I appreciate the responses.
I'd like to refine my plea. I was not attempting to rationalize my losses or make excuses. I accept the players I'm losing to are better than I am - I promise my ego is not THAT inflated. My intention was to identify the weakness(es) in my game and see if anyone had tips for how to improve in any of these areas.
LuckyR mentioned handling the pace better as an option. What I am looking for specifically is advice on HOW to do this.