I have a tennis buddy. We practice together a lot. We have been teammates for 3 years. We get along well. She is 3.5, but we both think she has the ability to make it to 4.0. She is a singles player, and she is losing matches she thinks she should win. I think she should win them also. She tends to dominate the first set, lose the second, then lose the tiebreak. To the extent I have been able to see the tail end of her matches, I see her pushing the ball, scooping the ball, and hitting very short. She tends to try to use advanced technique (e.g. open stance 2HBH) when a more conventional approach might be more consistent. As an outsider, I have ideas about what is going wrong. She has ideas about what is going wrong also. She has never put the question to me directly ("Cindy, what do you think I'm doing wrong?"), but if she did I would have an answer. My answer would be: 1. Find one pro you trust and stick with that pro. She tends to take lessons from several different pros at once, even taking lessons from two different pros when she was vacationing at a resort. There is no single pro who knows her game and can make suggestions on what should be fixed. 2. With the guidance of that one pro, decide what is most lacking in her game and work on it until it is better. 3. Stop tinkering with an already strong serve and work on the things that are costing her points. 4. Learn to volley, because nine months of our annual season is doubles. So. The next time she complains about how badly things are going, should I just continue to keep my mouth shut? When I mull this question, I ask myself whether I would want someone to tell me why I am losing or not getting the results I want. Probably not -- I already have a pro who tells me. Still, it gets hard to offer a sympathetic ear again and again without offering anything concrete in the way of suggestions. It's also hard to hear that her last lesson with Random Tennis Pro was spent getting a few pointers on her serve but no time was spent on volleys. . . .