No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist).
The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it.
"You should be playing linebacker, not singles."