I am so sick of other juniors, they lack PERSONALITY!

[tonysk83]

I am so sick of most of the other juniors I know, just sort of know through group lessons, tournaments, other highschools, and hanging around the club. I think these kids have been the most sheltered kids their entire life because they are so god damn boring and have no personality at all. I will say something simple such as nice racquet and I will ask a question about it, and they get like embarassed and give me some short answer and don't want to talk anymore.

Not every kid I know is like this, some of them actually talk, understand what a joke is, and can actually carry out a conversation, but the majority of the like 25 kids in my group lessons are just the most boring kids ever. I hate to sterotype, because one of coolest kids in the class is Asian, but in general in my class, the Asian kids are the most shy, and are like afraid to talk to kids that aren't Asian. Then their are the kids who you can tell their parents have made every choice for them their entire lives and they can't do anything on their own, or their parents are always talking for them. I wish kids could lighten up and have some fun playing tennis these days instead of being so reserved and boring. I have played basketball, baseball, paintball, and football competitively and never had this same experience in these other sports.

/rant

[Ky0shiro]

Shouldn't this be in rants and raves? I don't really think they have no personality, you can't force someone to talk to you.

[Dashbarr]

i know exactly what you are talking about. it happens to me all the time. these kids need to go to a camp without mommy or daddy for a few months, see if they open up.

[raiden031]

Lets think about this. Most of the "cool", outgoing kids play more popular sports like baseball, basketball, football. I guess tennis is more of the loner sport because it ) requires less people and 2) keeps them away from kids that might make fun of them for being shy and not fitting in.

Its stupid arrogant kids that act like A-holes that give shy kids this inferiority complex.

[J-man]

Originally Posted by tonysk83

I am so sick of most of the other juniors I know, just sort of know through group lessons, tournaments, other highschools, and hanging around the club. I think these kids have been the most sheltered kids their entire life because they are so god damn boring and have no personality at all. I will say something simple such as nice racquet and I will ask a question about it, and they get like embarassed and give me some short answer and don't want to talk anymore.

Not every kid I know is like this, some of them actually talk, understand what a joke is, and can actually carry out a conversation, but the majority of the like 25 kids in my group lessons are just the most boring kids ever. I to sterotype, because one of coolest kids in the class is Asian, but in general in my class, the Asian kids are the most shy, and are like afraid to talk to kids that aren't Asian. Then their are the kids who you can tell their parents have made every choice for them their entire lives and they can't do anything on their own, or their parents are always talking for them. I wish kids could lighten up and have some fun playing tennis these days instead of being so reserved and boring. I have played basketball, baseball, paintball, and football competitively and never had this same experience in these other sports.

/rant

You know I know where your coming from. I know a couple of juniors and they are just boring and very shy. I a joke and they don't laugh or have a small chuckle and that's all. I only get into real conversations with a couple of junior players around my club

[Duzza]

It is because of the lack of "adult" tennis. You need to, as a junior, play once a week with adults and just joke around a bit.

[Tchocky]

Are you Asian? I'm Asian and I agree that most Asians are quiet and reserved. Most Asians don't have much personality....I'd have to agree with that.

[tonysk83]

No I am not Asian, but my tennis club has a lot of Asian kids. It seems like they are in general very shy or they only will hang out with other Asian kids. I once again hate to stereotype since I know some really cool Asian kids but in general Asian parents are pretty strict, and it seems like they give their kids less of a chance to have fun with friends and just grow up. I think in 1 or 2 generation we won't really see that as much with Asian parents after current Asian-American teenagers grow up and want their kids to have the normal life they never did.

Originally Posted by raiden031

Its stupid arrogant kids that act like A-holes that give shy kids this inferiority complex.

Maybe these kids need to grow up instead and not worry what other people think about them?

I definitely don't act like a dick to the kids I play with, but I like to joke around and have fun, but most of these kids are so damn stone faced its like they are afraid of being around other people.

[Voltron]

Originally Posted by raiden031

Lets think about this. Most of the "cool", outgoing kids play more popular sports like baseball, basketball, football. I guess tennis is more of the loner sport because it ) requires less people and 2) keeps them away from kids that might make fun of them for being shy and not fitting in.

Its stupid arrogant kids that act like A-holes that give shy kids this inferiority complex.

When people are arrogant around me, they tend to get hurt somehow. Actually there was this guy who bragged about how awesome he was constantly, so I tagged him at the net with a forehand. He was in high school and he almost cryed. That'll learn ya!!

[HLM2]

Im a junior who plays often and I would probably agree with you, however I think its more of the snobbish arrogant kids who think their better than everyone else that really annoys me. You do one little thing wrong around them, and they get huffy and puffy and get angry. I think you see this in tennis more often because its a lone sport and the parents are usually more rich and spoil their children.

