Sooo not happy.....

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 06:48 AM

So I lost my first USTA match in 3 seasons....And I don't like it. It was a mixed match and we played against a team that I've beaten the girl before so I knew we could take her. HOWEVER my guy counter part fell apart. He couldn't get a serve in he couldn't hit a forehand without hacking at it and he could only lob the backhand. I was clearly the stronger player on the court and I'm the girl (which doesn't normally happen). We went to a tie break in the 1st set and we lost 8-6 because my partner double faulted the last point. Well I assumed we would win the second because I always get better the longer I play, well apparently that wasn't the case for my partner. What do I do with him? He's about 52 yrs old whereas I'm 22 but he's the one who started me on tennis and helped me improve until finally I blew past him. I've told him what he should change because I can now see the flaws in his strokes and technique but he doesn't listen to me. Should I change partners?

GPB · 06-17-2010, 07:13 AM

tennis should be about fun. clearly you're having more stress than fun right now...

Kunohara · 06-17-2010, 07:16 AM

Play singles.

That way you can't blame your losses on somebody else.

tennis tom · 06-17-2010, 07:16 AM

YES, if you're cute I'll be your partner. You need a more mature and seasoned partner, not this green youngster, I'm 62. My condolences for your un-timely loss--but in double you do have a partner!

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by GPB

tennis should be about fun. clearly you're having more stress than fun right now...

I'm just super competitive, I have loads of fun playing tennis....when I'm winning

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Kunohara

Play singles.

That way you can't blame your losses on somebody else.

I'm not a big fan of singles plus doubles is most of the year anyway. I like playing with a partner so I can work with that person and change up my game to win.

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by tennis tom

YES, if you're cute I'll be your partner. You need a more mature and seasoned partner, not this green youngster, I'm 62. My condolences for your un-timely loss--but in double you do have a partner!

"Seasoned"? I like the way you put that haha. And I know I have a partner. I'm a purely doubles player so I know how to move with my partner but I can't play for both of us

Kunohara · 06-17-2010, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by PinkTennisNinja

I'm not a big fan of singles plus doubles is most of the year anyway. I like playing with a partner so I can work with that person and change up my game to win.

So then you're going to have to accept the fact that your partner isn't always going to play up to your standards.

That's the way it is.

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Kunohara

So then you're going to have to accept the fact that your partner isn't always going to play up to your standards.

That's the way it is.

I know that. And this thread was more or less a rant/help thread. Yeah I wanted to complain a little (I'm a girl that's what we do haha) but I kinda wanted to find out what I should I do in this case. I'm thinking I should just play up always instead of playing at my level.

slick · 06-17-2010, 08:12 AM

Spoiled princess alert.

Waaaa! I lost my first match in 3 years, waaaaa!

bodieq · 06-17-2010, 08:29 AM

Your partner probably started his own forum-thread about how you were the weak link, and you were the reason he lost the match, etc., etc.....

michael_1265 · 06-17-2010, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by PinkTennisNinja

So I lost my first USTA match in 3 seasons....And I don't like it. It was a mixed match and we played against a team that I've beaten the girl before so I knew we could take her. HOWEVER my guy counter part fell apart. He couldn't get a serve in he couldn't hit a forehand without hacking at it and he could only lob the backhand. I was clearly the stronger player on the court and I'm the girl (which doesn't normally happen). We went to a tie break in the 1st set and we lost 8-6 because my partner double faulted the last point. Well I assumed we would win the second because I always get better the longer I play, well apparently that wasn't the case for my partner. What do I do with him? He's about 52 yrs old whereas I'm 22 but he's the one who started me on tennis and helped me improve until finally I blew past him. I've told him what he should change because I can now see the flaws in his strokes and technique but he doesn't listen to me. Should I change partners?

If this is the first match you've lost in three years, then you are not playing at level. Move up a level, and rise to the challenge. And learn how to lose gracefully.

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by slick

Spoiled princess alert.

Waaaa! I lost my first match in 3 years, waaaaa!

You didn't have to read my post. You didn't have to post anything yourself. Go read a different post if you didn't like mine.

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by michael_1265

If this is the first match you've lost in three years, then you are not playing at level. Move up a level, and rise to the challenge.

Not three years, I've only been playing for 2 yrs. 3 "seasons" = fall combo, spring and mixed. That's really only about 9 months (on and off) and I got bumped up after that first season and I'm playing up now.

raiden031 · 06-17-2010, 09:26 AM

Play your partner in singles, if you win ditch him. If you lose, then figure out what you need to do to be a better partner.

LeeD · 06-17-2010, 10:06 AM

Long ago and far away, I was partnered with a girl who was favored to win the open singles in a local touney. Not my doing, I don't play mixed. We went to the finals, as expected, wherein I got lost in the eyes of the opposing girl. I fell apart, walked about, and we lost straight sets. My partners almost throws her racket at me, and to this day, won't look in my eyes or talk to me.
I dated my opposition girl for 3 months, found out she was hidden materialistic, and got dumped.

JRstriker12 · 06-17-2010, 10:38 AM

You lost one match in three seasons??

Boohoo!!!!

Yeah it stinks to lose some time, but even Nadal and Federer lose. So it's no big deal. I doubt you'll get alot of sympathy on this point.

