Originally Posted by slice bh compliment
^Love that! The gift that keeps on giving!^
I got NLBWell's remarks. I probably missed your point.
My point was simply that when you get married, there's really no more this family and that family. It's family.
There's his family, my family, our family.
Say there is a problem or delicate interpersonal situation with his mother. I do not ever raise the issue with her. I raise it with husband, he raises it with his mother. Similarly, if my SIL has an issue with something I am doing, she raises it with my husband, who raises it with me.
If the problem is with my father, then my husband raises it with me and I address it with my father. And so forth.
Failing to observe these in-law conventions causes all sorts of trouble.