Originally Posted by OrangePower
I really don't care to hear comments from my opponent about my game either way, whether I win or lose. If they do offer comments, I will pretend to listen politely, but really it's in one ear and out the other.
I know my game pretty well - if I win I know what I did well, and if I lose, I know what I could have done better or differently. My problem is not strategy / tactics / technique, but rather fitness, footwork, and quality of execution - lack of all of these!
But why even pretend? If you don't care, you don't care!
If someone has an attitude after a match, there's really no right thing to say to make things better. Silence or an extremely obvious superficial "good game" is sufficient. A sincere thank you is awkward and unwarranted. You can't really mean "good game" either cuz it is patronizing to the losers.