Originally Posted by Tennis Truth
Without more details about what happened, it is difficult to lump this in with "Whatever happened to Common Courtesy." Since the birth of a new baby seems so much more important than playing recreational tennis, I can see why people jumped on this.
The way you decided to write this up was also odd. You framed the probelm as "someone decided to have a baby" instead of "someone made a committment they probably should have known they would be unable to keep."
It also seems like you are saying this person committed to going to Nationals, then selfishly decided to have a baby instead.
Also, it seems odd that one person backing out would cause a team to not go to Nationals. Most teams I know about try to bring at least a couple of extra players, because things like this happen. Nationals is a lot of matches, and usually at least the singles players need a sub or two.
If you want to assume that im an indecent human being and that im blaming someone for having an accidental baby (or a miraculous one) then sure. Seems like the only people who read it that way were already the people who seem to have personal problems (hence the "maybe they should have had a team fundraiser to get an abortion).
This relates to the theme of the thread...
Person commits to something they know they cant honor. If they had just said "we're having a baby on or about that time, maybe next year" there would have been ZERO problems.
It's quite common to build a sectionals/nationals team with 10-12 people, where they seek to commit 8-10 "will go's" before the season even starts. This way, if people want to join later, they can, but if no one else joins, you still have the minimum 8.
If you know you're the 8th, but you cant go, you just ruined 7 other peoples chance that year. Some of those people may be bumped up next year and never have the chance again all because you committed to something you couldnt realistically attend.