Well, I'm really new to tennis and playing in 3.0 and I would feel like a jerk if I blasted my first serve at my 2.5/3.0 female opponent. Maybe that is sexist. Maybe it is silly. I don't know. All I can tell you is that I have a really hard time with it.
Last weekend I played in a local tournament and I noticed that all of the female players were receiving serve inside the baseline. And I was confused by this. I am thinking "OK, she has to know I have a big serve, so why the heck is she standing 2 feet inside the baseline? Is she expecting me to hit my second serve? Am I supposed to hit my second serve?" It's tough. I know you all will say "Just go for it!" but there is a big part of me that is saying I should just go for a kicker and let her at least have a chance.