However, I can sympathize with playing with a partner that you feel can't hold up their end. Odds are if the guy is 52 and he taught you tennis and you are now better than he is, I doubt anything you have to say to him is going to boost his game suddenly.

You may also want to examine your role in the loss as it takes two to tango and the first set was very close (8-6).

If you don't like the play of your partner, find a new and better partner if your only goal is to win.

If you don't mind having fun and risking a loss or two while playing with a friend that taught you the game, then pair up for a match every once in a while. There's no rule that you are shackled to play with your friend for life.

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by LeeD

Long ago and far away, I was partnered with a girl who was favored to win the open singles in a local touney. Not my doing, I don't play mixed. We went to the finals, as expected, wherein I got lost in the eyes of the opposing girl. I fell apart, walked about, and we lost straight sets. My partners almost throws her racket at me, and to this day, won't look in my eyes or talk to me.
I dated my opposition girl for 3 months, found out she was hidden materialistic, and got dumped.

Wow haha I didn't throw my racquet at him, I didn't even let him or the opposition know I was not happy. I hide my emotions very well. And I still talk to him too, it's not life or death, it's just frustrating.

What is it about girls being materialistic?? I've actually met quite a few of them haha

Cindysphinx · 06-17-2010, 10:51 AM

Anyone can have an off day -- even a guy in mixed. When that happens, there is next to nothing you can do. Just try to make sure your own play is as good as you can make it and hope he finds his mojo.

Trust me, the day will come when you will be having trouble with your mojo and you'll want your partner to be patient.

(And whatever you do, don't offer this fellow *any* pointers or tips or critiques. This will probably only make him self-conscious or worse.)

PinkTennisNinja · 06-17-2010, 10:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JRstriker12

You lost one match in three seasons??

Boohoo!!!!

Yeah it stinks to lose some time, but even Nadal and Federer lose. So it's no big deal. I doubt you'll get alot of sympathy on this point.

However, I can sympathize with playing with a partner that you feel can't hold up their end. Odds are if the guy is 52 and he taught you tennis and you are now better than he is, I doubt anything you have to say to him is going to boost his game suddenly.

You may also want to examine your role in the loss as it takes two to tango and the first set was very close (8-6).

If you don't like the play of your partner, find a new and better partner if your only goal is to win.

If you don't mind having fun and risking a loss or two while playing with a friend that taught you the game, then pair up for a match every once in a while. There's no rule that you are shackled to play with your friend for life.

I'm not exactly shackled but that friend happens to be my dad which means if I switch to a different partner more than likely he will get his feelings hurt. I like his play but he's been slowing down lately and I need him to pull it back together and get with the program haha. I don't need fast or pretty or winners I just need away from the net man and in haha

06-17-2010, 06:48 AM	#1
PinkTennisNinja Rookie Join Date: May 2010 Location: Mississippi Posts: 217	Sooo not happy..... So I lost my first USTA match in 3 seasons....And I don't like it. It was a mixed match and we played against a team that I've beaten the girl before so I knew we could take her. HOWEVER my guy counter part fell apart. He couldn't get a serve in he couldn't hit a forehand without hacking at it and he could only lob the backhand. I was clearly the stronger player on the court and I'm the girl (which doesn't normally happen). We went to a tie break in the 1st set and we lost 8-6 because my partner double faulted the last point. Well I assumed we would win the second because I always get better the longer I play, well apparently that wasn't the case for my partner. What do I do with him? He's about 52 yrs old whereas I'm 22 but he's the one who started me on tennis and helped me improve until finally I blew past him. I've told him what he should change because I can now see the flaws in his strokes and technique but he doesn't listen to me. Should I change partners?

06-17-2010, 09:26 AM	#15
raiden031 Legend Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 5,997	Play your partner in singles, if you win ditch him. If you lose, then figure out what you need to do to be a better partner. __________________ There's no place for pushers in doubles. Federer leads 5-4 against Nadal on non-clay surfaces.

06-17-2010, 10:38 AM	#17
JRstriker12 Hall Of Fame Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,244	You lost one match in three seasons?? Boohoo!!!! Yeah it stinks to lose some time, but even Nadal and Federer lose. So it's no big deal. I doubt you'll get alot of sympathy on this point. However, I can sympathize with playing with a partner that you feel can't hold up their end. Odds are if the guy is 52 and he taught you tennis and you are now better than he is, I doubt anything you have to say to him is going to boost his game suddenly. You may also want to examine your role in the loss as it takes two to tango and the first set was very close (8-6). If you don't like the play of your partner, find a new and better partner if your only goal is to win. If you don't mind having fun and risking a loss or two while playing with a friend that taught you the game, then pair up for a match every once in a while. There's no rule that you are shackled to play with your friend for life. __________________ Ludacris: My chick bad! Tell me if you seen her. She always brings the racket like Venus and Serena!

06-17-2010, 10:51 AM	#19
Cindysphinx G.O.A.T. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 14,082	Anyone can have an off day -- even a guy in mixed. When that happens, there is next to nothing you can do. Just try to make sure your own play is as good as you can make it and hope he finds his mojo. Trust me, the day will come when you will be having trouble with your mojo and you'll want your partner to be patient. (And whatever you do, don't offer this fellow any pointers or tips or critiques. This will probably only make him self-conscious or worse.) __________________ -- Random Error Generator, Version 4.0 -- Master Moonballer

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