[fishuuuuu]

Originally Posted by raiden031

Its stupid arrogant kids that act like A-holes that give shy kids this inferiority complex.

Wrong. It starts with where a kid is from, his family.

[Banger]

Originally Posted by Voltron

When people are arrogant around me, they tend to get hurt somehow. Actually there was this guy who bragged about how awesome he was constantly, so I tagged him at the net with a forehand. He was in high school and he almost cryed. That'll learn ya!!

Damn thats pretty funny.

[looseswing]

Originally Posted by HLM2

Im a junior who plays often and I would probably agree with you, however I think its more of the snobbish arrogant kids who think their better than everyone else that really annoys me. You do one little thing wrong around them, and they get huffy and puffy and get angry. I think you see this in tennis more often because its a lone sport and the parents are usually more rich and spoil their children.

I completely agree with you here. I hate those kids that put pressure on you for missing shots, especially the ones that angry if you are not playing at their level and they are better than you.

[tonysk83]

I have never played casually with a kid that was all high and mighty and thought he was amazing. In some tournaments I have gotten that attitude from a few kids, but usually that is when they are beating me 6-0, 5-0 in the last game

Honestly all the kids I meet playing tennis are either extremely boring and pretty big losers, or they are just nice, normal kids.

[Amone]

Originally Posted by fishuuuuu

Wrong. It starts with where a kid is from, his family.

Actually, psychological studies have shown that it isn't a child's family, but his (or her) peer group which affects their general disposition.

[looseswing]

Originally Posted by tonysk83

I have never played casually with a kid that was all high and mighty and thought he was amazing. In some tournaments I have gotten that attitude from a few kids, but usually that is when they are beating me 6-0, 5-0 in the last game

In the first round of a tourny one time as the my opponent and I were walking out to the courts we were talking a little and he goes "I hope your good, because I need a good warmup match for the next rounds." Too bad for him that I double bagled him (I am not crazy good at tennis, he just sucked).

[thejackal]

Originally Posted by looseswing

In the first round of a tourny one time as the my opponent and I were walking out to the courts we were talking a little and he goes "I hope your good, because I need a good warmup match for the next rounds." Too bad for him that I double bagled him (I am not crazy good at tennis, he just sucked).

He was maybe trying to psych you out. Good thing you called his bluff though.

[fishuuuuu]

Originally Posted by Amone

Actually, psychological studies have shown that it isn't a child's family, but his (or her) peer group which affects their general disposition.

Instinctive mother-child relationships have a great effect. Ambivilant infants and those not predispositioned for normalcy will tend toward this trend of shyness or rejection.

[tonysk83]

Originally Posted by looseswing

In the first round of a tourny one time as the my opponent and I were walking out to the courts we were talking a little and he goes "I hope your good, because I need a good warmup match for the next rounds." Too bad for him that I double bagled him (I am not crazy good at tennis, he just sucked).

Good stuff, I love kids like that because I like messing around with them and ******* them off. Cocky/arrogant kids usually have pretty short tempers, and if they are beating you, it is fun to mess around with them.

[donnyz89]

Originally Posted by tonysk83

I am so sick of most of the other juniors I know, just sort of know through group lessons, tournaments, other highschools, and hanging around the club. I think these kids have been the most sheltered kids their entire life because they are so god damn boring and have no personality at all. I will say something simple such as nice racquet and I will ask a question about it, and they get like embarassed and give me some short answer and don't want to talk anymore.

Not every kid I know is like this, some of them actually talk, understand what a joke is, and can actually carry out a conversation, but the majority of the like 25 kids in my group lessons are just the most boring kids ever. I hate to sterotype, because one of coolest kids in the class is Asian, but in general in my class, the Asian kids are the most shy, and are like afraid to talk to kids that aren't Asian. Then their are the kids who you can tell their parents have made every choice for them their entire lives and they can't do anything on their own, or their parents are always talking for them. I wish kids could lighten up and have some fun playing tennis these days instead of being so reserved and boring. I have played basketball, baseball, paintball, and football competitively and never had this same experience in these other sports.

/rant

totally agree with you. Tennis is just isnt an outgoing sport I guess. I know what you are talking about the asian deal too. Actually, most asian players I know are actually not that shy. However, in school, most of asian, especially chinese kids are very shy. But there are a few that are cool and fits in with anyone else but then the others just talks to other shy kids only... I have VERY few asian friends because they are all so shy and so sheltered. They are all raised under such strict "all A+" families and sheltered parents its boring talking and hanging with them. I can say all this because I personally am chinese. I've seen white kids parents and asian kids' parents, BIG difference in how they communicate... the way I see some asian kids being raised its sad...