What to do???

Discussion in 'Junior League & Tournament Talk' started by ga tennis, Aug 24, 2012.

  1. ga tennis

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    I dont really know what to do. We were with my daughters last coach for two years. During those two years he and i got really close. I started to think about 6 months ago that his academy wasnt exactly right for my daughter. When we would get ready to go to the academy after school she would complain about the drive and she didnt like going to the academy. She was the youngest girl at the academy and the older girls had their little click and would treat her like an outsider. Another problem was that there were 35 to 40 kids in the academy. I think what really pushed me away was during her last lesson one of his top girls was playing a tournament and the father was calling him and keeping him posted about her match.I felt like all he talked about was this girl even during my daughters lesson. I also didnt like the fact that after my daughter would win a match in a tournament and call him to let him know how she did he wouldnt answer his phone. Two months ago we started going to Atlanta to work with another guy. What has me upset is that not once in the last 9 weeks has he called to check on my daughter. Do you think i need to call him and tell him we are going somewhere else or just do nothing.I know i probably should have let him know how i was feeling but i didnt.I just hate how things turned out.What do you guys think i should do?
     
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  3. WARPWOODIE

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    Don't take offense. It's the nature of the business. Coaches pay special attention to the better kids. They use those kids to market their programs. With 30-40 kids in the academy, what is the student>instructor ratio? Does he have other instructors helping him? If it is only him instructing that many kids, then you should move on.
     
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  4. mikeler

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    This is the way to do it. Tennis like many things in life is really a small group of people. You'll never know when you may run into somebody again.
     
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  5. 10ismom

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    I take it that you also left his group drill. If you feel like you have to say something to him, send him an email. Thank him of what he had done for your daughter and tell him a reason you quit eg. group getting too big and your daughter needs a closer attention, etc.
    Let your wife or someone close read the email first since you tend to be too passionate about stuff. You will run into him later on....shake hands and chat like TCF said, not feeling awkward.
     
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  6. Misterbill

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    I do not see this as a tennis question. It is more like something for Ann Landers or Miss Manners. It really doesn't matter what you do as far as your daughter's tennis career is concerned.......[Edit: unless you do something really obnoxious that besmirches the family reputation, which I expect you would never do]
     
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  7. Pro_Tour_630

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    this is what you should do,,,,,,,,,,,,
     
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  9. ga tennis

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    Thanks everybody!!!
     
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