ShooterMcMarco
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Ahem! Maybe it's because:
a) 99% of the time, a random dude who comes up to you and talks to you uninvited IS just trying to get in your pants, whether he knows it or not;
So would you rather have a dude be indirect and try to get in your pants or be direct about it? Personally I would rather not waste my time and play ridiculous games. At first sight, attraction is largely physical, especially so for men, you have to understand that. By that same token, I bet you would rather have a man who looks like Brad Pitt than a guy that looks like Bill Gates approach you uninvited.
b) most of the guys who are just "friendly and outgoing and stuff" are actually priming you for their eventual "strong move";
I'm curious as to what happens when a genuinely friendly and outgoing guy approaches you; I guess you put up a shield and test him?
c) it's embarrassing, esp. if you're out with your male friends, when some ********* or another gets up in your grill (trying to get in your pants), so you try to nip the situation in the bud from the get-go; and
I guess you must be attracting some socially un-savvy men, because they should know that they need to win the group over before the girl
d) you've had to shut down a short parade of losers already in one night, so the next guy that talks to you gets the quick and brutal blow-off because you just don't want to deal with one more stupid conversation with some *********, period, and you don't give him a chance to demonstrate that he is not, in fact, trying to get in your pants. Tough luck for you both.
Sounds like you get validation for your ego being to shut down these men.
Now a question for you:
When I actually *do* get into a decent conversation with a guy I don't really know, and I genuinely CAN'T tell whether he's hitting on me, I am torn between two options:
1) mentioning my boyfriend, just so that he knows that I'm spoken for and therefore I cannot be accused of leading on or teasing
--or--
2) not mentioning him, because I don't want the guy to get all cranky thinking I assumed he was hitting on me, and thus ruin our conversation and any fun we could have had.
Mention it.