Unfortunately, a lot of people take social nights far more seriously than they should because they never play in leagues or tournaments. For them, social nights are their match days. This leads to hooked calls and other nonsense.
Generally (though not always), the better players are far more laid back. If there were very few good, laid back players at club night, then it's not a good sign. It means finding decent hitting partners will be difficult, and any time spent at social nights will be like what you experienced.
You only have yourself to blame.