Thanks everyone for the thoughtful replies. I appreciate it.
Originally Posted by Nellie
I am sure that you got flustered, but in retrospect, how many points do you think were effected by bad calls - something like 5 in the match? You have to hold it together when people do bush league tactics.
I usually do what angelqueen suggest and aim well inside the lines so there won't be any dispute.
then I start hitting people (not hard) and taking the point.
I like this. I think this is a really good point that gives me food for thought. While I think it was more than 5 bad calls, at least double that, it was the drama surrounding the calls and the intentional manner of them. The bad caller knew she could make the bad calls and there was nothing we could do about it. The drama and bad caller's attitude got in our heads. It did fluster us and it did hurt our game. We normally play a more aggressive game, instead we backed off. We were very much in our heads.
There is a lesson here for me. And the lesson is that there is probably nothing I could have done to stop bad caller from making bad calls. I can only fix my reaction to the calls. I should have reacted to her less and just played my game. My partner and I lost the match and we never should have. It shouldn't have even been a close match.