.... (sorry for such a long post, but for those patient, I guarantee you will encounter something very strange, almost endemical!)
first match I played against a guy I beat 4 times in a row. In friendly best of 3 matches, yes, but every match was withouth calculations, although it wasnt competitive.
I felt like a favorite and that's how I started - 6:0 i first set! And then, something strange happened. He totally changes his gameplan, but I started to fall appart in few deuce-ad games.
I was serving first in second set, got easy to 30:00, and felt almost like an urge to absolutely have to win that first game, to continue to pressure opponent!! And then I lost that service game after 30:00 up!
***** started exactly here.
Only one freaking game was enough for me to lost confidence?? After all those great matches.
Ok, I had a gameplan. It didnt work that day, cause my opponent started to play different after 4 losses and 0:6 at the start of fifth match.
We went to 3rd set (actually we overrided to rules of our competition - in case of 1:1 in sets, championship tiebreak (best of 10 pts) is to be played - we consulted and decided to play the whole 3rd set instead and to keep it between us ).
I had one break of serve at the very beggining of the set and kept it until *5-4, my first attempt to serve it out. I remember being physicaly crushed in that 3rd set, with cramps all over me. But somehow I managed to keep the advantage. until that 5-4 game. Got broken to 15, but immediately I made a rebreak for *6-5.
There i had one match point, opponent misshit forhend, it landed short, unexpected, I was too late, gave op an easy shot, deuce, bp, break...
- and finally i lost the match in 3rd set tie break, 3-7!!!!!
Mentally I was devastated to loose such a match after all the leads and all the matches I won before. He played great, no doubt, but I just couldnt get pass the feeling I was the one who ****ed it up.
the second match, the very next match, looked like this:
6-2 for me in the first set, total dominance with agressive baseline shots at his weak side (backand), and suddenly my physic level dropped - he was all over me, I was defending, not attacking, he took the second set, and we went into a supertiebreak. At 6-4 for me he hit a miracle shot at the line, good for him, and then I started to do things I still havent stoped doing. Not even 3 months later!
I started dropshoting afters his weak weak second serve, giving him easy finishes with forhend. I got totally STIFF and scared, and ofcourse - he took all points till the end of game - 6:10 loss!
Another one hard mental hit for me, and not only that, now it was becoming obvious I wont win title that month.
Big disappointment
My third match:
match against a player I have played MOST in this competition, we know each other very well, but still i had + h2h. As expected, it was a hard match, we went to yet another 3rd set-supertiebreak - and I had 8:6, serve and easy high forhend volley to put it away for 3 mps. I missed, started to panic, chokes, push, forhend slice and - he lost 10:12
Now I was psy. devastated.
My fourth match:
16 bad start, 62 second set I started to feel my shots finally. But opponent is most experienced player of the league, master of supertiebreaks, he got an big early lead (6:0), but I somehow managed to creep to 9-8 and at that point, I missed a relatively easy backand frome the middle of the court!
This was first match I didnt waste any leads, but still I lost another close tiebreaker!!
I ended the month 0-4 with 4-8 in sets, it was a little comfort, cause I dropped one level, to 2nd league.
The next month i played there and my problems continued:
first match i played again vs player I played first match the month before. Guess what, I lost 67 63 3-10, eventhough I had break of serve THREE TIMES in first set (I even had 5-3 *30-00, but still lost the set)!!
Then i managed to win 10-5 the second match, but I should'nt have even put myself into position to play CTB against that oppponent!
Third match: again that guy that knows me great, he won 16 67, I had some phys. issues in first set, felt some strange weakness, in 2nd I was better, had a lot of advantages, breaks, event set points (!!), but still lost. At least it wasnt in a CTB, but it was another close match - and another loss.
Fourth match was a walkover, and I earned a position that beacuse of set ratio granted me stay in 2nd league.
Third month - 2nd league again:
first match - 63 easy cruise in frist set, Im agressive, I do everything that is good. But lost the second, my level dropped, physicaly most... And yet another CTB! Now I was determined not to lose again. And got to 8-4 lead!! Had two great points in which I only had to put away forhends, but ****ed it up. Opponent greatly retrieved those shots, it was 8-6, i paniced, he hit winner at the baseline at 9-8, and once again i lost - 10:12!!!!!
second match - easy win 62 63 against a player that isnt experienced enough. I was a clear fav in that match!
third match - and once again I play a match against my friend that I played in two earlier months. And one more time he was better. But this was very very hard to forgett
I crushed him 61 in first set, and had FOUR BREAKS in second. Each time I was positive now i have him, his finished. And every time I was making funny mistakes, not tipical for me. Lost the set in tiebreak and totaly started to panic - he was only pushing the ball back, a lot of moonballs, I was very tyred and mostly - scared to lose against him ONE MORE TIME. And to lose another Supertiebreak. And that's exactly what happened. 5:10!!!
fourth match - 62 61, great performance by me, mostly cause I knew i was better than opponent, was clear fav once again.
And finally - this month:
first match: playing against that very expierienced guy from the first month, a pusher, but no clasical pusher - he is very agressive with BH slice, and has great volley skills!
In first set i was playing wrong tactics and got very tired, accomplishing nothing in long rallies with the guy that lives from those! 36!
In second I released my backand, I become very hot, went up 4-0*, had FOUR (!!!) break points for *5-0... and guess what... lost the set 5-7?!?!?
Important note: I was very very nervous in that match from the very start, was panicing, yelling, throwing racket all over the place...
second match, the other day:
now I am playing in 1st league again (forgot to mention earlier), and my opponent is one of 3 best players currently in comeptition, probably 2nd best! He is very agressive, has great technique on forhend, puts a lot spin on it and is very exhausting to play against!
But yet, I played great tactics, and great in most terms. Still, he won a very very close first set (67). In second he got break at 2-2, served for match at 5-4, it was big fight, I think I saved 5-6 match points fighting HARD HARD... and managed to rebreak, serve out, break again and carve out another supertibreak!!
I played some really great tennis there and went up to 9-5!!
I was overwhelmed with the score. Almost as I couldnt believe that Im on the verge of win against one of the most respected players in our league!!!!
And first thing I thought about "No, you cant lose this! This would be to much even for you!!"
Guess what?? I lost. After that point, it was like someone turned me off electricity - I shut down, i paniced in each shot, produced some very very strange shots, totaly unfocused, unconcetrated....
and lost 9-11!!!!!!!
Yet another nail in my chest
The biggest!
So, as you can obviously see - I am big choker, big panicer, I have big fear of supertiebreakers, and losses. I know Im worth much more than so many losses this winter, I know in some spots I deserved more luck...
...but at the very end, it is not coincidence I lost all of those in such a similar choking way.
It is mentally killing me, honestly, im getting a bit disguisted with tennis cause all of this and cant know how to overcame this obstacle.
Please help