Would this be the right thing to do?

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Would this be the right thing to do? Honest answers, please

  1. Yes -- it will definitely be the right thing to do

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  2. Yes -- it will be the right thing to do

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  3. No -- it will not be the right thing to do

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  4. No -- it will definitely not be the right thing to do

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  1. alexoftennis1

    alexoftennis1 New User

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    At the end of the quarter, I wanted to send a short thanks via email (along with other required info) to a TA at a university. I ended with up scoring 23 points above the median on my final and earned 7.5 extra credit points (awarded to 3-5 top extra credit projects), improving me, in half a quarter, from a 3.4 to a 3.7 (curved at 3.0).

    I don't usually ask for help at all but I needed to when I did poorly on my first midterm. I emailed questions but I eventually had to attend office hours. When I did, I felt like Santa because my TA lit up like a little kid. I don't know, it was almost funny or weird but I wished all my teachers were that caring. Being naturally shy, I would speak quietly and in the heat of the moment I would just answer with short sentences WAY too many times-- yes, no, thank you, etc. For example, it was very awkward because I would say something too quietly and have to repeat myself quickly. I felt that my TA was opening the door for me and I just shut it. Would my TA think I am a suck-up? I always say a quick "thank you" after every time I get help and one time I had to repeat a "thank you" because I felt like I said it too quietly the first time. Would this be too many "thank you's"? I wished I could have been more sincere and showed how much I appreciated the help:


    Name,

    Thank you for your generous help this quarter. I truly appreciate your willingness to work with my project as well as your clear and detailed explanations to every single one of my other concerns; In the end it was a direct reason for why I was able to improve and exceed my goal for this class!

    Thanks again,

    Name

    I hope this would not be the wrong thing to do and that my TA won't think I was being serious and just plain silly. My TA was so nice, and yet I was so disrespectful it just makes me want to pull my hair out.
     
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  2. El Diablo

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    Can't at the moment think of a situation in which it would be inappropriate to thank someone you thought had been helpful. (Actually did think of one: in our obstetrics-gynecology rotation in med school, we'd spend time at a county hospital gyn. clinic where some of the patients would agree to be examined by a student. One of the students was mildly chastised by the professor for saying "thank you" to the woman after he'd done a pelvic exam on her.
     
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  3. jkang909

    jkang909 Rookie

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    i dont think your professor cares about students' opinions... as long as he is getting paid

    emailing him that you appreciate his help will show him that you care about the class and he'll like you more
     
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  4. r2473

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    Did he offer do a follow-up exam free of charge?
     
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  5. El Diablo

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    Come anytime!
     
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  6. max

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    It's great you did this: shows maturity. I used to TA many years back and it was pretty thankless work; lot of drudgery grading, etc. Thank yous are definitely appropriate, so are other compliments, when you really do intend them: that's how you do it.
     
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  7. ProgressoR

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    You should write it, it will be appreciated, and you cannot be too polite.

    Be sure to put your and their name in the right places, in the template above you just have "Name" appearing twice.
     
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  8. heycal

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    What the hell are you yammering on about?
     
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