How to deal with EXTREME hooking?

[andfor]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

On a average week I consumed a 8-ball of coke -a -cola a week and anywhere from a 1/8 to a quarter once was my cigar habit "hint hint" and yes I did inhale ,

There are those who have read a lot on the Vietnam war they are called experts on the subject then you can talk to a "vet" and hear a master speak on the subject .

I think I have a little insight on the subject you can call me master.

Todd's dad was and idiot but what he did and what parents should do are very different and can work without having that type of fallout .

How was your drug use your parents fault?

[NLBwell]

Originally Posted by andfor

Chances are those kids are not on the radar of the coach receiving the valuable intel from the expert tennis insider/no-it-all who happens to be a booster with a lot of money. A smart coach would say to the guy, "yea thanks for the info, I won't recruit those guy because I trust you so much". Then the coach would ask when that next donation is coming in.

Come on...............

Exactly. But if it comes down to recruiting kid A, which would risk costing the tennis program $1,000,000 in future donations, or kid B, who is just as good (and there is always someone just as good), he'll go with kid B.

[andfor]

Originally Posted by NLBwell

Exactly. But if it comes down to recruiting kid A, which would risk costing the tennis program $1,000,000 in future donations, or kid B, who is just as good (and there is always someone just as good), he'll go with kid B.

The entire situation is all so unlikely.

[Number1Coach]

Originally Posted by andfor

How was your drug use your parents fault?

My parents like many focused on work "both of them", therefore quality time was left there for anyone who came across my path , also like so many parents they left it up to the public school system to raise me and teach me about what was safe and what my rights were against all who tried to get in the way of a lifestyle I was forming according to my own directions and guidence.

Now had my parents did their G-d given command and rights they would have made me a very important subject in their lives and made me the most important investment they had ,,,therefore any and all bad influences would have been fought off .

In return I like most would have started seeing the great boundrys they were placing around my life to protect me from the ugly hurricanes of life ,,these are the boundrys you place on your own life after years of screwing up.

Parents make and help sometimes break their children.

[andfor]

Originally Posted by Number1Coach

My parents like many focused on work "both of them", therefore quality time was left there for anyone who came across my path , also like so many parents they left it up to the public school system to raise me and teach me about what was safe and what my rights were against all who tried to get in the way of a lifestyle I was forming according to my own directions and guidence.

Now had my parents did their G-d given command and rights they would have made me a very important subject in their lives and made me the most important investment they had ,,,therefore any and all bad influences would have been fought off .

In return I like most would have started seeing the great boundrys they were placing around my life to protect me from the ugly hurricanes of life ,,these are the boundrys you place on your own life after years of screwing up.

Parents make and help sometimes break their children.

There's a degree of complexity. Thanks for explaining. In the end those choices are yours. With accusing one's own child of cheating and taking away tennis or some other deterrent measure is easier said than done. Show me a parent who says publicly his kid is a cheater, it will never happen. How parents deal with their kid cheating is usually handled privately. IMO kids obviously need to treat sportsmanship and fairness in tennis at the highest levels. Conversely, learning how to properly deal with a cheater is very important. Not only in tennis but life.