What a huckleberry. Or is it dingleberry? Either way, you are to be commended for not walking off the court or clobbering him or both.
I am curious when you say you were asked to hit. Did he ask you to hit with him and then behave this way? If so, that is even more rude and inexcusable, imo.
When should you serve and volley in doubles? Only when you want to win.