Santa Brought Me...

[max]

Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

It's not about criticism, necessarily. It's an interpersonal relations thing that goes much deeper than that.

Say Mr. Sphinx's mom would like to come visit the grandchildren. She tells us she will be here one week. Say I feel like that visit is too long.

It would be a very bad idea for me to call Mr. Sphinx's mom and tell her four days is the max. The reason is that it would cause any insecurities to bubble up more than if Mr. Sphinx made that call. He knows the best way to phrase the "suggestion." She would feel most comfortable voicing her feelings to her son in whatever way she always has.

I'm not saying it always has to be this way. I do think sometimes people fail to recognize just how sensitive even small things can be in in-law relations. Especially once grandchildren arrive.

Cindy, I'm not giving you advice. You seem to be on the right path.

As my words set this forth, my comments were about MY family's communications. At no point did I recommend this to anyone. Take a look at what I wrote.

[Cindysphinx]

Originally Posted by max

Cindy, I'm not giving you advice. You seem to be on the right path.

As my words set this forth, my comments were about MY family's communications. At no point did I recommend this to anyone. Take a look at what I wrote.

No problem. I understood.

Happy New Year!!!

[michael_1265]

I got the Richmond tennis book. What's cool about it is many of the faces and names are familiar.

It makes me very thankful to live in a city where my favorite sport is highly valued.

[beernutz]

I got this shirt from my kids but I'm not sure I could actually wear it on court. I might get a few distraction points out of wearing it though.

[Cindysphinx]

Cool shirt. Wear it, man!

[AR15]

Originally Posted by beernutz

I got this shirt from my kids but I'm not sure I could actually wear it on court. I might get a few distraction points out of wearing it though.

I like it. And, when the ball is in front of you, it may take your opponent a moment longer to see it coming back at them.

[Maui19]

Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

Cool shirt. Wear it, man!

Yep!       

[JRstriker12]

Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

Cool shirt. Wear it, man!

That's a nice shirt. Definitely wear it!

[cknobman]

I did not get any tennis related items from Santa this year

But Santa did bring me a 18 year old bottle of Scotch!!!

[hobnob]

Wear it! lol, you might get a grievence during a match for hinderance b/c the ball may disappear if it is in anywhere near your shirt, but it would be awesome wouldn't it.

wear it for practice and test that theory out!

Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

Cool shirt. Wear it, man!

[axel89]

anyways i got a lacoste 58$ shirt andy roddick
got a fed 2012 ao polo
not bad

[Joeyg]

Originally Posted by beernutz

I got this shirt from my kids but I'm not sure I could actually wear it on court. I might get a few distraction points out of wearing it though.

Nice shirt! Did you get a free bowl of soup when you bought it? Hey...Looks good on you, though!

[sureshs]

Got myself a Motorola Droid Razr Max

[darrinbaker00]

My 25th Anniversary Head Prestige Midplus just arrived, strung with Head Sonic Pro 17 Black at 52 lbs. IT'S CLOBBERIN' TIME!!

[IA-SteveB]

Santa didn't being me anything tennis related. All I wanted was a new set of strings. This economy is hitting us everywhere.

[michael_1265]

Originally Posted by beernutz

I got this shirt from my kids but I'm not sure I could actually wear it on court. I might get a few distraction points out of wearing it though.

I have two just like it. At 6'4" and 250, I provide a large surface area to screen tennis balls, especially when I am at the net. Definitely wear it.

[catfish]

Originally Posted by Cindysphinx

Catfish, believe it or not, I have witnessed such behavior.

In the case I am thinking of, the individual who becomes upset generally feels unappreciated. This causes her to look for instances in which proper levels of appreciation are not shown. Christmas becomes an exercise in showing appreciation, which must take the form of expensive gifts that are exactly as the recipient wanted.

The funny thing, though, is the person I am thinking of is a huge shopper. She loves shopping herself, which means she owns everything and is impossible to buy for. She also doesn't think shopping is a huge chore, so if someone doesn't spend enough effort, well . . . this shows a lack of appreciation.

My sample size is just one, but it does explain how an adult acts out on Christmas day.

Happy New Year Cindy! And other Talk Tennis members.

I do know of one person who acts this way also. But she has a serious problem with alcohol, so I blame the behavior on the alcohol.

My husband and I exchanged gift cards this year.

[Cindysphinx]

Originally Posted by catfish

Happy New Year Cindy! And other Talk Tennis members.

I do know of one person who acts this way also. But she has a serious problem with alcohol, so I blame the behavior on the alcohol.

My husband and I exchanged gift cards this year.

Happy New Year to you also, Catfish!!

No USTA matches for me so far this year . . .