Santa Brought Me... - Page 3

Sakkijarvi · 12-28-2012, 02:47 PM

A bottle of wine and amazing affection after everyone went home. Our usual. Who gives a chit about stuff?

Bowtiesarecool · 12-28-2012, 03:04 PM

Rechargable batteries, $50 card to the "I do my own remodeling" store, and some nookie from the wife. She got a Dr. Who t shirt in a refrigerator box.

Angle Queen · 12-28-2012, 04:38 PM

I got a Samsung Galaxy Tab 2 10.1 from the hubs and a can of tennis balls from each my two little girls (purchased with their own allowance money...they are 6 and 4-yrs old).

Guess which gift(s) I'll enjoy the most.

mikeler · 12-28-2012, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Angle Queen

I got a Samsung Galaxy Tab 2 10.1 from the hubs and a can of tennis balls from each my two little girls (purchased with their own allowance money...they are 6 and 4-yrs old).

Guess which gift(s) I'll enjoy the most.

Of course the Galaxy. Balls are dime a dozen. Those kids should know to borrow the money from Dad for your gifts by now. Just kidding, that is a neat story.

Angle Queen · 12-28-2012, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by mikeler

Of course the Galaxy. Balls are dime a dozen. Those kids should know to borrow the money from Dad for your gifts by now. Just kidding, that is a neat story.

Ha! Typing on the Tab now. The autofill is killin' me.

But my girls were so cute: they''re crap Wilson balls...but they made sure one bought "red" and the other "green"...for clay AND hard courts, Mommy!!

And "allowance" wasn't really the right term (they don't get one yet)....they earn it one quarter at a time helping with laundry and by unloading the dishwasher. Thems some expensive balls!

Rjtennis · 12-28-2012, 09:04 PM

I got two reel of string, a new starting clamp, a Nike shirt and shorts and a TW gift card. It was a happy tennis Xmas for me.

3fees · 12-29-2012, 06:38 AM

case of tennis balls

slice bh compliment · 12-29-2012, 07:37 AM

^Love that! The gift that keeps on giving!^

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Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

Yes, THAT family.

Did you catch NLBwell's remarks above about how a person's family can, erm, influence what they become when they marry?

It's true.

I got NLBWell's remarks. I probably missed your point.

My point was simply that when you get married, there's really no more this family and that family. It's family.

slice bh compliment · 12-29-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Sakkijarvi

A bottle of wine and amazing affection after everyone went home. Our usual. Who gives a chit about stuff?

Or wine for that matter!
Great post.

Cindysphinx · 12-29-2012, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by slice bh compliment

^Love that! The gift that keeps on giving!^

I got NLBWell's remarks. I probably missed your point.

My point was simply that when you get married, there's really no more this family and that family. It's family.

There's his family, my family, our family.

Say there is a problem or delicate interpersonal situation with his mother. I do not ever raise the issue with her. I raise it with husband, he raises it with his mother. Similarly, if my SIL has an issue with something I am doing, she raises it with my husband, who raises it with me.

If the problem is with my father, then my husband raises it with me and I address it with my father. And so forth.

Failing to observe these in-law conventions causes all sorts of trouble.

max · 12-29-2012, 08:23 AM

Oh, Cindy, that would never fly in my family. It would mean you lack the guts to talk directly to the person.

dizzlmcwizzl · 12-29-2012, 08:41 AM

No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist).

The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it.

mikeler · 12-29-2012, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Angle Queen

Ha! Typing on the Tab now. The autofill is killin' me.

But my girls were so cute: they''re crap Wilson balls...but they made sure one bought "red" and the other "green"...for clay AND hard courts, Mommy!!

And "allowance" wasn't really the right term (they don't get one yet)....they earn it one quarter at a time helping with laundry and by unloading the dishwasher. Thems some expensive balls!

That was a nice family pic you posted ever so briefly. Sounds like you had a great Xmas.

max · 12-29-2012, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzlmcwizzl

No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist).

The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it.

I'm not disagreeing at all; not making a comment on her method. I'm reporting ours.

It takes a certain kind of person in America in the Year 2012 to be willing to listen to criticism: too many people disregard it or take offense, rather than see it as an opportunity for improvement. So it goes.

slice bh compliment · 12-29-2012, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

... in-law conventions ....

I hear Vegas is a great place for in-law Conventions. So is New Orleans!

Maui19 · 12-29-2012, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzlmcwizzl

No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist).

The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it.

I agree with this. Good post.

Cindysphinx · 12-29-2012, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by max

I'm not disagreeing at all; not making a comment on her method. I'm reporting ours.

It takes a certain kind of person in America in the Year 2012 to be willing to listen to criticism: too many people disregard it or take offense, rather than see it as an opportunity for improvement. So it goes.

It's not about criticism, necessarily. It's an interpersonal relations thing that goes much deeper than that.

Say Mr. Sphinx's mom would like to come visit the grandchildren. She tells us she will be here one week. Say I feel like that visit is too long.

It would be a very bad idea for me to call Mr. Sphinx's mom and tell her four days is the max. The reason is that it would cause any insecurities to bubble up more than if Mr. Sphinx made that call. He knows the best way to phrase the "suggestion." She would feel most comfortable voicing her feelings to her son in whatever way she always has.

I'm not saying it always has to be this way. I do think sometimes people fail to recognize just how sensitive even small things can be in in-law relations. Especially once grandchildren arrive.

v-verb · 12-29-2012, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

....

OK, husbands. What say you? Did I do something wrong?

Nope not at all. Hopefully your Hubby has calmed down a bit and realized you did him a favor

hcb0804 · 12-29-2012, 04:27 PM

A candy apple red Mustang convertible.

floridatennisdude · 12-29-2012, 05:25 PM

Happy wife = happy life. She car shopped all day and ended up with a new ford explorer.

I played tennis all day. Two happy folks.

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dizzlmcwizzl Hall Of Fame Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: DE Posts: 1,710	No, I think Cindy has it right on this issue. I have learned over many years that people are not anxious to listen to to criticism unless they are already know the issue. Furthermore criticism should come from someone you are extremely close to (mom, sister) or from someone not close to you at all (boss, therapist). The biggest family problems occur when someone close, but not extremely close, makes a suggestion when the listener is not ready to hear it. __________________ "You should be playing linebacker, not singles."