asked me to do
     
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  16. nalbandian_fan

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    god i know, especially my dad... whenever he tells me to do something differently with my tennis i just tell him to shut up and that i know way more about tennis than he does, then he argues that hes better than me and we go out and play a grudge match and i always beat him 6-0 6-0 6-0.
     
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  17. tonysk83

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    I really dislike being told to be smart on the court. Coaches love saying this, but if you are smart on the court, you never need to be told this. Just play smart tennis, obviously, I always try to play smart.

    Not related to what adults tell me, I really dislike when I play other kids with no social skills at all, that can hardly say the score without being embarrassed. And after the match they run to their parents side to talk to them. I hate when parents come to all their kids matches and kids feel like they need to impress their parents. My parents come to some of my matches to enjoy watching me play tennis, not to coach me, or analyze my match later with me.
     
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  18. looseswing

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    I hate it when I go to a tennis match and play badly and my dad thinks I tanked. He actually does this whenever I play poorly.:mad:
     
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    ***Old person alert***

    This thread is pretty amusing and interesting. I wish you guys could save it and read it again 20 years from now :D
     
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  20. Duzza

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    Probably coz you suck :p. What's with the Flexpoint 4?????
     
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  21. cptobvious_619

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    i dislike the fact that they are always saying that juniors these days can't volley. i've seen plenty of kids come to net at tournaments that i've joined.

    they also say that kids all have two-handers, but i've seen a HANDFUL of one-handers, mostly girls, young, too.

    the junior game really isn't that one dimensional.
     
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  22. JRProstaf9

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    You also don't see alot of juniors playing well on clay... but its definitly somthing thats being addressed now by the USTA player development.
    Before the mantra of the game was to teach big hitting baseling games. But now with the success you see from Federer/Hennin/Mauresmo the game is truly starting to require an all court style that requires people to adopt alot of styles and combine them into one that best suits the player.

    I'm sure with the new formation of the USTA National junior academy they are getting started in Fl you'll see alot more attention payed to an all around game.
     
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  23. Trinity TC

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    I'm waaay old and agree with everything these guys are saying. I quit coaching juniors because their parents just don't get it. It used to be fun being a kid but most adults I've run into are determined to suck the life out everything they're in contact with.

    Hey guys, anybody over the age of 30 was probably the laziest slacker adolescent that walked the face of the earth. If they tell you differently...they're lying.:)
     
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  24. goober

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    I don't have any kids that are old enough to be into competitive sports of any kind. I can't tell you how many adults I have met though that wished they were pushed harder in school or wish they had more opportunity in sports when they were younger.
     
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  25. Trinity TC

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    Like I said, they just don't get it. Being pushed harder or having more opportunity doesn't necessarily lead to success or whatever they think they are trying to achieve. A lot or parents don't seem to realize that if they were pushed or pigeon-holed the way they push their kids...they would have run away from home at the first opportunity.:p

    At the end of the day, what is really accomplished by pushing so hard? Would these same adults think they would have been any wealthier or maybe a professional athlete? There really isn't a direct correlation between effort and accomplishment. Life has many more facets and nuance than that.
     
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  26. jamumafa

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    I hate being bombared with info during *one* session. I'm more of a progressional learner instead of "weight forward, this, that, this, that"

    My brain gets crowded lol. I prefer to master one thing then move onto the next
     
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  27. goober

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    There is definitely a line not to cross when bringing up your kids and I hope I never cross it. May be there isn't a direct correlation between accomplishment and effort, but if your effort is zero I am pretty sure your accomplishment is going to be close to zero. If you don't have the opportunity to do something than your chance of accomplishing it is zero. How many kids wish they could have played tennis, but their family didn't have the money or didn't emotionally support them? How many kids goof off in school and their parents really don't pay attention, drop out and become adults unable to get a decent job? Sure pushing too hard is bad too. There definitely has to be a balance.
     
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  28. Trinity TC

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    On a scale of 1-10 my effort was a 6 (I could chill with the best of them and pull 1 out of 10s) on the average and maybe 8.5 when I was pouring it on.:p It's the people that expect a 10 outta 10 out of their kids all of the time that make me go....hmmmmm.:shock:
     
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  29. Swissv2

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    I hate it when someone has to talk every single time even during a point.

    I tell them to be quiet, and they say "ok, ok, I will be quiet" then once the point finishes they start babbling again.
     
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    I hate it when my parents get mad at me for losing a match even though I tell them I played my best.
     
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    I hate how my dad sees me play like **** in practice because I don't care about it, and then tells me I need to work out. Because usually that weekend I'll beat a good player in a tournament and then everything is magically fine.
     
