I played BH side, which I think helped for ROS. The only ones I never ever got back were high kickers to my BH.
The closest part of my game to the 4.5 level is the serve. I have noticed that if I am trying to win and place serves carefully with spin the ladies have very little chance ... however if I am determined to show everyone the size of my .... racket .... and hit hard flat serves the women have a very easy time blocking it back into play. This is almost the complete reverse of the men.
"You should be playing linebacker, not singles."