Advice needed

[10istalent]

Hello, I need some advice. 2 days before our sectional tournament my daughters coach cancelled her lessons and hitting (both days, last minute). She is a blue chip. She played the sectional and it wasn't great. Then he did the same thing before the thanksgiving national open. She played both tournaments unprepared. I found out last night the coach canceled because he was preparing a boy for the same tournaments. This boy takes 4 hour privates every day and has very deep pockets. Also a blue chip. (my daughter take 1 hour private 2xs a week). The coach obviously does not want to disrupt the money train. Feeling like the ugly step sister my daughter doesn't want to work with this coach any more. How do i handle this? i have coaches bending over to work with her. time for a change? Advice?

[mikeler]

Why not have more than 1 coach? Get a different perspective.

[TennisCoachIN]

Very unfortunate that your daughter had to go through this. It is pretty obvious where your coaches top priority is. It definitely is time to make a change. This type of behavior by this coach will hopefully catch up to him someday. He is looking at immediate gratification (income) and not the long term picture.

It is true that tennis instructors have to make a living, however this type of behavior should not be tolerated. I'm sure you can find another instructor that will honor the committments that are made to your daughter. Good luck

[matchplay]

move on, never let a coach dictate

[ga tennis]

move on!!!!! The same thing happened to my daughter and we left.

[LeeD]

I like Mikeler's advice.
If the current coach wants to be the ONLY coach, move on.
In the meantime, you should have hired a temp to work out your daughter and keep her game sharp.
Coach's are a dime a dozen, why bow to the one who doesn't have your daughter as his priority?

[10istalent]

Thanks for the advice. This is what my gut is telling me also. Change is hard after 3 years. We couldn't find arrangements because it was thanksgiving. Time to start making a plan.

[Alohajrtennis]

Originally Posted by 10istalent

Thanks for the advice. This is what my gut is telling me also. Change is hard after 3 years. We couldn't find arrangements because it was thanksgiving. Time to start making a plan.

Coach doesn't have time for your daughter. Daughter doesn't want to work with coach. Plenty of other coaches available and interested. This seems like a pretty straightforward decision, or am I missing something ?

[TCF]

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[julian]

Originally Posted by mikeler

Why not have more than 1 coach? Get a different perspective.

Completelely wrong suggestion if you advice 2 coaches at the SAME TIME

[TCF]

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[julian]

Originally Posted by TCF

I think it has been done be successfully though....if the parent knows enough to give each a role. I am doing it now with my kid. She actually has 3 coaches, one of which is me.

Her one coach is a motivator, love for tennis type of lady. A kid will walk through fire for her. She gets my kid to work hard, become fit, reach balls she would not reach otherwise. Her 2nd coach played the game at a high level. Brilliant at tactics and strategy, something many kid's coaches are lacking. I bring it all together and make sure the fundamentals remain in place even under pressure.

I disagree except of your case
One has to be very careful about crossed signals.
It is a learning process for parents.

[TCF]

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[gplracer]

Move on! I would not be happy if this happened to my child.

[jigglypuff]

Originally Posted by 10istalent

Hello, I need some advice. 2 days before our sectional tournament my daughters coach cancelled her lessons and hitting (both days, last minute). She is a blue chip. She played the sectional and it wasn't great. Then he did the same thing before the thanksgiving national open. She played both tournaments unprepared. I found out last night the coach canceled because he was preparing a boy for the same tournaments. This boy takes 4 hour privates every day and has very deep pockets. Also a blue chip. (my daughter take 1 hour private 2xs a week). The coach obviously does not want to disrupt the money train. Feeling like the ugly step sister my daughter doesn't want to work with this coach any more. How do i handle this? i have coaches bending over to work with her. time for a change? Advice?

Tough call for the coach, blue chip vs blue chip. Maybe it's not the money that's being poured in, but that the potential of the other kid is much greater than yours... or maybe the other kid works harder, is more motivated, has a better attitude...etc. I don't know... just wondering aloud.

[10istalent]

Definitely not a question of talent. My kid plays a total of 6 hours a week for that is all we can afford. She was at player development for a short period. This other kid takes 4 hours of privates everyday. 1 before school and 3 after. Everyday! He also travels to every tournament. My daughter plays maybe 3 a year. She just plays a lot of locals, plays up in age and wins big. The boy cannot win in his own section and plays his own age group. Definitely not a talent question.

[10istalent]

At the supers my kid will win and play multiple rounds. At the big tournaments this kid has never won a single round at any. He goes to easier sections and wins. He is a point chaser who buys points.

[gplracer]

The point is this is just not how things are done. Have you spoken with the coach about this? If it were my child's coach I would have a discussion with him and the owner of the club.

[Number1Coach]

Originally Posted by 10istalent

Thanks for the advice. This is what my gut is telling me also. Change is hard after 3 years. We couldn't find arrangements because it was thanksgiving. Time to start making a plan.

move on get a fresh start and since your girl is not to happy with him now the chemistry will suffer , best to you and your girl

[Soianka]

Originally Posted by jigglypuff

Tough call for the coach, blue chip vs blue chip. Maybe it's not the money that's being poured in, but that the potential of the other kid is much greater than yours... or maybe the other kid works harder, is more motivated, has a better attitude...etc. I don't know... just wondering aloud.

Either way, the girl needs a coach who believes in her and is INVESTED in her.