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  32. Kabob190

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    i dont think parents should get mad at you at all when you lose. whenever i lose and my dad is watching he tells me the same thing, not really offensively but right after a loss you dont want to hear anything from anyone. he says that i went for too many winners blah blah blah too many doule faults blah blah blah

    i get mad at him for trying to coach me after a loss then he gets mad at me for getting mad at him, lol. he leaves then i call him after the tournament, same story. he thinks he is helping but he doesnt even give me a chance to sit down after the match and think about it myself. he is right but he does it at the wrong time. after a loss i just want to sit down with a towel over my head and just analyze the match myself.
     
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    I think they should get mad when you get mad though. I have a friend who always throws his racquet around, and all his dad says is "come on mate don't do that"..
     
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  34. J-man

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    Lol I guess you'll be telling me to shut up
     
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  35. Kabob190

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    ya they should get mad at that because thats temper, not skills. especially seeing it as parents are the ones that pay for the racquets. (usually)
     
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  36. EricW

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    The parts about this thread bashing parents is annoying me... when your parents care enough to try and help you be a better player, buy you racquets, pay for lessons and drive you everywhere.. just shut the hell up about how much they annoy you when they TRY TO HELP YOU. Obviously no one wants to hear what they did wrong but maybe it'll help you, just deal with it
     
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    Doesn't it occur to you that the parents may be doing something wrong as well? Age doesn't make them infallible.
     
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  38. Janne

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    Starting to get sick of people telling me not to learn how to play as an All-court player who Serve's and volleys alot. Almost everyone tells me to learn the baseliners game even when I keep telling them that I find it boring just standing at the baseline hitting the ball with topspin until someone nets the ball or launches it out.
     
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    AMEN! I try to play all court. I might even be leaning towards the s+v side.
     
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    My dad actually told me not to volley when I was little. I don't hold it against him though. My volleys were pretty awful for a while. Now they're still not terrific, but it gives me more options.
     
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  41. katastrof

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    What annoys me?

    "Man, you're sooo obsessed with tennis"

    Thank you, now tell me something I don't know.
     
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  42. katastrof

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    Hey, this is a "Junior League" Forum? Where did it come from all of a sudden?.. Anyway, I'm in no junior league, so I dismiss myself ;)
     
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    lol, they started these a couple of days ago I think...
     
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    Bad parenting should be bashed. I hope you don't have kids, because that was a pretty ignorant statement. As a parent myself, I am disgusted when I see other parents trying to live out their dreams through their children, being upset when they lose and so on. That's not "trying to help" at all. I think you should stop posting if this is the kind of garbage you're going to be contributing.
     
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    1.) On serves make front foot more perpendicular to the net.
    2.) On serves change to a platform stance.
    3.) Practicing with my dad being told to close my racquet face on forehand (hitting with western grip).
     
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  46. maynardsson55

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    right on mate. as a teacher, it makes me sick as parents push their kids too much. Even if they do know what they are talking about, the kids almost never completely listen to them. They are way more apt to listen to a coach. I really hate it when they talk to the kid during lessons.Parents see this as "caring" about their kids. If they cared they'd go away during the lesson. When you push a kid, and you are their parent, you mostly push them AWAY from liking the sport. So many see this type of "drill sergeant" parenting as disciplining their kids. This is supposed to be fun. Worry about your kids life, not just their forehands.
     
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  47. Zets147

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    "you and your tennis..."

    I LIKE TENNIS DAMMIT WHAT"S WRONG WITH THAT!?
     
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  48. LASVEGAS ACES

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    When complaining to parents about excessive coaching, my father always says "Well, don't go Menendez on me".
    Took a while to look up Lyle and Erik.
     
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  49. EricW

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    What the hell is wrong with you? My dad plays tennis too, he doesnt get mad when I lose he just tries to help BECAUSE HE PLAYS TOO. Jeez. I'm extremely lucky that my dad plays and is very close to my skill level, and he has alot of stuff to contribute to me. He doesn't get in my face or yell out during my lessons, or even try to tell me to take them or not, he supports MY DECISIONS. Whatever MY DECISIONS are. If I didn't love tennis like I do, I wouldn't be posting on these forums, my dad keeps me playing because the most fun i have is playing tennis with him. God damnit, think before you type

    Granted, I might be looking it on a different point of view, than other people posting, they have parents that push them and "try to live out their dreams through their children" but my father is living out his dream HIMSELF, and that's playing tennis and having fun with his son. Maybe I'm just lucky that my father is my skill level and we can learn from each other but you calling my father a bad parent and saying "i hope you dont have children" is going way too far.

    I absolutely love playing tennis with my father, and I love tennis in general. My father supports me in tennis, I don't know how that can be "bad parenting".
     
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  50. EricW

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    I guess but I meant more like "you didn't followthrough on that forehand" not like "that's the wrong way of serving! do it my way!"
     
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