Originally Posted by Sakkijarvi
Ok, I'm going to come at this from a slightly different angle. Along the lines of why you play, who you play, and why you play who you play on a given day.
Of course I don't earn a living playing tennis, it's a hobby, I play for fun but I also enjoy good competition and I do have goals/objectives in terms of what I expect out of my game, it's what keeps motivated. I don't really play to get in shape, as i'm already in good shape and I workout off the courts.
I've been playing tennis on/off for the last 15 years. It's only about 2 years ago that I started to play regularly, 52 weeks a year as opposed to playing only in the summer as I wasn't part of any indoor tennis club. Before that, I used to play multiple sports all at once, I wasn't bad, but I wasn't exactly impressed with my performance either, and when i'm not performing the way I want, I don't have fun. With that in mind, I decided that instead of being average at a few sports, I would just stick with one and be the best I can be, no matter what. Tennis was always my first love, and I thought I had better skills in tennis than the other sports I was practicing.
It wouldn't be an understatement to say I live & breathe tennis every minute i'm not at work. I've played over 80 matches in 2012 alone + numerous practice sessions. I spent my entire vacations playing matches everyday. I calculate my own personnal statistics. I invest a lot of time in the game, so I do have expectations. As some people said, perhaps I should just focus on getting better than worrying about losing, didn't really saw it this way until yesterday, but perhaps once i'm done paying my "dues" with the lessons/new skills, I will rise above my current level.
As for who I play? Pretty much anyone, from total random strangers I contact from my club's partner list or in the leagues, to childhood friends I first started tennis with. At the end of the day, I don't really care who I play against as long as i'm playing someone that will give me a decent challenge. Sure I hate playing grinders/pushers etc... but I have to accept that they are a part of the tennis reality. Do I get frustrated against them? Totally. Will I give up playing them? No because I believe one fine day, I will beat them easily. While yesterday I was frustrated, part of it was the grinders, but also my own unsatisfactory results and the fact that my lessons have yet to fully match my expectations.