Should You Shake Hands With An Opponent That Cheated?

[heninfan99]

I have a hard time shaking hands with a cheater. What do you guys do?

[deluxe]

You can always do a Rafa before you shake.

[PimpMyGame]

I always shake hands because there is no need to sink to their level.

I never smile or talk to them though!

[Fedace]

Well, i had experience with this just last weekend. It was in the playoff match. There were 2 really bad calls in the 3rd set tiebreaker nontheless. 1 on the topspin passing shot that my opponents let go cause they thought were going out and it landed on the baseline. and the other on the up the middle serve that was an Ace that they called out. We ended up winning the tiebreaker despite all this crazyness. but had we lost, probably we would have been much more upset. but i still would have shaken their hand,,, just cause it is the right thing to do.
but i also understood that this was the Playoffs and guys want to win very badly and badcalls can happen. Maybe they thought 2 very close linecalls that i made earlier in the set was In ??? I clearly saw them long cause i was standing right on the baseline but maybe from their perspective it looked in to them ? so my point is bad calls do happen.

[Fedace]

Also since this is the star trek summer. Always remember the vision of Gene Roddenberry. IN that One Man can make a difference in this world. Just cause so many guys cheat, it doesn't mean you have to sink to that level. ONE man can do the right thing and can make a difference in this world.

[heninfan99]

HAHAHA. Good one.

Originally Posted by deluxe

You can always do a Rafa before you shake.

[heninfan99]

I think The Count of Monte Cristo was as good as Star Trek.

Originally Posted by Fedace

Also since this is the star trek summer. Always remember the vision of Gene Roddenberry. IN that One Man can make a difference in this world. Just cause so many guys cheat, it doesn't mean you have to sink to that level. ONE man can do the right thing and can make a difference in this world.

[Fedace]

Originally Posted by heninfan99

"it's the right thing to do" is just not enough for me. I think The Count of Monte Cristo was as good as Star Trek.

OK, in that case, make sure you do the RAFA before you shake hands. Really dig that finger in there to make a good point with your opponents.......lol

[Steady Eddy]

I think that if you didn't shake, YOU would look bad to others, not the opponents. People wouldn't say, "That guy didn't shake, his opponents must have been bad cheats." More likely they'd say, "Look at the guy who wouldn't shake when he lost. What a bad sport." See what I mean?

[Fedace]

Originally Posted by Steady Eddy

I think that if you didn't shake, YOU would look bad to others, not the opponents. People wouldn't say, "That guy didn't shake, his opponents must have been bad cheats." More likely they'd say, "Look at the guy who wouldn't shake when he lost. What a bad sport." See what I mean?

I do know what you mean but it doesn't matter to me what other people think. What matters to me is that we do the Right thing.

[Sublime]

People always shake my hand after a match.

[rasajadad]

Yes, I'd shake his hand on the court. (Of course I'd kick his *ss in the parking lot.)

[120mphBodyServe]

No Way!!!!!!!!!

[goober]

Originally Posted by Fedace

I do know what you mean but it doesn't matter to me what other people think. What matters to me is that we do the Right thing.

hahaha good one...
Almost took you seriously until I remembered that all your posts are suppose to be jokes.

[Cindysphinx]

Originally Posted by Steady Eddy

I think that if you didn't shake, YOU would look bad to others, not the opponents. People wouldn't say, "That guy didn't shake, his opponents must have been bad cheats." More likely they'd say, "Look at the guy who wouldn't shake when he lost. What a bad sport." See what I mean?

Of course you shake hands. That is your opportunity to look this person in the eye and say exactly what you think.

If you have the guts, that is.

[TonLars]

A couple times, and its rare, ive run into some good players that also cheated me and I still reluctantly gave them a handshake quickly. I also told them what I thought about it. If I play these players again I will insist on an umpire for the match from the beginning or I wont play. One time I did not shake hands however, but it wasnt because of cheating. I wont shake hands with someone that is an absolute jerk to me on the court, and personally insults me or my family. Even one other time I did a quick hand touch with a guy that was like this, but the other time against the monster I did not. I won both matches also so that wasnt a factor in my decision I guess.

[Grover Sparkman]

Originally Posted by TonLars

A couple times, and its rare, ive run into some good players that also cheated me and I still reluctantly gave them a handshake quickly. I also told them what I thought about it. If I play these players again I will insist on an umpire for the match from the beginning or I wont play. One time I did not shake hands however, but it wasnt because of cheating. I wont shake hands with someone that is an absolute jerk to me on the court, and personally insults me or my family. Even one other time I did a quick hand touch with a guy that was like this, but the other time against the monster I did not. I won both matches also so that wasnt a factor in my decision I guess.

Wow, I've never run into anyone that was even remotely insulting towards me personally.

[MrCLEAN]

Only once. I was playing a social doubles match, and one of the opponents was a guy that I had teamed up w/ in doubles a few years earlier. We had a bit of a falling out due to some minor stuff (like me telling him to stop trying to serve like Sampras when he was serving for the tournament and missing wildly), he didn't like advice, even when he was costing us the match. In any case, I was serving to stay in the match, and he, very audibly, told his partner "don't worry, he'll choke" and crap like that. I didn't choke, but we did lose the game, and the match. I walked up there and basically told him off about who the choker was, and that him talking like that was BS. A few days later, he called and appologized for what he said. He was hypercompetitive, to a fault. We were cool after that.

[Steady Eddy]

Originally Posted by Grover Sparkman

Wow, I've never run into anyone that was even remotely insulting towards me personally.

When Brad Gilbert played Davey Wheaton, Wheaton's brother was there yelling at Gilbert about how he's gonna "kick his *****". You can read about it in "Winning Ugly", it's pretty amazing.

Originally Posted by MrCLEAN

He was hypercompetitive, to a fault.

Pun intended or not?

[canadave]

I think the answer to the original question depends. If the person MAYBE cheated, you're not sure, maybe there was a line call here or there....ehh...I think you have to shake hands. Sometimes we think people cheated and we just didn't have a good view of things ourselves. File this under "giving the opponent every benefit of the doubt."

On the other hand, if the guy was calling balls out that were two feet inside the line, all day, and was giving himself extra points during each game, and was being a poor sport to boot.....well, I wouldn't call it a handshake; I'd call it "grabbing the guy's hand so that he doesn't get away and I can tell him exactly what I thought of his f***** antics"