Gender doesn't matter, as many weak player's are also men.
All the stronger player asks for is....hit the shots you normally can handle, don't go for anything you've never done, and don't poach on low or high backhands, if you can't at least hit it low up the middle.
Overheads, just hit it moderate deep and low up the middle.
Volleys, try to hit to the opponent's feet, between them.
Nobody is asking the weaker player to serve like Milos, volley like Edberg, and crush overheads like Sampras.
Just play your NORMAL game, stay within yourself.
That's what everyone is asking of me, and I don't bother to listen..