How to counter this?

[BMC9670]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

We had a problem with a parent talking trash to my kid at the tourny director was right there "he did nothing" so the following weekend made a phone call had 3 of the biggest ,hard friends of mine show up I walked up to the parent told my boys "this guy says one thing to my kid put him in the hospital" I proceeded to shake the parents hand and said "lets watch the kids play"

The parent behaved very nicely with just a warning .

My child won all were happy and from there on out that parent showed the utmost respect for us .

Threaten physical violence if things don't go your way. Nice lesson for the kids.

[Number1Coach]

Originally Posted by BMC9670

Threaten physical violence if things don't go your way. Nice lesson for the kids.

Listen if you sit there as a dad and allow some parent to call your kid a loser, clap at his double faults, clap at his unforced errors and do nothing about it "what kind of parent are you ?

I feel bad for your kids, the one thing my kid knows is dad has his back at any cost , if your kids need that have them call me I will pick up where you cant.

By the way its not a threat ! Its a choice presented to the other parent , its called grace .

[db10s]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

Listen if you sit there as a dad and allow some parent to call your kid a loser, clap at his double faults, clap at his unforced errors and do nothing about it "what kind of parent are you ?

I feel bad for your kids, the one thing my kid knows is dad has his back at any cost , if your kids need that have them call me I will pick up where you cant.

By the way its not a threat ! Its a choice presented to the other parent , its called grace .

I know that karma will bite them in the *****

[BMC9670]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

Listen if you sit there as a dad and allow some parent to call your kid a loser, clap at his double faults, clap at his unforced errors and do nothing about it "what kind of parent are you ?

I feel bad for your kids, the one thing my kid knows is dad has his back at any cost , if your kids need that have them call me I will pick up where you cant.

By the way its not a threat ! Its a choice presented to the other parent , its called grace .

I wouldn't make it about the trash talker, I would make it about my kid being confident and standing on his own two feet - especially at 16. My kids know that there are a-holes out there and the best way to handle them is to handle your business and do the right thing. Play your game and let your game do the talking. Any other way and the opponent has accomplished their goal of getting under your skin. It's not about the a-hole who has to resort to trash talk and the a-hole who physically threatens back, it's about owning their own confidence and using their head.

[Number1Coach]

Originally Posted by BMC9670

I wouldn't make it about the trash talker, I would make it about my kid being confident and standing on his own two feet - especially at 16. My kids know that there are a-holes out there and the best way to handle them is to handle your business and do the right thing. Play your game and let your game do the talking. Any other way and the opponent has accomplished their goal of getting under your skin. It's not about the a-hole who has to resort to trash talk and the a-hole who physically threatens back, it's about owning their own confidence and using their head.

You can call me and a-hole but like I said when your kids have a dad that allows another parent to abuse them verbally have your kids call me I will have their back also .

Seriously you have a grown man attacking your kids verbally and you do nothing WOW.

Its funny I was at a tourny here in Lakewood and there was 2 kids playing one who's dad is the head of psychology at ucla, the head psych is taunting the women and has his kids posted by the fence intimidating the lady and her child , I watched this for about 5 mins then as I watched the head psych decided to tell me "what are you looking at" ? wrong tree! , I walked up to him told him "feel froggy then jump " also said he would need more then the ucla medical center to help him and to knock his crapp off ,

Guess what problem solved .

What I have found in tennis is what I have found in college its a place where people mainly go to learn how to grow up cause their parents dropped the ball and someone needs to get these people mature !

[tball2day]

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[BMC9670]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

You can call me and a-hole but like I said when your kids have a dad that allows another parent to abuse them verbally have your kids call me I will have their back also .

Seriously you have a grown man attacking your kids verbally and you do nothing WOW.

Its funny I was at a tourny here in Lakewood and there was 2 kids playing one who's dad is the head of psychology at ucla, the head psych is taunting the women and has his kids posted by the fence intimidating the lady and her child , I watched this for about 5 mins then as I watched the head psych decided to tell me "what are you looking at" ? wrong tree! , I walked up to him told him "feel froggy then jump " also said he would need more then the ucla medical center to help him and to knock his crapp off ,

Guess what problem solved .

What I have found in tennis is what I have found in college its a place where people mainly go to learn how to grow up cause their parents dropped the ball and someone needs to get these people mature !

I didn't call you anything. I don't get into these situations because I'm not you. You bring this kind of thing on yourself.

You're funny - classic case of narcissism covering for a lack of self-worth. You didn't go to college, so you slam college and educated people. You're kid gets beat, make an excuse. Someone doesn't agree with you, name call and boast non-existent accomplishments. Nothing to show for your own life, live through your kid. It just goes on and on.

And you feel bad for my kids. Well...

[BSPE84]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

Its funny I was at a tourny here in Lakewood and there was 2 kids playing one who's dad is the head of psychology at ucla, the head psych is taunting the women and has his kids posted by the fence intimidating the lady and her child , I watched this for about 5 mins then as I watched the head psych decided to tell me "what are you looking at" ? wrong tree! , I walked up to him told him "feel froggy then jump " also said he would need more then the ucla medical center to help him and to knock his crapp off ,

Guess what problem solved .

If you woulda only used your boxing skills on that guy, think the entire SoCal junior membership would have given you a medal .

[tennis5]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

You can call me and a-hole but like I said when your kids have a dad that allows another parent to abuse them verbally have your kids call me I will have their back also .

Seriously you have a grown man attacking your kids verbally and you do nothing WOW.

Its funny I was at a tourny here in Lakewood and there was 2 kids playing one who's dad is the head of psychology at ucla, the head psych is taunting the women and has his kids posted by the fence intimidating the lady and her child , I watched this for about 5 mins then as I watched the head psych decided to tell me "what are you looking at" ? wrong tree! , I walked up to him told him "feel froggy then jump " also said he would need more then the ucla medical center to help him and to knock his crapp off ,

Guess what problem solved .

What I have found in tennis is what I have found in college its a place where people mainly go to learn how to grow up cause their parents dropped the ball and someone needs to get these people mature !

So, now you encountered another deranged parent ( and yes, I would agree that that psychiatrist dads are pretty nutty),
and you threatened violence to the dad in order to stop him and his kids from taunting a mom and her kid.

Ok....

But, why can't you document it to the sectional and national office?

What have you really done to stop this long term when they harass, your word was "taunt" another kid????

Why not go the extra step? I know you can write on a computer based on your many postings.

[BMC9670]

Originally Posted by tennis5

So, now you encountered another deranged parent ( and yes, I would agree that that psychiatrist dads are pretty nutty),
and you threatened violence to the dad in order to stop him and his kids from taunting a mom and her kid.

Ok....

But, why can't you document it to the sectional and national office?

What have you really done to stop this long term when they harass, your word was "taunt" another kid????

Why not go the extra step? I know you can write on a computer based on your many postings.

Because he obviously likes to tout his own hubris instead of doing something rational.

[Number1Coach]

Originally Posted by BMC9670

I didn't call you anything. I don't get into these situations because I'm not you. You bring this kind of thing on yourself.

You're funny - classic case of narcissism covering for a lack of self-worth. You didn't go to college, so you slam college and educated people. You're kid gets beat, make an excuse. Someone doesn't agree with you, name call and boast non-existent accomplishments. Nothing to show for your own life, live through your kid. It just goes on and on.

And you feel bad for my kids. Well...

Are you speaking of obamas 1st term or me ? Let's see lost to filip peliwo ,"filip played smarter " is what I said , now "Oh educated one" what else do you say other then what I said ? Websters definition for the word excuse , "a reason for what happened " by definition there is always and excuse ! What college did you go to?

Who have you developed ? A legit question

Listen if someone is verbally bashing your kids and you want to stand there I did call you a name cause you feel its wrong to defend those you love , I made and offer have your kids call me !

If I choose to defend my child against some jerk who has come to believe its ok and is sending a signal to his kid that its alright to bash children then right there on the spot I will send the message to his kid and mine "not cool you can get hurt for this behavior" so at that point 3 people are being educated about treating people with respect .

The cops teach respect and following rules with billy clubs, pepper spray, tazers, and the good ole Smith and Wesson .

[BMC9670]

Classic BB, the more you write the more you make my point.

[Woolybugger]

Originally Posted by coaching32yrs

Overall the sportsmanship of Amercian juniors is poor. Every junior and parent should read this article on what tennis and sportsmanship should be. I would be interested to hear your comments after reading it.
http://www.whitman.edu/athletics/sport_pages/gball.html

+1 Thank you for sharing that article.